How to convince a 17 year old boy to go to school every day?

Answer 1

the motivation starts from day one of his life being consistant, givng him love, communication with him and the parents living there life consistantly in a stable enviroment.
when parents tell there kids that they have to go to school or get a job, this is the worst advice. that is thinking short term a job is not gonna secure him for his future then the cycle of being just someone who works 9-5 that isnt a life, its setting him up for dissapointment. My mom told me the same thing and my brother too well he was always straight AA he got a schlorship too, my brother worked and went to school and he is really successfull now. I quit school due to instabillities in the home when i was young i got a job and when i got older i realized i want to be "someone" in life I wanted to be a general surgeon doctor or a gynecologist but my mom didnt recognize my talents and so it made it hard on me, my mom was struggling to raise 6 kids and i worked to help her but it wasnt my problem it was harder for me i had to go back to school to get the career i desired.
Dont allow your 17 yo to quit school his academics are so important right now and by him being motivated to go to school every day this will ground him for when he does get a career he will not miss work school teaches kids to be consistent to get up and get going everyday and its his responsibility to finish school he is not a adult yet.
try to motivate him, listen to him have him write his goals down and help by giving him the tools to assist him in achieving these goals. you dont want him to resent you for allowing him not to go to school.
I have two boys, my mom raised 5 boys and me but i learned from my moms inconsistent parenting
Plz dont listen to the ones telling you to let him stop school to get a job thats crazy there are ruled and laws and the law says that he has an obligation to go to school and he feels he can get out of school he will think he can just slack with everything, and i can tell you dont want this!
if your son doesnt go to school and make the best of him self then he is gonna depend on you and others for the rest of his life and who doesnt want the best for there kids?

Answer 2

I'm reading these answers and I don't think many of them have children. What happened to communication? It's sad that so many parents of teens have not developed a vocabulary with them as they were growing up. Why isn't he attending school? Is he hanging with the wrong crowd? Talk to him about consequences for his actions. Talk about future plans and if he doesn't have any work with him on some. Help him acheive some goals. If he's set on quitting school then a job and rent are in order.

Answer 3

hes 17, you shouldn't "convince" him to go to school. If he wants to be a screw up his whole life since he dropped out that is his problem. Hes a 17 year old so he should be responsible enough to know the value of education.

Answer 4

Try to find out why he does not want to go. This may be wayyyyyyyyy more than just a case of pure manipulation and laziness.

Dont get upset or raise your voice at all. If you do that you will be feeding into his natural desire to be rebellious and push buttons. Just be very calm and ask probing questions.

If there are legitimate concerns about him not going to school address them. Remember not all kids are cut out for traditional school. Home school at 17 is wayyyyyyyyyy different from home school at 10.......and for someone in his age range home school is not what it used to be back in the day.

If there are no real concerns and he is just being lazy and manipulative. I am in complete agreement with the answer that called for legal intervention. It really does take a village and you alone will not be able to force him to work everyday and pay 25% of the house hold bills if you cant force him to go to school. So you will have to file unruly charges and be extremely persistant with the courts to have him placed on some sort of court ordered monitoring.........ie house arrest, probation, or any list of programs they have for kids who are at risk.

If you allow him or your emotions to control or manipulate you with tears, rants, temper tantrums......or too much of anything..........Then as far as taking legal moves to force him to go to school.......please clean out your basement and prepare to house an adult who is on his way to no where.

Answer 5

Maybe if you cleaned up your grammar skills and acted responsi- you know what, no, not even then. Eleven o-clock is reasonable. Also, joining the army requires training and discipline. If you're planning on even making it out of boot camp, you're going to need to quit complaining about a curfew, and start concentrating on what's important. If you're leaving in fifteen months, are friends (whom you'll probably never see again) really worth all the trouble of making excuses?

Answer 6

You can try bribery, or take him to visit a university to show him what he could be doing in a years time. But Unless HE wants to go then even if you make him go he won't put his all into it and won't achieve his full potential.

If he won't go then it's time he got out there and got a full time job. You don't NEED a degree to get a career, thats rubbish! I don't have one and I'm an Accounts Assistant, training to be an accountant.

Plus he can join the police or services without a degree (if your in the UK, I don't know about the US.)

Basically, you need to find out what he actually wants to do with his life, and go from there. If he's doing something he loves then he'll do well in whatever it is.

Answer 7

Convince? He is a minor child under your care. There is no bargaining here.

This sounds rough, but it's this simple: if he is adult enough to no longer do as he is told, he is adult enough to support himself. Tell him next time he skips, he will find his things in the yard and the locks changed. Follow through. I think you would find he would beg and plead to be let back in, and if you refuse for a time, only to eventually allow him back in on his last chance, the problem will be solved.

Some states hold the parents responsible for truancy. You have to protect yourself as well as your son.

Answer 8

17 years boy he must have complete high school now. Tell him to go out and make money for himself and support the family also

Answer 9

Give him 2 options
School and no bills or Work and bills (to the percentage of he takes up in the house ie. in a family of 4 your son would pay 25% of the bills)

Answer 10

You can't it's that simple. He needs to convince HIMSELF school is important. Your dead in the water fighting this battle with a young man his age.