I was just wondering how many women would allow their husbands to go out with their friends to a strip club.
2007-12-13 01:08:06 · 37 answers · asked by flonightengale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a man that has been to the strip clubs while married to
my late wife , and I will say truthfully and shamefully I looked
upon the women in the clubs lusting for them.
No I did not have an affair but temptation was there .
No one should try to tell their mate what to do or not to do but
if a man or a woman feels the need to gaze upon another
there is something wrong in the relationship.
True Love will rule out and Marriage or commitment to one
person is more than sex honer your commitments.
2007-12-13 01:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right be upset. But maybe he didn't know it would hurt your feelings. I personally hate strip clubs/pornography and I think it's gross when guys participate (or just watch) in it. But you can't control everything he does and I think that giving him an ultimatum of when you would see him again was not a good choice. Explain to him why you didn't like him and if he's not willing to give it up, is it something you can live with or is a deal breaker? At least he told you honestly where he was, because the only thing worse (I think) than going to a strip club is lying about it to your significant other.
2016-05-23 08:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let?!?! What are you his mother?!??! You need to learn the facts of life now!!!
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-13 02:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well... I set it straight with my man that I would not put up with it. If he wanted to go, I would not allow him or not allow him... If he chooses to disrespect me and go anyway... he knows the consequence, I wont be there. For me, it has nothing to do with trust, I trust him with all my heart... but I think that a strip club is for single men and/or women and not for people with a significant other.
2007-12-13 01:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i guess thinking about the question twice, really is somehow very mind-twisting to me. on one hand, id like not to take the risk of letting my bf go to a strip club. on the second hand, if i trust him, why wouldnt i let him go? besides, a strip club isnt the only place where temptations are. so well.. if he knows how to handle the situation himself, and he has more self-control and respect for me than the temptations. il let him go.
2007-12-13 01:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by ~desa~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As I am not an overseer or the owner of my husband I don't see where I have the right to "allow" him to do anything. He is a big boy and can make decisions on his own.
As for strip clubs - I don't have an issue with it. Butts and boobs - you can see that in almost any movie with a rating above PG.
2007-12-13 01:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Susie D 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm dont care if my husband wants to go to a strip club (as long as he doesnt spend a huge amount of money) in va the girls arent even allowed to take their tops off so it's basically girls dancing in bikinis. i trust him enough to know he is not going to do anything stupid that would risk our marriage. so far he's never gone (except for his own bacholar party) but seriously..it would be nice for him to go out with his friends sometime to relax and have fun. we're married, not dead.
2007-12-13 01:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by M J 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah sure, that would be no problem whatsoever. I'd strip him naked, beat his *** with a club and tell him for fun, let's pretend we're inside of a real strip club.
2007-12-13 01:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sure why not.....I would never "not allow" my husband to go out with his friends even if it is a strip club....to me it is just harmless entertainment for a bunch of guys.
2007-12-13 01:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Yeah. My husband has never been! I told him once that I it doesn't bother me if he wants to go and look, but I draw the line at lap dances! =) He still has no interest in going, without me! He told me that he doesn't need to look at other women because he has me to look at. - My sweet man!
2007-12-13 01:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋