We have been married for 3 years now and have 1 child together. We have not had sex more than once a month for the last 8 months. She says its due to a lack of libido that happens to most women after thier first child birth. I feel that she is cheating on me due to her being secretive with her calls and other things. How can I find out if she is in fact cheating on me? I have asked her already and she says no. What options and resources do I have. What are the best ways to find out...Thank You!
2007-12-13 06:51:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remember, don't open the box, you may not like what you find inside !!!!!
If you are prepared to suffer the consequences of looking, then....
Check her mobile phone, check for a second mobile phone, ask to borrow her mobile phone (these things will make her freak), come home unannounced sometime, just don't do regular things.
But remember she may actually be telling you the truth.
2007-12-13 06:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by d_v8ion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you both are? but,when the Sex part starts to slow down to once a Month, this is a sure sign, there is something going on with your Wife and another guy. There are lots of ways how you can find out if this true or not, start being more aware of how she acts and what she does, if possible try to follow her movements or as some of the other readers said Hire a Private Investigator and that is a sure way you will be able to know the Truth. The only Problem here is the Baby you both have, if it is true what she is doing why didn't she take into consideration of her Child. If i were you and found out that what you suspected is true, I would ask for a Divorce, and tell the Court you want custody of your Child, do not let her keep the baby after what she did to you and the child.
2007-12-13 07:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says no she is not cheating on you... then all you can do is trust her. Honestly, after having a child you do kind of lose your sex drive a little bit, but she will pick it back up again. Don't know what to tell ya about the secret phone calls. You should ask her straight forward about it. Could look over the phone bill to see who she is making the phone calls to.
2007-12-13 06:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Torrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats more important - finding out that she's cheating, or getting your relationship back on track? You have a child, and the relationship is the most important thing - even if she is cheating you don't want your marriage to go down the drain, you want her to love you again. You may not feel like it, but wine and dine her - and most importantly TALK to her, ask her questions, be interested in her, her life her hobbies. Do things for her. Cook for her. Arrange nights out. Try it for a week things may start to change and she may even tell you herself what was really going on.
2007-12-13 07:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by onlyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRIVATE EYES CAN be expensive. so be your own spy....
her libido may be down with the kid etc...BUT secret calls sends up many red flags....if she has NOTHING to hide....she should tell you WHO she is talking to etc.
does she use computer? check emails etc ,history.....or put a device on it that tracks all activity.
check the cell phone, online if you can...and see who is calling the most etc.
follow her-- in an unknown car if possible...
start a diary..write down where she says she is going --times etc.....then you may see a pattern, and when she is meeting someone. cheaters LIE so well, it is hard to beleive they are doing it. i KNOW..but i caught him with the phone bills and following him etc......may take a bit longer, but if you give her enough rope, she will HANG herself.....smile, be nice so as not to arouse her suspicion. let her think all is ok....then she will screw up......and BAM....YA GOT HER.
good luck......
i have zero tolerance for cheaters.....they should all screw EACH OTHER...
2007-12-13 07:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the TV show "Cheaters"? Call them to investigate. Or hire a personal investigater. Something I should have done when my kids father was cheating and I didn't know........until 2 years later. That bastard!
Good luck
2007-12-13 07:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't believe her when she says she's not cheating, then you'll just have to wait it out. The truth always comes to light. If you can't handle the wait you can go P.I. and tap your phones and follow her. Or you could suggest you go to counseling, if she's cheating, maybe she'll open up there.
Good luck
2007-12-13 07:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want to get sneaky about it there is a radio station 104.1 KRBE in Houston that has this thing called Rula and Ryans roses and they will call your spouse offer them roses and she who they send them to. If they send them to someone else other than the spouse they are more than likely cheating. Tons of people get caught.
2007-12-13 06:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the most obvious signs are lying about her whereabouts or the people she is in contact with. If you really want to find out, how about follow her one day or catch her by surprise you will know then! Listen to your gut instinct, it's never wrong.
2007-12-13 06:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If shes secretive about her calls and assuming her computer habits as well then its what a reasonable and prudent person can assume based upon these little things she's doing.
Sit tight. She's bound to screw up and expose herself. They all do.
2007-12-13 06:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋