I've dealt with anxiety and depression all my life, some times worse than others... I never wanted to accept that I was depressed. My parents had me go to a therapist, but nothing really worked. Anxiety and depression runs in my family... My two younger sisters seem to have it and my parents did as well. I hate seeing therapists, I don't WANT to be upset, worrying and what seems to be sad all the time. Don't get me wrong, I have my happy days... But they seem like they never come. I've taken medication and I hate it, it just makes me sleepy. I'm pregnant and engaged and it's so frustrating to everyone in my life, mostly ME, that I can't just be happy. I have a good life! I'm so sick of living a life like this and I don't know how to change it. I hate listening to people complain about being "depressed and sad all the time" it drives me crazy, so in a way I feel bad posting this. I just wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this and knows any decent ways to deal with it...
2007-12-13 01:46:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The therapists mostly seem to blame it on my father, he was a REALLY angry alcoholic growing up and made all of our lives hell, but I find it hard to blame it all on him.
2007-12-13 01:57:33 · update #1
you should focus on your good points .
you seem to be very smart and you have family who love you. surround yourself with things and people who make you HAPPY... it works for me my kids always have a way of making me feel better you will see...when you have your beautiful baby............
2007-12-13 01:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by tommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right in your comments about your father. I remember some years back complaining to my brother that our parents affected our personalities because they were not the really social types and he made the comment that that was a long time ago and that I had better get on with my life.
Just posting these comments shows that you are taking a step in the right direction for which I applaud you. I feel that giving people medication only delays dealing with these symptoms.
You need to do some self analysis on this and try to see if there is a cause for this in this lifetime.
Depression can be caused by (a) something that happened to you in the past and that you are in a state of denial about(b)you just have a naturally pessimistic character.
In either case you need some immediate relief and the best way of obtaining it is to get involved in activities that help other people. If you are immersed in work you will not have time to feel sorry for yourself. Good luck.
2007-12-13 10:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no therapist but to me the real problem is that you are anxious about everything and that causes the depression.
When I am anxious, and I want things to go just the way I say, I get more anxious because they don't. I find myself getting depressed about it but I stop immediately, since I know what is taking place. I shrug it off and RELAX!
You are pregnant so those pills are not going to help your baby. You'll simply pass on the problem to your unborn child, along with the medicine, which will have detrimental effects on him/her. No baby needs that!
I'm glad you don't want to be upset. Now, you must 'take the bull by the horns' and let it all go. Do it! Relax! You can't imagine how much peace you will begin to feel inside when you refuse to make the world your problem. It does not matter that your sisters and parents seem to have it. You don't have to have it, too. People aren't born to be depressed and anxious all of the time. You all picked it up somewhere and it's time to send it back.
If you are a praying person, then pray and let God give you His peace, the kind the pills and therapy aren't providing.
2007-12-13 10:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is okay to have anxiety and depression problems, millions of us do. I suffer from it, too. Second, please find a new doctor and try new medications. They have made giant leaps forward in the last couple of years. Also, you may need more than just one kind. I am taking 2 prescriptions..and I have never felt like this in my life! I finally, feel like I can breathe. I look at the world around me with open eyes and I love it! Don't misunderstand me...I still have days where I don't feel great...but I can face the world without hiding in my house scared. I am also in therapy for the first time, by my choice! I was in therapy for 10-15 years because mom made me go, but the thing is...if you don't want it...it won't work for you. When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, you will seek help for yourself and be more open to receiving it.
November was a year since I felt like you do right now, and I feel like I have made such progress! I just have to be careful to stay on my medications...cause I will fall off the face of the earth...and I don't want that to happen again! It took too long to climb to this point. Good Luck and God Bless!
Sorry, missed the part about the pregnancy. You need to discuss options with your doctors.
As for your angry alcoholic father...I have one of those too...CPS was called many times and I would lie to protect him. The thing was I wasn't as angry at him as I have been my mom and step-mom for allowing him to do the things he did. They are they ones I blamed and even today still hold some resentment toward (working it out in therapy). I also blamed myself....I must have made him mad! I am so stupid..why didn't I do it the right way? aka...his way. It is ok to be angry! But what are you going to do with the anger? You have to get it out and move on. Harder than it sounds..lol But you have to find a way.
2007-12-13 09:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by rdheadstpchld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are really upset about having to deal with this so long. You are really strong to ask for help. Can i ask you why you did not like your therapist? I can't blame you for not liking medications, they must make you feel horrible, on top of being pregnant. I guess my only suggestion may be something you don't like. Go see a counselor, but make sure you are comfortable with them. They should be someone you feel like you can talk to. The counselor and you should come up with goals and you should be happy with those goals. The most important thing you can do is to do something for yourself. It sounds like you've got a lot of stuff on your plate right now. I hope you find a counselor you are happy with, don't settle for anything you are uncomfortable with. Good luck with your everything.
P.S. The advise by "Whitney" is the worst advise i have ever seen!
2007-12-13 10:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a medical problem, complicated by you environment, especially your child hood years.
There are meds that are effective for some people, but living with the problem without meds is something that a lot of people do.
Diet, exercise and AA have been most therapeutic for me. It took a LONG time to figure that out and if you don't qualify for AA a spiritual program MAY be helpful, like Al Anon.
Good luck.
Peace.
2007-12-13 10:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try finding closure at the root of the problem. We only get one shot at life, so we need to have as much enjoyment as possible out of it. Find someone whose opinion and knowledge you value, who you feel comfortable talking to, and see another person's input on what might be stressing you. Also, focus more on the things that make you happy, or even start trying new things. Maybe if you busy yourself, there won't be as much time to be down. Good luck with everything!
2007-12-13 09:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by breadbreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think you're thinking way too much. Just relax and forget about the fact that you "think" your depressed - By thinking about being depressed you're only making yourself worse. Self pity doesnt help anyone either, the more you indulge in self pity, the worse you are making it for yourself and the people around you. I hope for the sake of your fiance and your unborn child that you can learn to take a step back, breathe and relax because the atmosphere that you are creating is no place for a child. And remember, as i said, its just not yourself your effecting, its everyone around you too. Instead of being occupied with your own problems, start thinking of others. I know this makes sense, and im only 20 years old! Good luck.
2007-12-13 10:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
live life to the fullest think of how happy your going to be with your new baby and husband you cause yourself more anxiety worrying about the way you are you need to accept yourself and really put forth an effort into convincing yourself that your life is not that bad once you are comfortable with yourself everything else will be easier to deal with
2007-12-13 10:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by hyper anxious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happiness is a thought of mind you said you are happy so show it and live it your in control of your life no-one else is live happy and be happy nd the medication maybe take at night so you dont feel the side effects.. just a thought have a happy life yo deserve it
2007-12-13 09:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by b.johne k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never experience that..but there has been times when nothing makes me happy and all i do is be angry and snap at everyone around me...but i would say try writing out ur feeling in a book..i think its therapeutic...in my case i read...alot..and it works
2007-12-13 09:52:26 · answer #11 · answered by lorennys2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋