I see all this chivalry bashing, and I'm thinking, has a woman ever held a door open for me? Just this morning I had two just let the door hit me after they got in. Then again yesterday, I don't think I've ever had a woman hold a door open for me, how about you guys? And ladies, feel free to throw in your own experiences.
2007-12-13 06:26:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Me holding the door for them: numerous times
Them holding the door for me: that would depend on if I included my mother and sister in this little poll. If I don't include them, then it's far less than I hold doors open for others.
2007-12-13 06:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Fortis cadere cedere non potest 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hold doors open for whoever happens to be near the door when I'm going in or out. I doesn't matter if they are a man, woman, or child. I get doors opened for me from all ages of people and both sexes. I'm on a busy college campus twice a week and in the 7 1/2 years we've been going there, I have yet to run into a rude kid. When we go to places where older people hang out, it's the same way. If others are experiencing something different I wonder if locale is the determining factor on how people react---up middle class suburbans vs. inner city, high schools vs. colleges, clubs vs. churches, etc.
2007-12-13 07:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been hit in the face by my share of doors, opened by either men or women; enough to make me consciously open doors for others to be polite.
Like I've said before, if I come to a door and there is someone right behind me, I will open the door and let them go through. I've even gestured and told them, "after you, (sir or madam)" as politely and lightheartedly as I can. If someone for whatever reason requires assistance with a door (carrying something, on crutches, etc.) I will burn rubber to get to the door first if I'm behind them. If someone is a ways behind me, but still close enough that the door could potentially catch them in the face when it closes, I will "pass" them the door.
I don't know how many people this applies to in my hometown, because this is usually seen as good manners. Some people can just be way too absorbed to be bothered though.
2007-12-13 06:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I happen to notice a person behind me about to go through the same door as me, I automatically hold the door for that person regardless of gender. And frequently if a man holds the door for me, and it happens to be a set of double doors, I'll return the favor by holding the second set open for him. Chivalry SHOULD go both ways, not be one sided.
2007-12-13 08:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I frequently hold doors open for people. If they're close enough behind me where my letting the door go will either 1.) smack them in the face, or 2.) slam rudely and abruptly on them, yes, I do make it a point to hold it open. And a fair number of those people have been men.
That's not chivalry; it's just polite.
2007-12-13 06:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I said previously:
Slightly offtopic - I went to hospital today for a double booking for my poor eyes. As I walked todwards the double opening doors (manual two-way swing doors, inside) two women were coming through from the other side. As they were nearer they opened the door.
The first woman passed through and held it for her friend. I thought they were holding it for me too and so went through, saying 'thank you' as I did. Instead, they let it swing shut on me.
Now that is just bad manners.
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Throughout my life thouhg? Generally?
It's not something I'd kept a count of - but that was my most recent experience of door opening manners being displayed. I nearly always hold the door if someone is with a short distance behind me though.
2007-12-13 06:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't remember that ever happening, but it's possible that it did and just didn't leave an impression. A few weeks ago, however, I went to the mall with my wife and, as I always do, I opened the door for her. As my wife was about to enter the doorway, two women (not ladies) barged right through. They didn't make eye contact, say thank you or otherwise acknowledge my role in making their day slightly more pleasant as they practically walked over my wife. Come to think of it, I think that I'm thanked by strangers less than half the time. But I hold the door anyway.
2007-12-13 06:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If i see someone coming within a reasonable amount of paces behind me i always hold the door for them regardless of whether they are male or female...its just a considerate thing to do....and i appreciate when the same is done for me and ALWAYS say thank you. If youre a mile away im not going to stand there for 10 minutes but i do always make an effort and i think most other considerate people do as well.
there are those who do let it slam in your face...but why then should that make you less considerate to someone else?
2007-12-13 08:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by imaginadia510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called gender discrimination. While it is getting better day by day, it has been around for centuries. Women and men have always been held at different standards. Just start breaking stereotypes and stand up for what you believe to be fair so the discrimination can continue to dwindle.
2016-05-23 09:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hold doors open for men at some point pretty much everyday when they have nothing in their hands. Usually, they won't walk through it and say something like "ladies first" but I make the effort. Sorry Mike T but youre wrong.
2007-12-13 06:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by Really? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋