I'm due in 10 weeks & I know it's coming to a point where they will have to know eventually. I live far enough from them where I have hid it successfully this far but i can't hide the baby. I'm not a child i'm 30 it's just that this baby is not by my husband & the guy who it's by i am not in a relationship with & have no plans to be although he claims he's going to be here for his son.
2007-12-13 04:04:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my husband & i are seperated at this point and no he doesn't know yet either
2007-12-13 04:21:22 · update #1
You answered your own question in the first line - you are already stressed, and you know you will be more stressed if you tell them now. As you also said, you won't be hiding the baby once it is here. I am not saying this is a GOOD or BAD way to handle things, I'm only saying that from reading your question, it seems to be YOUR way.
If your son's dad is a half way decent guy and not a convicted criminal, keep him in the loop. Your son will need him.
Keep nice supportive people around you and be cheery!
Congratulations on your baby!!!!
2007-12-13 04:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You not telling them for this long is probibly worse than going and telling them now. If they have an adverse reaction, so be it. You live far enough away where you don't have to deal with them. I would let your husband know soon also. In a couple months you are going to want your family there to talk to. Invite them to dinner and tell them flat out. Tell them your plan and how you feel about this. Don't worry if they are shocked at first. At least you are giving them enough time to process and hopefully get the bad feelings out of the way before the baby comes. Good Luck! I really hope your situation improves.
2007-12-13 13:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by ayla_2114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you don't intend to keep the baby, you'd better tell them before it's born! If their response is just to rant or harrass you with questions, you seem to be far enough away that you can avoid them, but they may surprise you by being supportive. However, it appears that there are several other factors complicating this situation, chiefly the status of your marriage. I strongly advise you (and your husband if he's still in the picture) to see a family counselor, who can undoubtedly give better advice than the most well-meaning amateur!
2007-12-13 12:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by aida 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm an uncle/do whats best for the baby I'm sure your mom and dad have gotten worst stories form you /ps dont think im the first one your big husband going to come after lol
2007-12-13 13:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are pregnant. It is not their place to know whether its by your husband or not.
If you are still in a relationship with your husband, he will take the baby in as his own. Find some way to cut off ties with the man who's baby it is - especially if you have no reason to continue a relationship with him.
2007-12-13 12:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your family is a big part of your life you should tell them. They might get mad or think you are strange if you wait until after you have the baby. If they are pretty much out of your life then I would not bother. Good luck!
2007-12-13 12:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by notthatiknow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ALL babies are a blessing..tell them and be joyful..no matter what they say , it's your child and all children need to be born into a house that wants them..Congrats! and may your child be healthy and live a very long life!
2007-12-13 12:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn!!![that'z a hard one]2 get rid of stress,da best thing 2 do about it iz talk about it[get it out da way]cuz ya still gonna have it on da brain.pluz u got a baby on da way,that iz not cool 2 have stressful thing'z on da mind[ya baby iz inside u,want da baby 2 come out ....god 4bid...u know!!]so think about it...and tell ya hubby that he iz gonna be a daddy soon.[make it right girl]hope all iz well wit u and wat u do in life as far as being stressed out...keep it away,and tell ya family 2 support u in all u do.[don't make it harder 4 yaself!!
2007-12-13 15:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Deshon C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes! They might have their snide comments at first, but ultimately, family only wants to help. You will have a lot of stress either way though, because they are going to give you crap about not telling them for so long.
2007-12-13 12:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by Karla 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you have to tell them. Getting the truth out is easier than trying to keep up a lie. If they don't like it they will eventually get over it. I think they'll be more mad if you don't tell them than they will about the situation.
2007-12-13 12:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋