I know alot of you will be thinking this is none of my concern, but i was just wondering what you thought about the whole thing.
A friend of mine who just moved in down the block told me she wants to have a baby, but she feels a bit guilty about it.. Shes been living with her boyfriend for 3 years, and hes got a pretty good job, but they just bought a kinda expensive house, and says they always seem to be living paycheck to paycheck, but thinks that would change if they were having a baby. she said her boyfriend is pretty bad with money sometimes, and goes out to eat alot and tends to buy things they dont need, but she thinks if they were having a baby this would all change.. i think its odd for her to want a baby so badly when shes only 21. i said she should enjoy her freedom awhile..but shes got a point that alot of girls have babies younger than her and do alright. i had my son when i was 18 and were doing ok, but honestly he was not planed and we've had alot of help along the way.
2007-12-12 21:08:33 · 5 answers · asked by donny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your right, it isnt really your concern, its really up to her. if shes made up her mind that she wants to have a baby, she prolly will. i can understand the empty house thing, weve just bought our first house, and it almost feels like the house is lonely, like it misses the busy family that used to live here, if that makes any sense? i dunno. but i do know that if she thinks shes ready to have a baby, its gonna be hard to talk her out of it, especially when her motherly instincts start kicking in :P
2007-12-14 06:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make any choices for her, however you'll attempt to make her detect what she is taking up. You stated plenty of principal matters that might be she isnt considering, so speak to her one on one and inform her that having a child isn't as effortless because it appears. Tell her that you're involved approximately her but when she simply wont difference her brain and its relatively what she's going to do then do just such as you stated and help her. Also, you may also desire to inform her moms and dads approximately this, its critical and as soon as she has a child, there's no turning again :)
2016-09-05 11:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by stripling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a bad idea ofcourse,and will also bring desired results too...but don't u think u will mess the life of the child if ur boyfriend is not convinced with the idea.is it not possible if u get marry 1st n then plan for the baby..so that he couldn't escape from his responsibility too...and will become more concern about money matters.........!!
2007-12-12 21:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by angel tubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but she thinks if they were having a baby this would all change."
Yeah, ah ha.
Why would she think that? Maybe if she tries to get the change made beforehand to see if it actually can change, that way things will already be ready.
2007-12-12 21:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by bestonnet_00 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so that it makes the man feel responsible n sth to b done to check their lavish life............its quite a natural tendancy of most of the women.....of course what she thinks is right to an xtent..cos a bond b/w them would even bcum stronger n warmth of true life can b felt.........its not too young ...but getting married is the prior point.....on the heel of life one need to maintain social status..
2007-12-12 21:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋