Got you a Christmas present this year? My husband lost his job a few days ago and has said he could not buy me anything and has asked for me not to buy him anything. So would you be mad come to find out Christmas morning that your wife got you a gift anyways?
2007-12-13 07:34:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby and I agreed not to do Christmas gifts one year and then I got him something and he later told me that he felt really bad about that-so mad no ---sad or bad yes
2007-12-13 09:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it might be a good idea to be extra practical in a present. Something that means more than it costs. A small gift with a big meaning. That's usually the real reasong behind the extreme-frugality when money is tight. Deep down, he would still want some token of gift. Just go very practical in terms of spending money, and add lots of love: for free!
2007-12-13 07:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that wouldn't be good for him. It'll make him feel bad.
Sit down with him and agree on an amount that the two of you can spend. Tell him you're gonna get him something and if he doesn't set a limit, you'll do whatever you want. If he says $5 bucks then keep it to that. But yes you don't want to just get nothing. Each of you can spend a buck or five bucks or $20 bucks or something. Talk to him about it. Otherwise you might have some bad feelings on Christmas and you don't want that.
2007-12-13 07:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make him something instead. Maybe a photo collage of better times. Or a gift book full of coupons of things you'll do for him - like "20 min back rub", "I'll do the dishes tonight", etc.
It sounds like he's serious about not receiving anything. He most likely feels guilty and bad about himself. If you get something for him, he'll feel even worse about himself. So, don't spend 'money' on the gift. Spend your time instead.
2007-12-13 07:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by kate K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that little something was my wife naked under the christmas tree with a big red bow tied around her waist....But if she actually spent money and got me a small gift no I would appreciate the thought!!!
2007-12-13 07:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. But if you're working and he's not then there could be some ego bruising if you did that. It's a real blow to the machismo to be out of work when your wife isn't -- there's that whole provider stereotype men buy into.
2007-12-13 07:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by oscarthegrouch 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be feeling kinda sad because I couldn't get you something,,but I wouldn't be mad. Then again I would try to make something up for you,,like a dinner or a cake or your favorite dish. And on the next holiday (Valentine's,) I would be sure I pamper you.
2007-12-13 07:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i would be mad because it will make him feel less then a man for not having you something (it's man thang) but it's a good thing because if he doesn't feel that way, 9 times out of 10, he doesn't care. You would be better off just going out to dinner.
2007-12-13 07:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Can you hold onto it until he gets back to work? Then you could have your own special x-mas together when he can get something for you.
Maybe you two could come up with something to do for each other this x-mas rather than buy things.
Yoda out
2007-12-13 07:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, but I may feel a bit ashamed if I couldn't give one in return. Might I suggest that you give him the gift now instead of at Christmas and tell him its not a Christmas gift, but simply a gift because you love him.
2007-12-13 07:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by rahkokwee 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋