I can't beleive I'm coming out and asking this.
I feel so stupid.
I'm 18 years old, girl, and I think I'm bi, well know I'm bi, for now.
I'm with a girl that's 16, we've been off and on for 2 years.
She's mad because I won't tell my friends.
I feel like I shouldn't be with her, but I love her, a lot.
I feel so stupid lately, like I messed up bad, but I don't know what to do about it.
Should I just change my number and try to deal with the fact that I shouldn't be with a girl, it was wrong.
Or what should I do?
2007-12-13 07:36:10 · 10 answers · asked by cOnFuSeD 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thank you all for your answers
I wish you understood how much this is helping me
2007-12-13 07:45:12 · update #1
Yeah I live in the bodunk rural Idaho
Age isn't the problem here legally
Morally it may be
But IDK, thanks for all your answers
I'm gonna fix this
2007-12-13 07:50:30 · update #2
Hell no! You haven't messed up and you shouldn't be trying to 'deal' with the fact that you shouldn't be with a girl and it wasn't wrong. You shouldn't be trying to change yourself.
It not ever easy to admit your sexual preferences - it takes many people years to even come to terms with it themselves, let alone telling everyone. You should do that in your own sweet time. It's possible though that the fact that no-one knows about the two of you makes her feel insecure and alone, but if you communicate openly to her about your fears and give her assurance of your love for her, and tell her that your unwillingness to tell your friends has nothing to do with your relationship or who she is, hopefully she'll understand.
If you love her, try to keep her.
2007-12-13 07:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her. She loves you. Why break up. Jus cuz you scared of coming out? Look ok this is a major decision you must make: loose the girl you love and change your number or come out to your parents.
You gonna have to face reality because she's hurting at the fact that you want to hide the relationship you should feel proud of.she has every right to be angry at you. This has been going on for about two years. Ad I get that your scared and feel pressured but really any relationship you have in the future with a girl will end similar to this. Plus you life will be so at peace once you come out. Think real hard about it.
2007-12-13 07:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check it out u said u luv this chic so therfore if u change ya number and just block her out like that you will only be hurting yourself do to the fact that you have feelings for her and further more who said that the thing between yall is wrong you must have liked something you been with her for 2 years off and on. Come on get with the program, plus its like you dont even care about the chic feelings you shouldnt do this keep ya relationship but look if like boys more and u are certain then you can leave her but it sounds to me that U LIKE GURLS GET OVER IT AND BE WITH HER HAVE A GREAT DAY")
2007-12-13 07:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Moonglow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since there's only 2 years different, I'm sure the Judge will consider than in your sentencing. Because unless the legal age happens to be 16 in your state, your in dangerous territory. Just be yourself, if that means coming out, come out. I mean seriously, so what if your Bi or Gay, its no ones business but yours. Also, you sound kind of resentful of your girlfriend trying to 'out you.' Doesn't sound like a great match if your this paranoid. No matter what you decide, good luck!
2007-12-13 07:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? Why is it a problem to be in love? Go with what you feel and not with what society stands for, k? If you're in love, than embrace it, cuz it's not so easy to find. You're young, so either way, you'll be fine with time, but don't give up on love for what other people think. :) It's not fair to you or to the person you love.
2007-12-13 07:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're technically an adult, you shouldn't have any type of sexual relationship with any minor. Wait until she's of age and if you two love each other you two will still be there. This way both of you will be protected. Good luck. 2D
2007-12-13 07:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she pressures you,
i think the best thing is to tell her that you feel controlled or something.
Sounds like it, if your uncertain, in the meantime try and attempt to find someone else.
Keep the number, whats the point to ignore it, bottle-ing things up dont help darlin! :(
if you wana chat, ask away!
2007-12-13 07:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'll tell you its like this gay relationships never last very long and you will need those friends when its over, Then again if they are really your friends they will be OK with it.. Keep in mind it is your decision not your gf.
2007-12-13 07:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by larry B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be with that person you love - girl or boy. Why do you worry? Are you embarassed of your own feelings?
2007-12-13 07:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by ShlomoNYC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are a lesbo and your ''girlfriend is not the problem! You are the problem because you are a lesbo! It is not good if you are a lesbo! In the bible it says that if girls have sex with girls then you will burn in hell! But ... if u were born a lesbo then u will not burn in hell! But if you r straight and just decide to be a lesbian one day.. then you will burn in hell! You need to read the new king james international version bible!
2007-12-13 07:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kit Kittredge 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋