feel iam being cheated on but dont know how to get him to trip up and say that he is
2007-12-12 21:34:17 · 15 answers · asked by valerie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he denied it for a long time after he moved out, but i found his address on reverse directory and told him i was coming down there to see, and he finally came clean with it, i guess wanting more to protect her, than wanting to protect the marriage. he had a weak moment and i kept after him with my suspicions, till finally he confessed.
2007-12-12 22:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi yes a long time ago with my ex. for me it was his mannerism and as cliche as it might sound he dressed differently where he was conservative he became a little more stylish, hang ups (what makes a man desecrate his home by giving his no. to her)Where we watched certain things on tv he now wanted to watch them with the boys.And the one that really got me was always so eager to go to the store. except for those things I did not trip him up I was not about trying to follow him or anything like that you know in your heart and most women do.He came to me it hurt but at least I was not surprised and it was the best thing he could have done because the man that picked up the pieces I married and have been married a long time when I think something he saids it Sometimes what hurts most turns out to be best for us .Just keep watching him you will know and he will eventually trip himself.
2007-12-13 06:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She told me about it.
Odd thing is I stayed, or at least have done so far (things far from fixed). I think if I had "caught" them I would have walked straight away, as I'd never know what would have happened if I didn't catch them. However, because she came clean without me asking her (or knowing anything about it) I always had a tiny thing to build on - that she stopped it for me.
I sincerely hope you are not being cheated on though, it is one of the most terrible things that can happen to you.
2007-12-13 05:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been cheated on and she confess even by trying to explain herself I did not ok her reasons because if that was the case then I too should have cheated but i never did.......because my love for her blinded me and to the point that I set that aside, but the distruss came in between.........when someone confesses something like this its just that they want to pacify they're conscience a lil,,,,but the damage is done and well i can tell u that it takes a lot of love to oversee a deception like this.....................
2007-12-13 05:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by angel81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check up on him.
Show up at his job with a treat, coffee or whatever. Put a recorder in his car (this is illegal, don't get caught.) And do all the other things you read about to check up on him. Don't tell him anything to let him know you are suspicious, or he will be more careful. Good luck.
2007-12-13 10:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the hoe took a break for a wile but she was hanging out with this dude...So when we were getting things back together one day I was on her phone and txted that guy and was like "when was the first time we had sex" he responded when we were drunk at that holloween party, I was pissed cause that was b4 the break...I was just working in fayetville AK.
2007-12-13 05:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he changed his habits. does he erase his cell phone? Does he volunteer to run errands alone? Does he go out alone often? Have you detected any new smells on his clothing? Have you checked his computer?
Investigate. Either get yourself some spy equipment, hire a detective, or do some following in someone else's vehicle.
2007-12-13 05:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex cheated. I had no idea, and suspected nothing. I found out when her lover informed me they'd been having the affair for more than a year.
2007-12-13 09:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Valerie, if he's cheating, it's either you're not giving him what he wants, or he's just not happy. Either case not your fault.
My wife and I were having sex only once a month. So I started having sex with others. Notice I don't call it cheating, to me it's not.
Now were are getting a divorce. Your husband having sex with others is probably a sign of deeper problems. YOu gain nothing by confronting him or even getting him to admite to it.
2007-12-13 06:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Almost freeee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All guys are jealous so dont try to confuse him with things like that. How about you talk to him dont get angry be patient if he cares he'll tell the truth trust me honest guys cant lie to a nice lady. :)
2007-12-13 05:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I checked his cell phone; saw a suspicious number and called it; a female answered so I said, sorry-wrong number. Told husband I knew what was going on; that I talked to her and he confessed.
2007-12-13 08:23:21 · answer #11 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋