It just so happens my birthday falls on New Years Eve. I live an hour an a half away from my hometown but i'm going up there for my birthday. Anyways, I have this friend who doesn't like ANY of my other friends (close friends) for unknown reasons? She really doesn't have any reason's she just doesn't like them. She is one of my bestfriends I love her dearly & we have a lot of fun plans 4 new years that include's just random friends that we've partied/hung out with before. Her personality has some kind of controlling issue to it. I feel as if i'm one of those people she's trying to control. She named off people she didn't want to see on my birthday/new years eve cause she doesnt like them. Well she named off all my other close friends. She won't compromise with me at all. She says "I know its your b-day but it's MY new yrs eve" I feel as if she's being a little selfish and maybe me too. What do you think?!
2007-12-12 19:42:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My daughter has a friend that is just like that. She has very low self-esteem also. I think that she is being selfish, and you will probably have to make a choice as who you are going to spend the evening with. I would stand your ground and enjoy your friends. Your birthday is important and if you want to include everyone you have that right. Anyway, also pray that God will touch her heart and make her realize that she needs to share you. I hope it works out for you.
2007-12-13 12:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your birthday and that's more special than New Years Eve. She is being totally selfish and I cant believe she dictates to you who you can hang out with. Sounds like she has some issues and a control problem. You cant let her get away with it or she will only get worse. Go out with your other friends. She will just have to deal with it. Invite her anyway and if she doesn't go then the loss is hers. Happy Birthday! : )
2007-12-12 19:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Valkyrie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she should compromise a little bit. I know there are always going to be personality clashes, but sometimes you have to give in a little. There is no reason you both can't have a good time together, even if there are people there she doesn't like or get along with. She has to learn to relax and enjoy life even if it can't always be on her terms.
2007-12-13 08:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Paulus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is insecure and doesn't want to share your friendship. But it's time she grew up. It may be HER New years eve. But it's your birthday AND your New years eve. If you allow her to control you then you will end up doing it a lot. And I hate to sound mean, but it will be your fault.
2007-12-12 19:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by OhWell (Kiss my cute furry feet) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your party, and therefore she can cry, if she wants too ;-)
Last time I looked up the meaning: FRIENDS...
Friends don't judge
Friends are there for you, no mater what
Friends don't lead
Friends don't follow
Friends walk beside, one another, as a good friend should
That's what good friends do; Well my do anyhow ;-)
Edit: Happy B-day in advance ;)
2007-12-13 10:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your birthday...she needs to allow you other friends, yes she is being selfish of you and your time. Invite who you want and she can decide weather to come or not. A true friend will be there with you!
2007-12-13 10:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nurse Susie ♥ hugs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends like this in the past, they didn't want to share me with other friends, they are now in my past!! If she truly cares about your friendship then she will at least respect your friends even if she doesn't want to be friends with them!! It is your day as well and you should be able to enjoy it, not just her!!
2007-12-13 06:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ginny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have kids I can't be selfish and as to your friend tell her to grow up its your birthday not hers
2007-12-12 19:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by 1hotmama 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her control who you want to hang out with. It will never end. You tell HER how it's going to be and that's the end of it. You deserve to be with whomever you want on your birthday. Tell her she is welcome to be a part of it or not, it's her choice.
2007-12-13 07:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her ruin your day. She is a very self-centered girl and I don't think she is a real friend. Real friends don't act that way.
2007-12-12 19:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by barbwire 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋