Can someone briefly explain why, even after commitment, women still tend to follow their intuition then to trust their mates? Or maybe i just have it wrong, if so, help me out?
I know that I wasn't the most Ideal man to trust a while back, my wife knew that, but that should have been behind us. So recently she's been watching me in case im doing anything odd. She takes not that 've been coming home much later then usual. When im going out to the mall, she wants either her to come along or our 3 yr daughter. Then she likes to brows our caller ID and my cellphone calls once a week.
Yeah, is you woman's intuition making it sound like i might be cheating or something? Try linking the clues a little harder and fit in the possibility that I'm putting a little effort for X-mas this year, can't tell though, its kind of a secret.
What do you think?
2007-12-13 06:12:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What i mean by "a while back" was before we got into our relationship, we used to be friends and was there for some of my relationships with others. Just Girlfriends though
2007-12-13 06:22:17 · update #1
once a person cheats or shows they can't be trusted their mate just wants to make sure she isn't wasting her time and investing love in nothing. once you get betrayed its hard to ever put it behind u, you kind of are on the alert, just waiting for the next hurt to come.
2007-12-13 07:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't quite understand your question but how about this. if you were unfaithful at any point in your marriage then you have caused your own problems. any change in your routine or behavior will signal red flags for her. intuition is a persons inner sense of wellbeing in their life. that is the best i can explain it. something that guides someone even when there are no visible clues. something is triggering your wifes intuition. is the present just an excuse for your absence? why can't your daughter be in on the gift for your wife?
2007-12-13 06:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I know that I wasn't the most Ideal man to trust a while back"
this is why, my friend. She still have problems and issues with your past with her, so it is obvious she will mistrust anything you might be doing out of the ordinary or routine. You need to seriously understand that even if something happenned awhile back, that doesn't mean is forgotten. Her trust issues need to be adressed by family counseling or marital counseling.
2007-12-13 06:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman's intuition can stem from many causes by here are the most likely....
1.) our man is cheating and we intend to find out with whom so we can throttle the home wrecker (I know he will get his too).
2.) Breakdown in communication
3.) Lack of attention. Tell her how beautiful she is and make her feel like she is your one and only. We we are neglected we begin to feel paranoid and you are the nearest target since we know our kids are not cheating with a new mom.
2007-12-13 06:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to address you going to the mall, when she wants to go, it's probably because she has stuff of her own to pick up. If she wants your daughter to go around, it could be your wife wants her out of the house so she can wrap some of her presents without dealing with a little spy.
2007-12-13 06:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that your are putting a little extra effort into Christmas, there's no reason to ruin the surprise but if telling her that puts her more at ease in the end it will be worth it for both of you.
2007-12-13 06:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have given her a reason to mistrust you in the past, then you have to accept the fact that you are going to be "watched" until she is comfortable again. Try to make her feel better about you. Try to understand and put yourself in her place. If she did something to make you mistrust her - wouldn't you be the same way?????
2007-12-13 06:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have givin her reasons to not trust you... so she will always from now on follow her intuition! Most of you men are nasty creatures that should always be watched! thats my personal opinion!
2007-12-13 06:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you broke the trust in your relationship with your wife....then you have to accept that it is going to take time for her to regain that trust....if she does at all....
Ok...if she knew your past......Then she chose to marry you despite what she knew about your past.....then she is insecure about your relationship....If the facts don't fit the theory...then you need to change the theory....
2007-12-13 06:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they have one bad experience with a man early in their life. They carry with them all the emotional baggage into every one of their proceeding relationships. I know: It makes me very angry.
2007-12-13 06:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋