2007-12-13 06:24:56 · 32 answers · asked by maria s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not out the ordinary for a man to look at porn........ now if he is addicted and spends a considerable amount of time on regular basis, thats a different story....... I look at occasionally, and its usually with my wife
2007-12-13 06:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Lets deal with this subject logically, the environment nowadays is full with temptations, so you may expect that some of that environment may affect both of you and your husband and sometimes even your children if you have any.
If a man looks at porn, this means he is not satisfied sexually or emotionally. Ask yourself, are you around your husband most of the time or busy with other things that is of interest to you.
Have common things to do together and keep yourself busy with him. Have social activities together. Don't forget that men need sex 2-3 times on the average per week, this is if the environment is not full with temptations.
2007-12-13 06:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by best-doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't.
But sit down and think about why it bothers you. What are the results of his porn viewing? Is he looking at really nasty stuff? Or just naked women standing around? There's a big difference in my mind. If it's really nasty stuff, I'd begin to wonder about him.
I'm thinking that a lot of guys get curious and look and then they get bored and either quit or find stuff that is more and more raunchy until they get really carried away.
The fact that you think you can control your husband isn't a very good sign. You may have some problems the two of you need to work on.
If this really bugs you, I would look into some counseling for either you alone or the two of you. If it bugs you, it bugs you and you have to deal with that.
I don't think it's very respectful if he's doing it right in your face. Get naked for him and let him look at you. If he's not interested, you've got bigger problems. I think most men would much rather look at a real live naked woman than a photo on the Internet. And if the naked woman is your own wife, you have have a lot more fun than with a photo. And no guilt. Everybody wins.
Look into what's going on. This is about much more than your hubby looking at porn.
2007-12-13 06:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't stop him join him before it is too late. If you try to stop him he will do it somewhere else. You obviously haven't learned the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-13 06:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't!!! Everyone on here and your husband will say "I'm/he's a man"!!! which they think is a good enough excuse. Which is why I believe ALL men to be nasty pigs!!!! it wont stop because men only think about their lower area and never about who they claim they love! no women will ever be enough!!!! nasty creatures! This is my personal opinion and I dont care how many thumbs down I get!
2007-12-13 06:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound extreme, but providing an example for him might just work. Get some nude photos of yourself and show them to your husband. Ask him how he'd like it if you posted them on some internet web site, and tell him if he doesn't stop watching porn that's exactly what you'll do.
2007-12-13 06:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry sweety, you really can't. If you tell him that it bothers you alot, he may stop, but in all likelyhood he will just learn to hide it.
There's only two things to recommend.
First, explain how you feel, then offer a compromise. Watch it together as part of foreplay. If this offends you, then tell him how you feel about it and offer to "be the porn star" instead. I'm sure you would not be offended in dressing sexy for your husband or acting out his fantasies.
2007-12-13 06:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lexpressive 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wait till he comes home one day, have candles all around, lights dim, wear somethng sexy and revealing. Ask him, do you want some of this?
Another time: Ask him what does looking at pix do for you?
Depending on how he answers. Ask, do you want to make our own video?
Something to think about.
2007-12-13 06:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Net Advisor™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how much it bothers you, and he should respect your feelings. On the other hand have you ever thought of ,"if you can't beat um join um", you could try participating with him and if that doesn't work then, just simple tell him it has to stop. That it really bothers you.
2007-12-13 06:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you havent talked to him about it already, i would sit down and have a talk, explain how you feel and ask him that he stop. if youve already done this, you could always take away the internet, and tell him that if he cant be respectful and faithful to you then he cant have the internet..but unfortuantely he can always go somewhere else to look it up..if he loves you and respects your marrage then he should stop.
2007-12-13 06:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋