Do you think marriage is for a lifetime?

Question

or a trial/error thing, where if you don't find the right spouse the first time, you can always get divorced and try again?

Answer 1

A lifetime

Answer 2

Marriage should be a lifetime thing because there is no sense in "setting yourself aside from all others" if you are only going to break that vow once it dawns on you the marriage is not going to work. A couple should be ready for marriage, both emotionally and practically, and they should know what they want/need in a spouse and marry into that. They should realize that extended family is part of the package too, and even though they may not be best friend with the mother-in-law, for example, they should understand that that person has a relationship to their spouse and should learn to be comfortable with that; otherwise it creates a gap that will only be widened throughout the marraige.

People should not get married until they are finished with college, or if they choose not to go, then they should have a fulltime job that actually pays enough to sustain a family. Desite what the song says, love is not all you need, granted it should be the reason why there is going to be a marriage, but if a couple doesn't take into consideration the practical sense of a long-term relationship/commitment; income, housing, childcare, parenting, etc., and even if they don't have kids right away, there is a lot that needs to be compromised and things need to "just work".

The reason why more than half of American marriages end up in devource court, is because couples don't take the practical into consideration in marriage. They get married because it is something that "just happened" or they had some sort of dependency on one another, or maybe the sex life wasn't all that great, so they have affairs and the marriages fall apart. That's why people need to be ready to be married and accept that the person that they are swearing to "have and to hold...in sickness and in health...", is their husband/wife for life, and that should be a commitment that doesn't fall through, otherwise, they didn't really mean that vow, and therefore, they must have not loved their fiance as much as they thought, they were infatutated, rather than in-love. So basically, people need to have their head on straight when they get married and be prepared to abide by the commitments they made when they slipped their rings on.

Answer 3

I STILL believe that Marriage is for a Lifetime .. but ...

you do NOT have to LOSE your Life on that point alone .. and if you are in an Abusive, Violent Marriage -- it is a Far, Far better thing for you to LEAVE (and .. if you do have them -- with your children) to LIVE .. (Walk Away -- LIFE is precious .. and priceless).

In the case above (abuse) .. then Divorce and wait .. patiently .. for fate may surprise you and you could end up dating someone so MUCH BETTER for you than that previous relationship ..

AND .. my final thought -- DO NOT SETTLE! When you 'settle' (maybe that biological clock is ticking faster and faster?) .. then that is NOT the best for you .. and it will show in the collapse of the marriage ... (and definitely do NOT marry for money or in some other way "use" a person .. that is SICK indeed) ...

WAIT .. be patient .. for something BETTER WILL come along!

Answer 4

Should be for a lifetime. Just live together if you're not sure. Divorce is expensive and hurtful and hell on kids. The idea of marriage is that you are making a family with your partner. Barring extreme circumstances, you just don't break up family. Otherwise, I'd have picked up a new brother ages ago! ;)

Answer 5

It should be, although it seems as though alot of people dont take it seriously.
It is a lifetime commitment and its alot of hard work, some people just seem to think divorce is easier.
In my eyes divorce should not be seen as such a casual option.
Unless you are getting abused or cheated on I think you should try as hard as you can to bring the life back into a dying marriage.

Answer 6

Most deffinitly.

The meaning of vows have been replaced with cheating and one-night stands. If you think there is any reason why the marriage will not last, and divorce results, than you shouldn't get married in the first place!!! PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

VOWS ARE FOREVER AND SO IS MARRIAGE.
IT'S ABOUT SACRIFICE.

Answer 7

If you are in love with the person that you married then yeah it does because love endures all, but a lot of people fall into young marriages or get married before they are really sure what they want and they those marriages always end up in disaster.

Answer 8

I think it should be for a lifetime, that's the intention anyway. I don't think if you're not happy you should stay together just for the sake of being married. You marry for love and happiness, so if neither is there you should move on. Marriage shouldn't be a sentence.

Answer 9

i use to think so until about 2 weeks ago...i guess it just all depends on the person. If you find love do everything you can to hold on to it and never mess it up. Some ppl say marriage is what you put into it...i disagree...some ppl put there all into a marriage only to get hurt in return.

Answer 10

Everyone thinks its the trial and error thing. I want it to be for life and Im only getting married once.

Answer 11

my belief, is that marriage is spouse to be forever, when you say the values its a lifetime thing you promise to love and honor that person for the rest of your life, thats why more people should take marriage more seriously!