This january would be 2 years since My husband and I would be married and I am to the point that I cant stand his ways anymore. Icant believe it went from sprung to this.
We argue every or every other day. He swears, curse, calls me names, like fool, ****. He's just disrespectful.
It gets so bad that Im doing and say the sames things back to him and I just dont want my daughter to pick up these things or hear them.(she's 10 months) And you do things for them.
I just want him to leave me, but everytime I tell him its best we separte, he treaten me, by saying stuf like:-
* Go and leave my daughter
* or I will have to deal with him and his people if I do that
I got a divorce application but Im not working now (on mat leave) and I cant afford a lawyer and I read on the application you need to be separted for a year before a divorce. It hurts to say this but I just want him out of my life. I hate when we make it because then it starts over again.
What cant I do?
2007-12-13 07:22:25 · 13 answers · asked by Sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u definitely need a plan, contact your legal aide office, see if they can offer financial help. if u have family that can help u out and provide u with a place until u can get a job, it might help. if he is calling u names and disrespects u, it isn't worth staying and being miserable.
2007-12-13 07:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that's why you never marry someone because you get sprung. That is just infatuation not love! I'm sorry that he acts like an ******* towards you. The best thing for you to do is tell him your tired of his ways you will be there for your baby but he's just not what you want anymore. Tell him seasons change and people do too. He'll understand if he don't than what the hell with him everybody got a right to who they wanna be with. He is probably cheating anyway if he calls you names. People only hate their partners when they have something new. So sign those divorce papers and just take care of the baby.
2007-12-13 07:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please call an abuse shelter. He sucks. Neither you nor your daughter need this crap. Men like him rarely change, and if they do, it is because they finally realize their stupid behavior has ruined their life. Make sure you check out the abuse sites on the net and take serious precautions, such as a protection for harrassment order from family court, a protection from abuse order from criminal court, get a counselor, support and an advocate. The time after you leave is the most dangerous, so make sure you are not in contact with him, do not follow your usual routine, etc. Stop fighting with him. You do not have to react just because he acts out. You take your daughter and you take a time out until he can act like a human being. Neither you nor she should be around put-downs, yelling, swearing, etc. How hideous. Call the abuse shelter. They will help you work out the details on how to get out, get safe, and stay on your feet. I don't know what state you are in, but there is help available, promise.
2007-12-13 07:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a way too get out off this kind off marriage,which you need too do asap,for the safety off yourself and your child,,,,you will clearly qualify for legel aid,,, is there a relative you and your child can stay with,you say it is verbal abuse,but it is only time before it starts too get a more dangerous situation,,you say your daughter is 10 months well believe me she will be picking up on things,for your safety and your daughters get out n get out now,,,,all the luck in the world too you,,,where you ask what you cant do,,the only thing is to not too make it with him,you are just playing into his hands,and please say you are taking precautions,im sure you would love another child but not with him,,,,,,the ball is in your court honssss,leave and get the ball rolling,go see lawyer ask about legal aid,and you will see the help you can get,xxxx
2007-12-13 07:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its gotten to verbal abuse then its time to leave expecally if hes threatening you. Have you guys tryed councling? Well I would take your daughter and move out when hes at work. Don't tell him when your going to do it or you are even thinking of it just do it without him knowing. Make sure you have your daughter at a friends house or parents house to be watched and have few friends helping you move just in case he shows up and get angry or abusive. You can try to get on state assistances and welfare. Call the county and they will direct you in the right direction on how to get help. Some places assist women and children of battered and abusive women with living and food. Call the county. Good luck.
2007-12-13 07:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bluemomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with him and his people. Oh my...what a man. Needs a couple of homies to thump up his wife does he? Tell me...how'd you get involved with this wanna-be gangster punk anyway? Was it the "I like a bad boy" type romance? Nice to see the relationship bore fruit. Now there's a 10 month old victim involved. And THAT is the real innocent here.
2007-12-13 07:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day when he is at work leave but act if nothing is wrong go about your day the way you would and we he is gone and you know that he is then get you stuff and leave go to someone house that you know he won't find you believe i have done it and he may say you have to deal with his people but that is your daughter you had her and she goes with you everywhere just as she did when you where caring her for 9 months. just leave it is not right for your baby to go that and see her mommy and daddy frighting everyday becasue they know when there is tention in a marrige.
LEAVE ONE DAY
2007-12-13 07:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by ga_el_mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being selfish. You are putting yourself before your child. Leave. There is plenty of aid for people in your situation. Separate today. Your child will look back and resent you for not helping her when you had the chance to.
2007-12-13 08:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lady calm down for a while!! just relax, deep breath, if u love Ur baby & u dnt wana loose her than u should compromise, if he is not understanding than u should understand, u just need patience... when he says something abusive , dont reply him, just keep urself silent, try to keep urself busy in his presence, avoid arguing... dnt start those things & those topics that starts all this... give him love & respect & i m sure he ll give u in return... but if u dnt care much about baby & u think he can take care of baby better than just leave him..
2007-12-13 07:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, Leave the man and take good care of your daughter.
2007-12-13 07:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋