You know how when you are single and dating, one day you decide you are ready to settle down with one person? That's how I feel right now, but I am already married. I just feel single and lonely. I'm just not getting the attention that I need. Is this normal to feel this way sometimes during the course of marriage? Or is this a problem. I mean, I catch myself checking out other men and having a "single" frame of mind. I haven't acted on anything, but I've told my husband that I need more attention. He's had a history of infidelity, so I can't help to think that maybe it is going on again- causing him to be distant and inattentive. Maybe I have too many problems, huh?
2007-12-13 07:33:04 · 7 answers · asked by emily1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The 7-Year Itch! Exactly!! So this is what it's all about?
2007-12-13 07:39:32 · update #1
You sound normal to me.
Marriages do rise and fall. But let's make sure yours doesn't fall completely.
How did you tell him you need more attention? Hopefully, it was more than just that. Give him specific tasks that he can do that will make you feel like you're getting more attention. Tell him that these things will make you feel HAPPY and LOVED. This is what he'll understand.
Don't let him try to figure out what to do. He's a guy and needs to be trained first before it becomes automatic.
2007-12-13 07:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about. It is difficult to advise you though. I'll just tell you what I think. I think that if you are feeling lonely in your marriage is because your husband is neglecting you. This is not normal, it is usually a sign that something is causing him to disconnect from you. If he is neglecting you and he has a history of cheating, chances are that he might be cheating right now or in the cheating mindset. You don't say if he cheated on you though. If he did, you shouldn't be with him now. If he didn't perhaps you should see how he does now that you have told him you need more attention. If he loves you he will try to make you happy. However, I sense your intuition is talking to you. Listen.
Good luck.
Also, I don't agree with Vitiran's opinion. If he loves you he will figure out a way to make you happy without your instructions. You shouldn't have to work that hard and tell him what to do. Men are capable of amazing things *when they want*. Your job should be to listen and observe. If you don't like what you see I recommend you leave him.
2007-12-13 15:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's probably time to move on. If he's cheated in the past and now you feel lonely again, it's not worth it to cheat too. You would just be sinking down to his level, just leave him before it happens...
2007-12-13 15:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that your prepairing yourself for a single life in case your husband leaves you then you know your ready to date once more. Honey... it's time to let your husband go and move on with your life as he already has.
2007-12-13 15:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usually where you have an affair, get a boob job, workout, get a tan, and then buy some adult toys to pass the time away.
2007-12-13 15:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperate and sow some wild oats!
2007-12-13 17:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do. Just get up and go. Put an end to this because you aren't accomplshing squat telling everyone here about it.
2007-12-13 15:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋