Is it normal to feel hurt when your ex-husband re-marries? I was fine when he was dating, then moved in with her, but when he married her, that's when I felt hurt.
2007-12-13 05:30:41 · 42 answers · asked by southern belle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its quite normal to feel this way especially if he has remarried and seems happy, and maybe your not. u will feel hurt because he was a part of your life at one time, a man u intended to live the rest of your life with, u realize that he will never come back now and u still love him.
2007-12-13 07:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. After all, you shared a life with this person. Now that he's remarried, he will be sharing that life with someone else, and in some odd way, you feel as if you've lost a special link that you shared with him, forever. Also, it's possible that you feel that he shared something with you he'd never shared with anyone else but now that he's remarrying, this will no longer be the case. Well, depending on the relationship you do have with him, this doesn't have to be true. That you were married to one another will always remain a fact, no matter what happens. Each relationship we have is different and you can take comfort in the fact that he will never have another one like the one he did with you. Apart from that, don't feel guilty, wish him the best and most importantly, seek what is best for you. In other words, you have the right to move on. So do so. There's a whole world waiting to discover what you're all about. Go get it. =)
2007-12-13 05:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by ShyeWolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different so what is normal for you might not be for the next person.
I would agree that it's human though. You can't help your feelings and this is a completely understandable feeling.
You loved him and married him first and now you are reminded that it didn't work out. There is nothing wrong with feeling hurt. Just don't let it last too long.
Get out there- concentrate on yourself. Go walking or join a gym. Paint a few rooms or rearrange some furniture. It will help you keep you body and mind occupied.
Good luck!
2007-12-13 05:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is....My ex husband and his girlfriend both live together and they have a son who is 23 months old...My ex husband and I have two boys together so it does not bother me that they visit with him on the weekends and that they have a half brother which they adore...But, if he was to marry her, I think that would hit home for me because I believe some things like getting marrying is something you do once...Maybe I am a bibical person where when you get marry I feel god blesses you and annoits your marriage...It's not something I even wanted to get a divorce so it would be hard for me to accept if he made the same promises to another woman which he broke with me and our children...So you can be hurt because it's something that has happen in your life and that you are dealing with....But, the truth is you will still be okay...The hurt will fade away just like he did...Be well....
2007-12-13 06:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I don't have a husband or an ex-husband. I would imagine it would hurt because you are feeling a bit jealous? Because you are thinking of the good times you two had, and now it is definate that you two will not have that again?
There is a loss, I think, and you are justified in going through the grieving process - but then move on.
2007-12-13 05:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Most people go into a marriage looking to be with that one person forever. When it doesn't work out the wish doesn't go away. It hits home when some other dame is getting a shot at a successful marriage with the guy you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with.
However, remember there is a reason you are not together anymore. Keep that thought in mind because you could have still miserable in a marriage with him! You turn will come again.
2007-12-13 05:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by callawak2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is normal. No matter what ended the relationship, a remarriage really signifies the end. Take some time to be good to yourself right now. A day at the spa. Dinner with girlfriends and hopefully someone new will enter your life and take that hurting feeling away.
2007-12-13 06:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your statements, I would guess that your ex-hubby left you or he was the one who wanted out of the marriage. Well, in that case, it is quite normal for you to hurt when he remarries...because he is replacing you in your mind, again. A girlfriend is only a temporary replacement you told yourself and it hurt less..."He was not serious about her like he was about you...after all...he married you. ^You need to realize your own self-worth and not expect a man to rescue you with a marriage proposal^. Because if you are honest with yourself...that is what you truely feel. Concentrate on men as an compliment to your already happy life that you will make for yourself...and start today to formulate and develope that hap[ppy life alone.
2007-12-13 06:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because you still have feelings for him when they were dating there was still a chance of him running back to you. Now that they are married he is never coming back. This is now hurting you because now you see that you may have lost
the person you love. If you asked for the divorce you got no one to blame but yourself. Maybe recall all the crap and then it won't hurt as bad.
God Bless and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-13 05:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very normal. Because even though you do not love your ex-spouse in way you used to, you will always see him as yours and part of your family. Now he is not anymore. He belongs to someone else and have a family with her. He feels the same way about you. However, you must put your emotions aside and try to move on with your life.
2007-12-13 05:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't alone in your feelings. One of my very good friends was very hurt by her ex-husband remarrying, dating didn't bother her but the marrying and moving in together really did and had been apart 9 years but she never remarried herself so I think that added to her hurt.
2007-12-13 05:38:56 · answer #11 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋