Our main company president wants everyone to attend the company x-mas party, if not we need to tell him directly why we are not attending. To me that is kind of intimidating, but I really don't want to go. I really don't care for half of the people who works here. I mean If you don't want to go than is your life, why should they care!
2007-12-13 03:29:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just say u had to attend some other party or some urgent event
2007-12-13 03:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥haute couture♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you will not be fired. It's a party, not a paid job assignment. The only slight consequence I see for you not attending the party is the president and any supervisor will think you're not that great of a team player. But you know what? How well you perform your job should supercede a Christmas Party attendance. Just tell the president you have a previous engagement that was already planned which happened to fall on the same date as the party.
I know how you feel when it comes to attending the Christmas Party, except for I'm okay with most of the people I work with. I've only went to 2 out of the 7 parties my firm has had, and I chose to not attend this years CP which was last week Saturday. The last 2 parties I went to was because my office manager was really pushing for me to attend. She said I had not attended the previous parties and I should show up. I know this pressure came from the firm partners. Why the heck it's so important to party with me I'll never understand. Really, I've given so much time and good effort at my job, if I didn't I wouldn't remain employed. Why should I spend a Saturday night with people I see 5 days out of the week? This year I've been especially busy with extra curricular activities. If I wasn't attending an event, I was cleaning up my home or shopping for household and personal needs. I shouldn't feel obligated to spend the few free Saturdays I have to relax and unwind with coworkers and the partners.
2007-12-13 04:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt anyone has ever been told they were fired because they didn`t attend a x-mas party but not showing up will never help your job. It`s a chance to show how you`re a team player and all that stuff which is pretty ridiculous but it`s true. You need either a really good 'I read to the blind at Christmas' excuse or show up, mingle very obviously and get someone to call you so you can leave and feel horrible about it. Apologize a lot and if the people who didn`t show up are mysteriously disappearing, be prepared to attend next year or to take up a Christmas charity.
2007-12-13 03:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by cupguin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much per head the company paid for the party.
You see, if they reserved a special restaurant or paid in advance per person, they don't want to lose the money they paid by people not attending.
Can you bring a date? My husband never wanted to go to the company parties but for me it was dinner not cooked by me and I didn't have to wash dishes afterwards - so I was there whether he liked it or not. The parties have improved since he first started working there, so far the best one was the dinner cruise last Saturday on the San Francisco Bay where we spent the night in Oakland!
Bring a fun date and turn the situation around. We hated going to parties until I got the bright idea of inviting the same people looking unsure at the door to my table - now we are a regular group at the company parties. There's a card game called the "Un-Game" which is a great ice breaker as it contains on the cards questions you probably wanted to ask but were afraid to, and it allows people to open up and talk. Next time we have a lame party I will pull out the cards and ask everyone to tell their latest joke.
At least consider it a free food gig. Hey, food not cooked by you and you don't have to wash dishes. Dine and dash, dude!
2007-12-13 03:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am not sure if you can get fired for not attending the xmas party, but I do know that your boss is telling you and your co workers in a not-so-subtle way, that you WILL play along with the company politics on this one. I think if you don't attend, it is obvious that you will be looked at a little closer, and may not be deemed as a "team member", if you will. Best advice? Go to the party. Mingle for an hour, make sure that people who NEED to see your presence there, see you enjoying yourself, and looking like you are one of the team. Office parties may surprise you to, in the way of fun; there is always a scandal that occurs and it usually fun to find out what people REALLY think when they have a few drinks in their system. Happy Holidays!
2007-12-13 03:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes office parties after office hours. I don't know why companies insist on having them. It is a chore. And I think it is ridiculous that the party is given in the first place- can't they think of a better way to spend money? So I am with you on that. That said, I agree with the other posters who tell you to suck it up. Even though you have children who depend on you and therefore a great excuse for not going I am sure there are others who work with you who have legitimage excuses too. You are going to cause resentment if you use your kids to get out of it. Do you think your co-workers are any happier than you about it? Everyone has obligations, not just you. And as for the relative--- isn't that what cabs are for? Sorry to sound harsh but I'm just telling you like it is. No one wants to go and in this economy it is worth it to shell out three hours of your life to do something you don't want to do than end up in the unemployment line...
2016-05-23 09:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never required to go but it always a good idea professionally to go. Most of us hate them but think of the alternative. If you don't go, managers/bosses do tend to take note of it as well as other employees and it could follow you around for a year until the next one. Or you could go for a couple hours (you don't need to stay for the whole thing) and bug out using a number of excuses. If you have a date, say their party is the same night or if you have a kid say the babysitter would only stay so late. Or just use the always great "family in town" excuse.
In your case, it is really rude and intimidating that you must give a reason why you aren't going. Are they going to cut down your bonus if you dont go??!! Make note of it for when you want a promotion??
I would just go for 2 hours and then leave. Just don't tell your president that you aren't staying for the whole thing. He probably won't notice you leave early.
2007-12-13 03:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, no. A Christmas party is a social event, not compulsory. Although if it's happening during working hours, you might be expected to work as usual if you aren't attending. You can always say you have something more important to do, like drive someone to the airport or something. If they fire you over that, you could take them to court for constructive dismissal
2007-12-13 03:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you dont want to go then dont. Christmas is a religious holiday so that event is a religious event. Hey Religious Freedom. And if you get fire take it to the courts!
2007-12-13 03:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Keys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah you don't have to go. just tell him your family is coming into town early. office parties suck!
2007-12-13 03:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥hollyboll♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋