question about being emotional??

Question

hi ladies,

i'm in my 33rd week of pregnancy,
and last night... i found out my husband was having an affair,
to then later find out, a family member had passed.

i felt like it was all too much and spent the whole day crying on and off, i felt so alone.

today i am trying to relax as much as possible.

i tried to stay strong for my baby, but i just couldn't hold it in any longer.
did i do harm to my baby by this??

Answer 1

I'm so sorry. Bless your heart; that's a lot to swallow at once. You, by all means, have the right to be upset. But yes, the DR's told me that you have to be careful about being too upset while pregnant. Please find someone trustworthy to help you bare your load. I'd personally go to the DR with the truth & see what he / she thinks I should do. These are both deep - rooted pains & they will not likely go away quickly. I'm sure you need someone to help you. In the meantime, I pray God gives you strength for you & your baby. Life is anything but fair.

Answer 2

In my opinion you are probably better off to let some of it go. You have to release stresses somehow and if crying is it then so be it. With my last pregnancy I was crying most of the time. Everything upset me. And part of the reason was because before that particualr pregnancy I had a still born baby and it was very difficult. Anyway what I am trying to say is find a trusted friend or family member to talk to. Stay strong and you can get through this with a little help. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your situation what a fuc king bastard to do that to you, you better be strong for your baby and kick his as s to the curb!!!! And i am so sorry for the passing of your family member, just remember they are in a better place. Putting the stress on your system this late in your pregnancy will most likely not hurt your baby at all... Everything will be alright. Stress and sickness in early preg. can cause different problems such as depression and schizophrenia in a child, but yours will be fine, no worry. Just try to relax so you don't get thrown into labor from all the stressing. I know it is hard to relax when things like this happen, but it will all only make you a stronger person, remember that, and everything happens for a reason. Keep yourself together and be a strong women, you have a child coming into this world that will be your unconditional best friend for the rest of your life, so just think about the future and how much you have to look forward to. Talk to and spend time with your best friends and family that you have close to you to help you through this. Don't be afraid to go to a counselor if necessary... I wish you all the luck, you have my regrets. I feel for you and your situation.

Answer 4

i dont think that you did. It's true the baby can be affected by your stress but i would think it woudl have to be exposed to it for an extended period... more than a day.

Im so sorry for what you're going through right now and i sincerely hope that things will be able to work themselves out for the best.

If you are worried about the state of the baby, make an appointment and inform your doctor what has happened and how you reacted. Im sure the baby is fine but it never hurts to do a routine check up. Better too many questions and checkups than not enough attention paid to the little growing bundle right?

Try to find strength within yourself for the sake of your baby. He or she is who will bring joy to you in this world.

Answer 5

Being under stress is definetly not a good thing for your body and therefore your baby. The best possible thing for your baby is for you to try to be happy, calm, and relaxed. Obviously at a time like this you have to let yourself deal with your emotions as well because avoiding them all wont do the baby any good either, especially if you lose it. Try to relax, talk to friends. Keep yourself busy. Dont hold back from crying, but dont spend the whole day doing it.
Good Luck-

Answer 6

Ugh! My sympathy goes out to you! I'm sorry. That's horrible. I'd be a mess too. It's easier said, then done, but you have to try to be stress free. Just worry about yourself, and the baby. It's hard cooping with something so devastating..but for the health of your baby..you have to be strong! Why are so many pregnant women on here stating questions with their husbands having an affair, is it something in the air? It's just sad! Good Luck to you, and the baby. I hope things will get better for you!

Answer 7

No, you can cry and have feelings and be pregnant at the same time. As a matter of fact if you were to not react to all that is going on in your life, that stress would be worse. Make sure you have plenty of tissues and friends to talk to about what has just happened to you. You could even consider a therapist so that you are sure that you are taking care of your emotions once this baby arrives, you will need extra support. Take good care of yourself, your baby is counting on you.

Answer 8

Crying is good for release of emotions. Remember u don't have control over the universe and your husband is also part of it. But u have power to control one thing in this life and thats u. you can be happy and unaffected by negativities if u can change your perception and your reaction to what bothers you. No matters what worse might happen but don't loose your postivities. Life is a challenge and GOD has given u power to fight it out. So, relax and be positive. Things will start improving from the moment you accept the current situation as a challenge and look for possibilities.

Answer 9

The baby will be okay...you need to relax as much as you can...but being emotional and letting it out is the best thing you can do. I had a similar situation...I found a text message from this girl on my boyfriend's cell phone and then she told me what day they were together and everything. Everything matched. He still says it's not true...then I asked him if he erased her phone number from his phone and he said yes, but today I found it on his contact list. I am down. I feel alone because he is the one who is supposed to be there for me and our baby...and now what? THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HECK THEY CAN DO TO A FAMILY! break it in pieces like if nothing mattered.
I really hope you're okay. If you want to talk my email address is [e-mail] and you can also find me on myspace. I really hope everything goes okay with you guys.

Answer 10

I think the baby is going to be okay. It is only normal to cry after finding out your husband is being a jerk and having an affair and then to find out a family member passed away. You need to find someone and talk to. YOu need some support. I am sorry this is happening to you.