People get jealous of me because I receive SSI & Social Security. They also think I'm lazy for getting Office of Disability accommodations @ school. They think we disabled people STEAL their tax dollars. They don't know what struggles we have. I'm very mentally disabled. I can't work around people, I panic when I'm rushed, & I have difficulty concentrating. People are quick to fire me on jobs because they say I work to slow & I'm not capable of handling the job & working @ fast pace. I suffer OCD, Tourette's, Anxiety, & Depression. If they think I'm mentally incompetent, out of my head & crazy, why must they think I should work anyway?
My OCD unwanted, intrusive thoughts attack me the most. They think I'm taking the free & lazy way out. What they don't know is-I'm trying to work & become self-sufficient, but no one wants to hire me. Just by looking @ me, they figure I have some screws missing, & that I'm just ditzy & dumb, so they take advantage of me & cheat me & I get in trouble.
2007-12-13 06:13:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
My brothers, and some who used to be friends have had jealous tendencies. My brothers are jealous because the Division of Blind Services is paying for me to go to college when I finish my last year of highschool, but they had my parents pay for college and they just dropped out in the first year and wasted the money. They're jealous because I will be getting SSI until I finish school and get a well-paying job, and I think this is because neither of them can hold down a job to save their lives and still live at home because of it. They're jealous that the Division of Blind Services provided me with an accessible laptop for school, but when they got computers as graduation gifts they just broke them or sold them. So basically I don't think it has much to do with my blindness at all. I think they're jealous that I'm making good choices in life and becomming successful EVEN THOUGH I apparently should be at a disadvantage to them.
2007-12-13 12:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by i_come_from_under_the_hill 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This can be answered so many ways. Why shouldn't you be bitter or enraged? You SHOULD be if that's who you are. But I am not, and I have had much of the same experiences as you and this is why I am not. I have NOT seen one person in this life, get out alive. I have not known one person that didn't have EVERYTHING then some of them in one day lose it all. A long time ago I took a swipe at my friend. She did not have money, but that didn't matter to either of us. But she had something I REALLY wanted more than anything. A loving close family. So she was always trying to "help" me, invite me over for family gatherings and it was bothering me more, and I told her, you don't have it hard, you don't go it alone, you don't have ..... and named all my problems. I made her cry. Cause she knew I did and there wasn't much more she could do. A couple of months later her mom, the best person I knew, died in an elective surgery, they thought she was going to be ok and so the family all went home only to be called back and she died before they could get there. Then her boyfriend cheated on her and lied, and pretended to be sorry and back and THEN married this other girl. (he didn't want to tell her, since her mom just died) Her family fell apart, her brothers started getting into trouble.... etc... see what I mean, this has happened to EVERY person I know. No one gets out completely joy free. So I let them have their joy. I even celebrate it with them... I only told that one story, BUT everyone I have ever been jealous of, has their own story, and sometimes they have these horriffic stories and still have a smile and giggle and get through it, knowing no ones life is perfect. So I don't deny them their stories. I always thought my life was worse, and to be sure some of my experiences have been excrutiating and horrific too, till I hear someone elses story. That doesn't lessen my story, and that doesn't lessen your story... but still that's why personally don't get enraged, Take your medicines, get some life under your belt and if you are jealous and bitter and it brings you joy to see happy people suffer and have things taken away, feel that and live it for a bit, and you will see that after a lifetime of living, no one gets out with all their toys and joys. Besides, you have me and others here for a friend so.... I hope that helps a little bit. Now go have some hot chocolate and smile cause I am your friend. If you were around I would take you for a hot donut at krispy kreme and hear all you have to say, but you aren't... so.... go have a hot chocolate and thank goodness you have some good friends that care.
2016-04-09 01:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people get jealous of the disabled because of the special attention and treatment they recieve. It's sad that being on SSI or SSDI is enviable but sadly there's some people who would love to live off of government assistance and not work. In fact I was talking to one of my distant cousins the other day and he was talking about all the work he's done and how he doesn't qualify because he's an average, white man (between ages 40-50) but if he did he'd get it in a heartbeat.
I find this sad because I could possibly qualify for SSI but I choose to look for work and finish college instead.
The funny thing is, us disabled people don't want the special treatment, it comes with our conditions and we hate it.
2007-12-13 13:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only job where I was accepted and worked for over a year was taking care of people who were more disabled than me.
I have had some horror stories...I would do my best to conform but it never worked out. I also was a loser magnet for businesses that liked to commit fraud and the likes.
I haven't applied for disability...just because I am so used to taking care of people who are seen as worse off than me...but I passed out while working at a group home and one of the clients ran away...They had me working 20+ hour shifts while pregnant. Now I am not sure what to do but just keep on trying.
2007-12-13 06:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can be jealous over silly thing especially scooter because it just look like a BMW model. Those thing can go over 40 MPH! Just kidding.
People are jealous... well I say I am jealous that they are earning $1,400 a month and I am here disable prevented me from working from job. My bank account being negative and trying to earned little cash. When I get SSI, now we are even.
Not proud of it but I need it for my own business and other needs.
2007-12-13 07:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 35-yr-old friend who has similar problems as you (minus the tourettes), and he gets disability, but the difference between him and a lot of people (and YOU for that matter), is that he keeps trying. He's been fired from several jobs for being too slow, just like you, but he keeps trying, knowing that while he's working part of his check will be cut as well. He truly deserves his disability money.
2007-12-13 09:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I worked and paid social security for 33 years when I became disabled it took me three years to start collecting disability I was making 60,000 dollars a year working and now I live on around one fourth of that amount. I can't imagine anybody being jealous of me.
2007-12-13 06:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Queen, I sympathize with you.
Not one person out there can sympthize with you if they themself are disabled.
Sometimes disability is arthritis or depression which I have even young, things that cannot be seen by others.
No one is jealous, and if they are some day they may wind up just where they want to be disabled with jealousy and meanness. Not a good thing.
2007-12-13 09:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'M SO SORRY HONEY, I'M PHYSICALLY DISABLED BUT my oldest son has tourettes so i am very familiar!You are not lazy! who cares what people say? I never care about what anyone except my husband mom , dad, boys, mom, dad law! Think about the people in your life who really matter to you and whether you value their opinions or not. As for the general public they can *&ck OFF!! uNTIL THEY LIVE A DAY IN OUR SHOES THEY HAVE NO ROOM TO JUDGE!
MERRY CHRISTMAS&HAPPY NEW YEAR
2007-12-13 11:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by buzymomuv3boyz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a high quadriplegic so I can't see some one being jelous of me for getting SSI and such. And if some one was they have no clue what I and others have to go through.
2007-12-13 06:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Cathy 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋