My husband's grandmother gave out quite a bit of money this year for Christmas. My husband's check ended up being for $12,000. His mom has the check in her possession, and will not give it to my husband. The check is made out from my husband's grandmother to him. His mother took him to the bank and tried to get him to sign the check over to her. She told him that she was going to put all $12,000 in a savings account in her name so he couldn't have access, and said that he couldn't have any of it. My husband refused to sign the check obviously, but she still has it. My husband and I are both deploying to Iraq in 2 days. She is mad that he didn't finish college this semester, and that's her reasoning to try to take the money. Some of the money could be used right now so we don't have to worry about paying bills online while deployed. She is a lawyer and a judge, but my husband and I are curious. Is it legal for her to hold a personal check from my husband's grandmother to him?
2007-12-13 04:54:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
We only have 2 days to figure out what to do about the check. We will deploy and the check will eventually be void.
On an side note. We moved out of our apartment yesterday and she said we could stay at her place. When he didn't sign the check over, she kicked us both out and told us to find transportation to somewhere else to stay for 3 nights til we deploy. She took away the jeep that my husband drives which is still in her name from years ago. So we had to get a friend come get us and bring us to a hotel. Nice, huh?
2007-12-13 04:57:48 · update #1
yeah go to the bank with her and in plain view plublicly ask her for the check and you can have a security officer get it from her.if the officer cant legaly get it from her at that momment,he sure can call the right athorities for you right there and then.
i had that same issue with my cousin and when we got to the bank she didnt even want me to touch the check so i called the officer over.he asked both of us for an i.d. and the check in question.she did theaten me with legal action but accepted that she was in the wrong.
or just call the popos!
2007-12-13 05:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by omarparra_gman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is illegal! She's a lawyer and a judge? She could be disbarred for this and dismissed as a judge. Sounds like a charming woman. (Said with sarcasm.)
With only two days, I'm not sure what you can do as far as going through courts, police, etc.
Is the grandmother still living? Could you contact
her and explain what's happening. Perhaps she could have the money electronically deposited into your account (and cancel the check with her bank so his mother can't cash it). There is a small fee for electronic transfers, but if she can afford a gift of $12,000 a $20-30 fee shouldn't be an issue.
Good luck. God bless you for your service, and may He keep you safe during your deployment.
2007-12-13 05:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by TIna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have to call the police, she has something that belongs to you and has no rights over it. Hope it doesnt come to that. Can the grandmother write a new check and send it someone you trust her in the US? And have her stop payment on the old check? Good Luck.
2007-12-13 05:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by tarie75 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't think it was legal at all.... She is in possession of stolen property and I'm sure she knows this.
Why didn't he just take the check when she handed it over for him to sign? At that point, it has HIS name on it and she can't do anything about it...
This sounds like she's ridiculous! Even if you DID blow the money (which sounds like that's her worry)...that's your problem, not hers.
Where is "grandmother" in all of this?
2007-12-13 05:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not illegal unless she cashes it, what I'd do is go to the grandmother have her put a stop on the original check and write a new one out and give it directly to your husband, canceling the first check and bypassing his mother.
2007-12-13 05:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by booboo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time she hands it to him to sign, tell him to just put it in his pocket and leave. In fact, just for the sake of speed, agree to sign over the check so she'll do it. Meet her at the bank, and then take your money and walk. She'll be pissed, but if you're lucky she just won't talk to you anymore- who needs that kind of controlling influence in their lives? Good riddance.
2007-12-13 04:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like theft to me. Call the police.
2007-12-13 04:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋