I met her at work. I see her during the day while my wife is at work she doesn't have a clue. I been with her for two years. I have a one year old child by my wife. I can't seem to break it off. My mistress still calls me even after I told her it was over. I feel like I can't get out. Without everything blowing up in my face. Sometimes I feel like I have to led this double life
2007-12-13 06:13:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Way to go. Now you're worried about the repercussions. Maybe you should have thought about that before you cheated on your wife.
2007-12-13 06:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by bgmcfn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want the mistress to stop calling, you can make that happen. Make it clear you don't want to talk or see her. Get a new job. Get a new cell phone and change your home number. Move if you have to. If you really want to get shut of this gal, you can do it. Be a man. Tell her to get lost. Don't sit there and feel all sorry for her. She knew you were married and she knew this day could come. You both used each other. She got what she wanted and you got what you wanted. It's over now. It's that simple. Cut the cord and think twice before you introduce this much drama into your life again.
Telling your wife is a bad idea if it can be avoided. She shouldn't have to pay for your mistake. You'll just transfer your pain onto her. You'll feel all better after you tell her and she'll feel like sh!t. And she didn't do anything wrong. You deal with your own crap and do your best to spare your wife the damage of all this. Go get checked for STD's and maybe get some counseling. What a mess.
Good luck. It's good that you're getting the sense to stop this but you really need to explore what took you here and try to get that fixed.
2007-12-13 06:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You created this. The best thing you can do is be honest and own up to your mistake. You wife would probubly rathere hear it from you then your mistress. If your mistress can't take no for an answer, then you need to leave the job and hope she doesn't inform your wife out of spite and claim sexual harassment on you. but you created this and your wife deserves much better then being with a cheating, liar, who is selfish and no respect for the fact that she gave you her love, trust and the biggest gift that a woman can ever give a man, a baby. This is how y;ou appriciate your vows. let your wife go so she can find true love and an honest marriage. Your a snake
2007-12-13 06:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, heh....shoulda kept that one eyed trouser trout behind the zipper where it belongs. Now..yes now you have a psycho that I assure you won't take 'no' for an answer. Plus...this is the type of woman who now figures if she can't have you then neither can your wife. She'll expose the affair...blame it on you.....all the time telling your wife in great detail the bedroom antics you both engaged in...see to it that the wife divorces you and rakes you over the coals financially in the process.
When all is said and done...she won't even give you the right time of day...let alone the time at all.
Man....you screwed up. The party is over. Time to pay the tab.
2007-12-13 06:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We sometimes make decisions that are HORRENDOUS for the future. You decided to play around with someone who has probably gained feelings for you and NOW you can't shake her. The only recourse you have, is to find another job and hope to HELL that this woman (who probably has mental problems since she can't take no for an answer) doesn't track you down and tell your wife and ruin your marriage.
2007-12-13 06:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is time to bite the bullet & move on.
You need the mistress.
Take the risk & start a life with her.
It's just how things go more ofen than people realize.
If they were getting their needs met at home they wouldn't need to look elsewhere.
Make sure you take care of your child & remain involved in his life.
2007-12-13 06:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't break it off...because you don't want to...She may call you...but you don't have to answer her call...You could get your number changed if you really wanted her to stop calling....Perhaps everything does need to blow up...so your wife will see just what a lousy cheating bastard you are....
2007-12-13 06:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you feel like you've led a double life huh? Maybe that's because you have. Seems you've painted yourself into a corner with this one dude. She doesn't want to believe it's over. She's most likely going to cause trouble. You're going to be lucky to get out of this with your testic!es.
2007-12-13 06:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've put yourself in this because you knew beforehand that this was wrong so now there are consequences. You need to be honest with your wife because it will come to light and you will lose out.
2007-12-13 06:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We'll you screwed up. Chances are it will get a lot worse. It may cost your marriage, and a lot of money. I have no sympathy for you.
2007-12-13 06:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Net Advisor™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋