sometimes i get an erection to men sometimes woman im 13 and im not sure what i am or what to do .. i have all these mixed feelings, i would rather cut my hand of than be gay .. i want kids and a family. when i was younger i always went around kissing girls. Im very shy around girls and im not around men. i masturbate to woman and ive done it off to men once just to see if it worked .. then i felt depressed for the week. Help ?
2007-12-13 02:57:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you are too young to be wasting a lot of energy on this.......go with the flow and just accept yourself as however you finally find yourself being.......'tis ok
2007-12-13 02:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cathryn 5 · 2⤊ 6⤋
Hi!
At your age, many boys feel the same as you. Usually they don't want to be gay, but can feel attraction to a boy and are scared of being gay because of this.
Many boys grow out of this phase in their late teens and some even in their twenties and then realise who they are really attracted to. Sometimes, they realise they are gay and just have to accept it.
So maybe you are just going through a phase in your teens that many teens go through.
Anyhow, if in the future you realise that you are only attracted to boys, remember that being gay is not such a bad thing. When you're at school, it's more difficult because all the boys call everything "gay" in a negative sense and as an insult but they never usually mean "gay" in it's real meaning.
Being gay is natural remember just as having red hair, or being a cheerful person or a very moody person.
The problem is that when we grow up, we are surrounded by books and television cartoons that show us that a princess (girl) is rescued bye a prince (boy) then they fall in love and have a family. But people forget about the many gay relations - men falling in love with another man and women with another woman - this is also normal and it has always been the case. And by the time you leave school, most boys grow up and realise that there are many different types of people...including gays and they learn to accept this too!
My point is you don't need to worry. You're not the only boy that masturbates and thinks of other boys....this is part of growing up for all teen boys
Take care :-)
2007-12-13 07:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by craigaio 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mixed feelings are common at your age. You're just discovering yourself sexually and you're going to be very sensitive to any kind of stimulii your imagination can produce. You're turning yourself on because you're playing with yourself and because everything related to sex seems very naughty and forbidden right now. If you see gay sex as more naughty and forbidden than straight sex, then it follows that thinking about gay sex will be a big turn on for you. I have been down this road: I love the fantasy of gay sex, but in reality, I tried it and hated it. I can also relate to the fact that you simply feel more comfortable with other men than with girls: That in itself does not make you gay. Most things will turn you on right now and some of them may disturb you, but your body is just being super-sensitive because of the age you are and things will calm down in due course.
2007-12-13 08:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 13 you are highly confused and the chances are you're bisexual anyway but you could end up gay or straight as I said you're confused and as you said you've got mixed feelings. Now being shy around girls and not guys says nothing, I'm shy around girls and not guys but I'm 100% straight, not a gay thought in me. At the moment you can't possibly say and if you do end up gay or bi it's nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-12-13 06:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lily R 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At 13 you get an erection from anything, even thinking about not getting one. It'll be easier to figure this out in a couple of years when you and your body understand each other better.
2007-12-13 03:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by DW 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi theres nothing to be ashamed of if u are gay/bi- im bi and i like it.
Im 15! i have known i am bi since i was your age! if you need someone to talk to then you can talk to me about it: red.satan@hotmail.co.uk
i prefer boys to girls theres more to do in the relation ship!
Have fun, and be safe whether your gay/bi/straight!
2007-12-14 10:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL youre thirteen, you pretty much will fock a Rock if you wanted to.
Don't be depressed by it, it prolly just the hormones and what not.
just wait till you get 18 or 19 and see. Just don't think about it.
2007-12-13 03:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by A. Roman 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Your only 13 and your body is changing. I wouldnt worry about it. Wait a few more years and then see.
2007-12-13 03:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I got a fool proof test for you
Qu 1 of 1
When you walk would you say
a) it's a stroll
b) it's a mince
c) neither of the above?
If you answered:
a - Straight
b - Gay
c - either Gay or Straight, i can't tell you.
No offence to any gay men out there but sometimes it really is a mince!
2007-12-13 03:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Stop worrying about it.If you are gay or bi sexual it is not a sin or anything to be ashamed of,and you are very young,just wait and see what happens.
2007-12-13 03:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by bella 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You'd rather cut your hand off than be gay? So what happens if you find that men do it for you? You could be bisexual, what would you do then?
2007-12-13 03:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋