I think it should be hot enough to rekindle the Sun if it ever goes out. What about you?
2007-12-13 02:23:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Well it was hot enough to make me consider marriage to this man. But at this stage in life I'm more interested in a partner that I can relate to, talk with, watch the same movies, read the same books, eat the same types of food... just enjoy being together...
The days of long hot nights of endless sex are over for this old gal! There is a time and a place for everything I guess. My time is gone!
2007-12-13 04:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I believe that no matter what age you or your love interest may be, there must be some kind of chemistry - "heat", as you say. Without some form of physical attraction most relationships would never have even gotten started.
I would not expect it, though, and would not be too put out (arrgh, sorry!) if the sexual aspect of a relationship wasn't "hot enough to rekindle the Sun". There is more to love than sex, and learning to love someone for who they are and not what they can do for you can take a long time.
One of my mantras is "It's not where I'm at, it's where I'm going!" and I try to apply that to my relationship. I try to take it one step at a time, and learn who my beloved is, the unique treasure that she is. Right now she's having a hard time with the pregnancy (our first!) and it's a little bit harder for things to get 'hot and heavy'. Do I love her any less! NO! We're young, and our relationship is still young, and maybe we'll end up married, but we're serious, and that means that there is a depth to this relationship that I have never experienced before in my life.
I cannot begin to explain the difference between the relationship I have with the woman I love and the relationships I have had with my previous love interests. There is no comparison. I hope that someday you can experience that too! We didn't jump into bed, but we didn't dawdle, either... if you take things at a pace that both of you are comfortable with, I think that is the most important thing you can do. Don't rush it, don't force it, let it happen when both of you feel it's okay for it to happen.
My two cents, at least. =)
Saul
2007-12-13 02:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Saul 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My life is full of unrealistic expectations like this one. If I would have waited for heat hot enough to rekindle the sun, I would have missed many years of a close, loving and warm relationship. There are occasional sunspots as well as gray days. C'est la vie!
2007-12-13 04:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wandering In The Wilderness 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I have seen what happens to other couples. Hot hot hot at the beginning and now they can barely hold a conversation. As for my marriage we're still as hot today as we were in the beginning 8 years ago. Makes my friends sick...lol.
2007-12-13 02:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by kiss_of_angel_20 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That "heat" is caused by pheromones...you make the ones that excite her the most, and vice versa. But like anything else, overexposure CAN lead to "getting used" to the object of excitation.
I would rather base a relationship on likes and dislikes and whether we "get along" in the long run. Giddy first love is fine and good, but lasting deeper mellowed love is better.
2007-12-13 03:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well at my age 'hot' means, a flash, turn the heat down, what is that heat pad set on? You have to remember 'hot' dwindles to luke, just like a cup of coffee. More depth is needed and at 55 plus, getting married might be a bad idea when you look at the SS end of it.
2007-12-13 02:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by lilabner 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Anything that hot Wally would only melt before long. No one can keep up that kind of heat. Anything that hot would only be lust not love !!!!! A good marriage is made of a steady warm glow like a pilot light. That way you can turn it up or down as needed !!!!!
2007-12-13 06:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My last and definitely best marriage began as friends. Very cool. Hot would have scared me off. It is quite toasty now. In fact our love life at times exceeds the frequency of my adult children who are in marriages and/or relationships. Yes, we do talk about those things.
2007-12-13 02:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hot enough to realize that it just wouldn't be safe to have any physical contact whatsoever. The mere presence of the two as they walk side-by-side should make people stare in awe or run & hide!
2007-12-13 06:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer a slow simmer and then crank up the heat as time goes along until it reaches boiling point. It does not really work that way though and the flame must be watched very carefully so you don`t get scorched.
2007-12-13 02:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋