He is a complete slacker and my in-laws let him get away with everything. he sits and plays xbox and world of warcraft all day every day and refuses to do anything at all other than that. last year he almost failed for missing so much school, he had to go to summer school which was a joke. he gets up in the morning, tells his mother he doesnt want to go, she calls him in absent, he goes back to bed. this happens at least 2-3 times a week. his first grade card came back last week and it was all D's and F's except for one C. they took his xbox and computer away for 2 whole days WOW. they both dont have much education, so they must not feel he needs one. he is worthless, they are even more worthless. they are setting him up for failure and they dont seem to care. is there a way i can can get the school and truancy people involved so they will hold them accountable legally if they dont start forcing him to attend school? it angers me that they dont care.
2007-12-13 03:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by honestjoe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok let me add this for some of you. its not like im trying to start trouble in the family.... ive talked to his parents on numerous occasions. they claim to want to take charge and swear to make him start applying himself.... until next week when he throws a fit about going then they dont make him go. they are all talk/no action. they dont care. my wife is disgusted with all 3 of them. but in her eyes, if they all want to live their lives like that, so be it. i will be finishing my bachelors degree in programming in about 8 months. my in laws already hit me up for money all the time now, im not going to support them or their loser son simply because they didnt have the guts to stand up to him and make him go. also, im not going support him because its not my fault he wont be qualified to fry nuggets under the golden arches. he is very smart, but lazy and undisciplined and simply doesnt care. it is making me sad and angry at the same time.
2007-12-13 07:56:12 · update #1
You need to call Social Services and/or Child Welfare in your state and report what is going on to the authorities. This boy sounds like he has some serious mental health issues and depression going on, and his parents and sister ( your wife) are NOT helping him at ALL. It also sounds as though this kid is in dire need of some major discipline. If the police and Social Services get wind of what is happening, this kid can be taken away from his parents permanently, and the parents themselves can be charged with criminal neglect for their failure to see that their son is provided with an education. Every state in the country has laws which state that all children under age 16 MUST ATTEND SCHOOL, or they must be in a home where the parents are able to provide documented proof of competency to home school their child. Otherwise, the kid needs a doctor's excuse to avoid school, and if his parents don't know this, they will find it out quickly when the authorities come calling.
Please don't call your young brother-in-law worthless- he is a child in desperate need of help, and since his parents evidently don't love him or care enough about his welfare to provide this help, YOU NEED TO STEP IN and see that he gets it. He needs to be out of that environment, and in one where he not only gets consistent discipline, he also is getting counseling and therapy to help him with the depression he appears to be suffering from. Depression and most other mental illnesses and mood disorders are treatable, and many people who have them can recover and lead normal lives afterwards.
Good luck, and I hope you can help this poor unfortunate young man.
2007-12-13 07:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Starlight 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your aunt were to file for custody of you there probably would be little difficulty in that happening, Your mom would NOT go to jail. Being deemed an unfit mother who has done nothing illegal against you does not get her in jail. You would not be sent to an unwilling father's house. You are of the age to be part of the legal decision of where you want to live. Impact on your aynt's family? Only she would know, but if she is willing to take you and you are close to your cousins, it should be easy. Financial impact is another matter. And I don't think the separate bedroom is an issue when moving in with a relative, although it would be if going into foster care. Your aunt needs to get a lawyer involved. Good luck
2016-05-23 09:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the school and see what steps are necessary to get the police or truancy officials involved... He needs to get at least a high education to get a fast food job nowadays... I think the parents can be held responsible for missed days by serving jail time... It depends on where you live...
good luck
2007-12-13 03:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very odd that he is missing all this school and no one at the school says anything. If you call social services you are opening up a can of worms be prepared for what happens after that one. I would have a talk with the parents. Since this is your wife's brother what dose she have to say and why is she not doing anything?
2007-12-13 07:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of the exact laws but I believe every state has truancy laws. You can make an anonymous tip to the principal of his school or child services. Don't let them know it was you unless you're okay with the fallout.
2007-12-13 03:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are better off contacting the school, and disussing this with the principal or assistant principal etc. He needs to start attending school, otherwise he is most likely to repeat the same grade next year. ALso if he continues to miss school, the school may send him to another school that is more strict on truency
2007-12-14 06:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pauly W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved, it could cause friction and bad blood between you and your in-laws. Some people have to learn from their own mistakes. Just wait until he's 25 and still has no job or income and his parents get fed up and kick him out. He'll have to grow up very quickly then.
2007-12-13 03:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow are we talking about the same person? my brother in law is the same exact way! He doesnt go to school when he doesnt want to. "NEVER" gets any homework! HIdes his report cards, Not anymore because i check the mail first! Its just complete crap! it pisses me off that his parents dont tell him crap! I tell my bf off & tell him he needs to watch over his little brother.
i was brought up differently! My parents always made me to go to school, i had to go to sleep early, had to do my homework everyday & they would even check my hw when they got home. They were hella strict! I hated it before, but now i love my parents!! I understand them
2007-12-13 03:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lils 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call child services, or his school and let his school know that you are cercned (sorry cant spell), and his scholl is bound to do something, or there breaking the law. in georgia if we miss more than 7 days our parents can be fined and go to jail. and they send people to investagate it!
2007-12-13 04:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised that the school has not gotten involved. I think 14 is too young to quit school.
Maybe when he is 16 he can begin leeching off
his relatives but not yet. He should be in school.
2007-12-13 04:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by candle 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋