A question for feminists?

Question

I have always wondered...If men are so bad, why is it that feminists demolish their feminine qualities in an attempt to take on masculine ones?

You know just what I mean. We dont have to look pretty, we can be sloppy-like men. We dont need to shave-men dont. We can be just as physically strong-as men. We dont need to be sweet loving creatures- men arent.

If men are such terrible creatures, then why do they focus on being less like beautiful sweet women, and more like a MAN.

Perhaps taween, I feel uncomfortable using that other term. For the record, I am pro equal pay, pro choice, (though I havent always been). And I am for fair treatment. I guess I am referring more to the roles of men and women.

Actually I do understand perfectly, I was a feminist at one point. But I became disgusted with it because I felt like a lot was taken to the extreme. And once again, this question is directed to the more extreme feminists, but of course Im not surprised that you got defensive like a lot of women reading this are.

Answer 1

This is true. As a feminist, why do they not embrace their feminine attributes? I love being a woman and it feels great to be feminine. That doesnt mean that some days I am lazy and dont feel like dressing myself up. But I wouldn't want my man not taking care of himself, so why wouldn't I take care of myself? Some of my closest guy friends are married to extreme feminists, and.....they're not happy.

Answer 2

You obviously do not understand feminism.

Feminism doesn't mean that men are bad, just that oppression based on gender is bad. We're big fans of equality. If we go around hating men that's not exactly equality, that's just reversing the situation which isn't going to help anything.

I could recommend some good third-wave feminist authors if you're really interested in finding out what feminism is about on a philosophical level. Third-wave feminism acknowledges that yes, men and women are different...but we can still be equal. And we're not ready to acknowledge traditional roles as inherent differences either, like the incredibly smart woman above me said.

I'm a feminist, and a huge fan of men. In fact, several of my male friends identify themselves as feminists also.

Answer 3

I am going to answer this but I don't have time right now.. I will be back in a bit.


Personally I do not think all men are terrible creatures but I do think a lot of them see women as beneath them. This is what feminism is trying to combat. These men think that a woman must act in certain ways to please them.

"You know just what I mean. We don't have to look pretty, we can be sloppy-like men. We don't need to shave-men don't. We can be just as physically strong-as men. We don't need to be sweet loving creatures- men aren't."
This is not what a feminist is thinking... its more like "I don't feel like putting on makeup today, I don't have time to shave and if a man has a problem with that its his problem not mine"
"I don't want to be dependent on a man to lift heavy things for me so I am going to lift weights and become strong"

Women don't have to take the role of the pretty little innocent girl who is seen and not heard just because a man says so. If she wants to that's her business

Answer 4

Actually, I don't think men or bad. Nor do I emulate them. (Much. I was raised with brothers so some things rubbed off on me.) And I'm pretty feminine when I feel like it.

You're thinking of Femi-nazis. The ones who think men are evil and out to get everyone. Feminists just want to be treated like all other human beings. Same wage-rates, same opportunities, same respect.

Edit: I'm just tired of being treated like a barbie-doll. I'm not particularly nurturing, and I dislike that that makes me somehow less of a woman (and less deserving of respect) in many people's eyes. Because I don't want children, nor do I want to be dependent on a husband. I live in the South, and the gender roles can be stifling to anyone that isn't willing to shut up and fit in.

Answer 5

"why is it that feminists demolish their feminine qualities in an attempt to take on masculine ones? "

Feminism is staunchly against the attribution of masculine and feminine properties to people, objects, etc. So, suggesting that feminists are transferring their aesthetic/mental qualities to those of men is a non-point because of lack of recognition of these preassigned territories.

I think that's a simple answer.

Answer 6

Feminists do not hate men or think that they are bad; we merely promote the idea that women are human beings. Sadly, this concept is too radical for many people.