i have lost the respect of my wife. how to get it back?

Answer 1

When a person loses respect for another, sometimes that respect can't be regained. Since you don't give a hint as to why you've lost her respect, I've got to assume you betrayed your wife by engaging in an affair. Now, you want a magic answer to fix things, so that you don't suffer for your deliberate actions. Sorry, but unless you have a time machine handy, you don't get to change the past. You, just like everybody, must live with your actions. Saying you're sorry, doesn't change your past actions.

Answer 2

You don't say how you lost her respect so it's hard to give you a steadfast answer. Actually, even if you did, it would be hard to give you a steadfast answer. Everyone is different and we all need different things.

The bottom line is this. For a relationship to work, there are ingredients that are absolutely necessary or you have a real problem. Some of these include trust, honesty, chemistry, friendship, ability to communicate and altruistic care.

Something obviously removed her respect (duh, right?). The most common reason is loss of trust and since you don't say what did it between you, I have to go on that premise. Of course, if the reason is you lost her respect through no fault of your own, it is a totally different story altogether. HOWEVER. I don't know if this is the case. So, based on the premise that loss of respect occurred due to misplaced use of trust, I will tell you what I know.

Priority number one will be to regain that trust. This sounds easier than it really is. It takes a lot of work to regain trust once lost (hence don't lie, cheat, steal or you got some headaches coming your way). The only way to regain trust (if it can be regained) involves a lot of work. This is a classic example of "no pain no gain" and with trust, unfortunately, once it's gone, there are no guarantees you will ever get it back. However, once and if you do get trust back, you're on your way, but your job is only partially done. You will have to work to keep it and CONTINUE to work to keep it for the rest of your time together.

My strong advice is that you begin to talk with one another. Really talk. Turn off the television, video game, put down the magazine or newspaper, put the kids to bed (if you have them) and lock up your pets (if you have those). Then, have some serious one-on-one time where she is your priority and no one else. Turn off the phones or set the answering machine, too. Try to recapture what you had when you first met. Then, you keep working at it.

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Good luck and be blessed.

Answer 3

You better be frank and confess your wrong doings seeking her pardon.It's within a family.She is after all your wife and I strongly believe , you do love her.That's the reason why you sought answer to your delicate but a very important question.
You have nothing to lose except that for the moment you will bow down for your own fault.There's no harm in admitting your unbecoming behaviour you had metted out to her.Please forget your ego.Just be honest and get rid f the psychological torture you are having.

You do gain a lot in the process and I am sure she will respect you more than ever before once you admit your fault.

I forgot to mention about one thing.The time is the best healer.That doesn't mean a woman of substance will just forget every bit of your misdeeds.Just confess ......and, very soon she will pardon you and show great respect towards.

Every woman has a forgiving heart .....much more than what a man has.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Respect something which is got only by giving. Try to speak out . Ask her what's the problem?. There was a time when women were dependent on man for their life now it's not case. so it's really hard to make a marriage work without mutual respect , forgiveness and patience.

Every house problems. There cannot be anyone without problems . Try to behave with your wife in the way you want your sister's husband to be to your sister. Then everything will change.

Answer 5

My wife was a virgin as well as I was when we got married. My wife has a lot of self respect and modesty too and I like that in a woman.. As far as trying something new in bed, talk to your husband and ask him if ever thought about trying some new things in bed other then just normal sex and foreplay. Then ask him if he had the chance to try something different what would it be. Your both married now so his respect for you in having self respect shouldn't change because you want to try something different in bed. It's not like you want to bring in another person into the picture, now that would be different. My wife and I talked about this subject and I told her lets both make a list of things that we would be willing to try. And the next night we sat down and went through each others list and put a check by the actions that we would be willing to try. And those were the things that we did through the next few months. It just added spice to our love life!

Answer 6

Just know this may take years to get this back, stop doing what your doing and try to prove your going to change and your worth her staying around also think about her feelings and why she feels that way never ever ever show her your frustrated with her mood swings because when a woman has a reason of losing respect for her husband 9 time out of ten she will get flash backs of what ever you did to lose her respect I pray for you and her. Good Luck

Answer 7

Once respect is lost it is very difficult to get it back. Usually a relationship will fail once respect has been lost.

You can try to discuss it and try to correct whatever you have done to lose her respect, but there is no guarantee that you will regain that respect.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

That depends on what you did or didn't do to lose her respect. For example, my husband has lost my respect for lying to me so much. The only way he'll get it back is by coming clean on EVERYthing and not lying to me anymore.

Answer 9

If she cheated never read other post you will never get over it unless you have more then one kid and been married over 5 years get a divorce and move on! If you do decide to stay if she ever gives you another reason leave and don't ever look back

Answer 10

Ask her if she respect you. If she says no, then you have a whole mess of problems to deal with that you never even knew about.