My husband and I have been married for over a year now, we have known each other for 10 years. He is really into his work and is always working! ( he is in Realesate) He is always on his phone even when we go out to dinner. it drives me crazy!! Sometimes I think he cares more about his work than his family. I have met other guys before and developed friendships with them, but haven't cheated or anything. I feel like I can talk to these other people and not to him. I am afraid that I might cheat cause he is never there for me or anything. I am not sure what to do. I don't want to get a divorce or anything but I am not sure if I can deal with this any longer or that I might met someone else that I am happier with. What should I do?
2007-12-13 06:53:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You knew him for 9 years before you married him, and he was never there for you. Did you think a wedding ceremony would bring upon him a magical transformation? What you should do is see a counselor with the goal of figuring out why you chose to be married to an emotionally unavailable man.
2007-12-13 07:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he works this hard if it is not to provide for you and the family? A lot of men show their love by working hard and providing for the family. There are plenty of men that does not want to work, want to live off their wife, or won't give the family any money. Let him do his work, but ask him to turn off the phone every once in a while like 1 to 2 times a week just for the two of you.
2007-12-13 15:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real Estate is a dog eat dog world. If he doesn't sty on top...he makes no money. What I find interesting is you saying "I'm afraid I might cheat". Really? So I can only deduce from that statement that you have serios doubts about what looks to be your lack of self control and lack of morals.
My dear...you're the problem I'm afraid...not him. If you can't deal with this in any other manner other than 'being afraid you'll cheat' because his work dominates things then perhaps you were foolish to marry to begin with.
2007-12-13 15:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing what he feels he has to do to support you. He doesn't realize that his professional life is killing his personal life. You have four options:
1. You can take that cell phone out of his hand and smash it on the ground.
2. You can explain to him the way you are feeling just as you are explaining it to us.
3. You can suck it up and let your relationship continue on the course it's on.
4. You can turn your back on him and walk away.
My recommendation is #2.
2007-12-13 15:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks he is taking care of you by making money for your family. You need to tell him that while you appreciate his hard work (this is the important part, dont' forget to mention it), that you want to spend more time with him, and just him (no phone, etc.) Tell him you don't care if you guys make less money, you just want to spend time with him.
2007-12-13 14:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him exactly what you just told us. If that doesn't get his attention than nothing will.
2007-12-13 14:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋