I dont know how to ask this without writing a book. I loved my wife she loved me. We had a good life and then she left after 17 years. Her parents died and she went crazy. She met a guy in California we're in Jersey. I begged her not to do this but she won and i left, leaving her the house the kids ETC. this was almost 7 yrs ago. after about 2 years she wants me back but i had realized i wasnt as happy as i thought with her. I still love her we have three kids getting older and i think she loves me. The thing is Ive met a couple women that i got alone with much better then we ever did so i know soulmates exist. I just cant move on. I feel guilty moving on and being happy and even though i pay a big support + she dont have the life we had together. How do i get rid of that guilt so i can move on? or should i go back to an ok relationship despite all the disaggreements from being two different people? Theres alot more to this but this will have to do...
2007-12-12 19:22:03 · 6 answers · asked by equi_tye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You still have love for her even though it's not the love she wants you to give her. Your subconscience is eating at you because of the layers of love you once had for her. She is the mother of your children that's love in itsself. But it's time that she realize that she made the choice to leave you for someone else and that you need to be free from her misjudgement. Tell her that you will be there for her but not as it was when you all were married.
2007-12-12 20:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was her choice for the divorce at that moment it was no longer your responsibility to see to her happiness. Although you will always feel some thing for her she sounds like some thing you don't really need or want in your life at this stage. You need to remind yourself that the divorce was her idea and that she has to live with her mistakes, you are better off with the new women in your life who make you happier and can provide you with a healthier relationship.
2007-12-13 04:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by the_last_knight_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel guilty for finding happiness. She made a decision for both of you and she has to live with the consequences. She realized that the grass was not greener. She should not have been grazing. I would not go back to her. For what? For her to decide later again that she wants out. She did that once. Do not let her do it again. You deserve better.
2007-12-13 03:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. You can't worry about it because it will drain all of your energy. You have to move on.
Once you have broken up with anyone it's over. I wouldn't go back into a relationship with her. There are a lot of great people out there. Both of you can find the person of your dreams. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-13 03:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by sdn90036 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Realize that what went wrong was her, not you. She burnt her bridges.You children are always yours, living with mom or not. Your children's lives cannot be a yo yo based on when it suits your ex wife to have you around.
2007-12-13 03:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with ur gut, do wat makes u happy....r u happier with or without her? was that 2 yrs torture or liberating? do u love her enough to go back and make it work? do u think it will be better this time or the same? only u can answer these questions...
2007-12-13 03:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋