I met her at work. I see her during the day while my wife is at work she doesn't have a clue. I been with her for two years. I have a one year old child by my wife. I can't seem to break it off. My mistress still calls me even after I told her it was over. I feel like I can't get out. Without everything blowing up in my face. Sometimes I feel like I have to led this double life
2007-12-13 06:17:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Awww you "have to" do it? That is so sad, I just feel so sorry for you.
Get serious. You're in the predicament you're in because you put yourself there. If there are consequences, you need to own up to them because the only person responsible for this mess is YOU.
If you truly love your wife and want to give your marriage a real chance to survive your infidelity, you need to come clean and go to counseling, not to mention cut off ALL contact with this woman after making it clear to her that it is over. You may also want to let her know that you have told your wife everything and you are working on your marriage. Otherwise, she may try to get in contact with your wife to try to stir up trouble.
Maybe you should have thought of all this before you decided to go outside the marriage. If you really loved and respected your wife, this all should never have happened. The best you can do now is be honest and apologetic and do whatever it takes to make things right.
2007-12-13 06:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh please you tell your wife she'll never have sex with you again or use it to unman you. What she doesn't know leaves her as happy as she ever was.
Look, a woman's reputation is ALWAYS the first to go when office romances blow up and people know. Take that girl to lunch, and tell her flat that if she doesn't delete every form of contact with you FROM THAT MOMENT ON, you WILL broadcast it around the office and make it look like she hunted you down, and ruin her reptutation throughout the company for GOOD. AND you will do whatever is necessary, say whatever needs to be said to protect your WIFE, and if she values her career and reputation she will let this sh*t slide silently and move forward with her life, it is the risk she took when she became the side chick for a married man, so she needs to stop acting like a teenager and have an adult response to the end of an adult relationship. And that if you hear from her again by any means you'll be getting a restraining order in court.
And i hope you didn't promise her OR IMPLY you would leave your wife for her at ANY point. Otherwise she will make sure the wife finds out.
2007-12-13 16:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by MissJamaica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has consequences for there actions did you not learn this as a child most people do I guess your parents were to nice to you. You deserve what ever you get you cheat you deserve to feel guilty and miserable and rightfully so that your world may collapse around you.
That is why smart people stay away from the temptations I guess you missed that seminar. Come clean with the wife and live with what is dealt you and how she reacts the only way you break this feeling of doom and gloom.
2007-12-13 14:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it seems this is going to blow up in your face. The sooner you deal with this the better.
You made the choice to cheat on your wife. You can also make the choice to break things off with your mistress and try to save your marriage. You are the only one who can.
You say that you "can't seem to break it off" with your mistress? I think it just means that you don't want to. Stop taking her calls and stand firm on your decision.
2007-12-13 14:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy... if you loved your wife, you would not be messing around... sad, you mess around on your wife while she is hard at work, I hope she finds out, and I hope she divorces, gets full custody, child support, alimony, and I hope you only get supervised visitation... you are a loser, and a poor excuse for a father...
you love noone but yourself, not even your daughter...
oh I disagree about burning bridges, burn this bridge, now... if you loved your wife you would cut off all contact... life is too short to be w/ a man who does not forsake all others like he's supposed to... be mean to the other woman...
if I was your wife, and you were not mean to the other woman and did not burn that bridge, I would not give you the time of day, burn wife's bridge, or the other woman? take your pick, buddy...!
lol @ the guy below me, not only did he screw, but, he is screwed, hahaha...
2007-12-13 14:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you . YOU dont' have to live this double life. But everything sooner or later comes out.
So knowing that should make you want tobe honest with your wife. Its better that she gets hurt but finds out from you . And sees that you have been trying to get aways from this mistress but she wont leave you alone.
Than for your wife to find out from her! and be more hurt
If you love your wife and want to be with her and are repent then be honest with her.. She's going to find out sooner or later let it come from you and if you are sorry for it then show her you care.. because you might be loosing the biggest thin in your life. And from now on start appreciating her.
That's the best advice i can give you. Because your stuck regarless.. Either you leave her or tell her the truth your call
2007-12-13 14:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want your wife and your family then you need to find a way to end it with your mistress. Their is a way somehow, if you want to bad enough. Change your phone number or whatever it takes. If you don't act on this soon, you will loose your family, which I don't mean this bad, just being truthful, maybe they deserve better.
2007-12-13 14:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by amandalovesjohn07 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you better fess up and invest every bit of energy you have into fixing your family. You are in a no win situation until you tell your wife and earn some mercy from her. You need individual as well as couple counseling if she is willing either way you need it for yourself. I am certain that unless you tell your wife this will spiral out of control rapidly.
2007-12-13 14:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a dog ! That is so messed up what you did to your wife if you loved her you would have never done this and to be able to go home to your wife like nothing happend you have no heart what goes around comes around!!
2007-12-13 14:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want it to stop? Get a restraining order against the mistress and hope that your wife forgives you.
2007-12-13 14:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋