As in like joint physical custody where the child goes back and forth frequently? I think in the real world it almost never works--if the parents can get along well enough to manage this amicably, then they probably wouldn't be divorced!
Almost without exception, the very issues that split the couple (infidelity, addiction, abuse, different values, etc.) will arise over and over regarding various aspects of parenting. If one ex has lost respect or trust for the other, it will be hard to negotiate the terms of co-parenting agreement, and to feel comfortable that the terms will be followed.
I will tell you that after my ex and I first separated, he moved out of town and wanted a way to spend time with the children when he came back to town to visit. I didn't want them at a hotel room, so I offered to vacate our home (previously our family home) and go stay at my mom's for the weekends when he came. I thought I was doing the right thing for the sake of the children and stability.
A couple of months later, when I found the TV satellite bills for the PPV porn movies he had ordered, and the long distance telephone bills to his gf and heaven knows who else, and also suspected that he might be planting bugs around the house and going through my closet and drawers trying to find dirt on me to use in court, I decided that wasn't such a good idea!
More power to you if you can make it work, but I stand by my opinion that if you can co-parent, you should be able to still be a couple!
2007-12-13 06:41:46
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answered by arklatexrat 6
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I'm going through a split. I moved into my parents house.. 5 mins away from my husband. my lawyer said the courts will most likely give 50/50 time between us two..especially since we live so close. What bothers me is that even when a child (we have 3) is sick.. he takes them with him. My son had a fever today and was sweating and sleep for most of the day. He picked them all up today at 6pm, which meant he went out in the cold. He was dressed properly, i just wished he could have stayed put since he will be dropping them off again by 6am tomorrow.
2014-12-16 13:05:51
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answered by Almond 1
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i think of it somewhat is totally possibly, exceedingly in a privte adoption the place you haven't any longer have been given a social worker status issues telling you what's appropierate and what's "too close" There are some positives. the youngster may be genuine on the factor of their kin. yet right this is the place I see a situation. only like in divorce or maybe undesirable marriages, there is commonly a lot of conflict. mattress time, what to feed them, the place they circulate to college, scientific scientific care, and so lots greater. If there is shared parenting, somebody ought to be the guy who holds the enjoying cards. think of having 4 human beings telling you what to do. Who do you pay attention to? think of if there have been a case have been a baby choose a existence saving tratment, yet between the numerous mom and dad decideds it somewhat is against their faith? Who walks her down' the isle? i do no longer think of there may be any thank you to maintain a baby from feeling torn, only like in t bitter divorces. then you particularly ought to evaluate this. If the adoption is actual necessary, why could no longer the 1st mom and dad, parent interior the 1st place, how might that ingredient nto the childs' consistancy? i assume maximum might remember on why the 1st mom and dad chosen adoption interior the 1st place. in the event that they are 50% okay to parent, then it variety of feels that foster care is a greater valuable determination.
2016-11-26 20:20:48
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answered by dricketts 4
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co-parenting is when the two of you agree on how the child is to be raised. shared parenting is when you actually share the responsibilities of the child.
2007-12-13 06:34:13
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answered by fantasy gal 5
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The courts tends to like it. It depends on the people involved. If a person is unstable emotionally, volatile, I would not want them to be an active parent without serious counseling first.
2007-12-13 06:35:43
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answered by Net Advisor™ 7
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Difficult, but necessary in some cases.
2007-12-13 07:38:28
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answered by gypsy g 7
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