Ah, where to start..
I started dating an amazing person a while back and we fell in love very fast. We are now engaged and I have NO DOUBT in my head that he is the right person. Well, when we started dating in July of this year, he told me after a while that he had broken up with this woman (Nancy) in Jan (07) but she was now pregnant. Well, from what I've heard of her, she's not easy. (I can give her that) I guess they had sex a few times after the split and un June she came to him with papers from the dr. Well, **** was whited out and it just wasn't ligit looking. So the other day, my fiances sister Laura saw Nancys sister Grace. Well Grace didnt recognize her and Laura asked "So has Nancy had the baby yet?" So we actually know now that she really is pregnant. And were 90% sure its his. Shes not the type of girl to sleep around. Nancy hasnt contacted my fiance in several months. Ijust dont know what to do now..
2007-12-12 19:21:49 · 16 answers · asked by Mary 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just dont know how to feel, bc this baby is much more than likely his.. How would you feel about this? Sometimes I feel angry, sometimes sad, sometimes just apathetic. I know he loves me and he asks me all the time, "Are you going to leave me if this baby is mine." It just hurts bc this is the person I want to have children with and to know hes going to experience that with another woman while engaged to me is just really hard to think about sometimes...
And he didnt cut off all communication when he found she was pregnant. She would fake pregnancies all the time, and then say "oh, my preg tests always come out positive." Yeah, she was pretty immature for being 25. She was terrible to him,and everyone just has something negative to say about her. So, he really is a good guy, when you come to someone with a photocopy of a preg paper and it has white out, they just coulnt work it out, but he has said that if its his he will take full repsonsibility, which I would definitely expect!
2007-12-12 19:29:29 · update #1
Bryan - the answer you left is not why I posted this question. Dont waste my time or yours with stupid answers like that. thanks.
2007-12-12 19:32:42 · update #2
No, he is going to take full respnsibility and see this child as much as possible. He would never abandon a child that is truly his.
And yeah, he is getting the paternity test done.
2007-12-12 19:34:34 · update #3
Roberta - thank you, that makes me feel a little better =)
2007-12-12 19:36:05 · update #4
Yes him and the ex are definitely over. It was before I even met him. So that is not a worry!
2007-12-12 19:38:25 · update #5
Communication lines must be opened up immediately between the three of you. Do not go by any hearsay, Go by facts. I know for a fact that 90 percent is not enough to know she is a Saint. Paternity test should be done immediately upon the child's birth. You need to decide if that's what you want if it is his child. He needs to decide if he want's to be with her for the sake of the child or with you since you are his fiance'.
I repeat....KEEP ALL COMMUNICATION LINES OPEN.
You will be living on a day to day basis for awhile.
Nancy doesn't walk on water either...she to can mess up and have a one night stand. It happens all the time.
Check out more information about the white out....she may be trying to cover the dates of how old the unborn is or the projected pregnancy date was.
Paternity will definetely be conclusive evidence.
If there's love in your relationship, the truth will come forward soon and it will all work out. Please don't forget about the child b/c it is the most important in this whole ordeal. Who wouldn't sacrifice for the love of a child? If you feel you can't treat the child fairly, Walk away b/c that child will be in your fiance's life for a lifetime.
P.S. I hope you find what you are looking for and I've never heard of anyone speaking so highly of their companions ex!
My hat's off to you. You are a true Humanitarian!
2007-12-12 20:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Knowe Nuthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be asking lots of question to my fiance. If I was a women I would want to know what Nancy's intentions are. She might be trying to trap him. Make sure he is over her and that this paper is legal and that Nancy isn't after him. But, on the other hand I hope your fiance does the honorable thing and supports the baby.
2007-12-12 19:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by rickyefa1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is rough. First of all you and your fiance must maintain all honesty trought this whole situation. You must tell each other everything that you know at this point regarding the situation. Second you must get a paternity test ASAP the baby is born. If you know he is the one and you love him with all your heart, the baby is just one more joy that you are going to be a part of as long as you are married to him.
2007-12-12 19:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Roberta B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes my dear the answer to this question is up to you how do you feel if your boy friend has had a baby these things happen what do you want to do about it do you trust your relationship with your boy friend can you stand him going around to see the baby very hard it is easy to say yes i can stand it but can you really your boy friend if he is a man will want to help support that child may want to see it how would you handle that best thing to do is ask your boy friend about it see what he says talk about it like to adults see were you both stand and the feelings of the other girl the relationship is over and both have moved on or have they the choice is yours and yours alone a baby has a strong pulling power over a man good luck Dave
2007-12-12 19:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say a lot has to do with how he acts in this situation. Is he ready to assume his fatherhood responsibilities for this child? In that case, he might be a keeper. If he tries to weasel out of the situation, avoid child support payments, or whatever, maybe he's not the man for you.
2007-12-12 19:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for all the jerk questions. 1. get an attorney
2. dna test 3. find out if she had any other partners 4. talk more about it with your boyfriend, see if he left something out, like times they did it, becuase if you match up the time with how far along she is, it could xclude him completely. 5. usually a girl doesnt bring it out to a guy until after she has the kid, specially if its with legal issues, i think shes just tryin to get hiim back.
2007-12-12 20:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by kaiors23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really the man that you think he is, and he might not be, tell him that he's got a family to care for now. Try to forget him and move forward. I hope that you weren't as "easy" as Nancy turned out to be.
2007-12-12 19:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your finace needs to contact his ex so that if its his kid then he can grasp hold of things before it gets out of hand like child support, vistation and so on. let him make the move and be there for him. it doesnt look like she wants to be a bother because she could have been making your life a living hell so far so cut her a little slack and dont freak out.
Good luck!
2007-12-12 19:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 04:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love and trust each outher so much then its best to ask him out right. relationships are based on trust. so go on just ask him if he loves you and vice verser he will tell you. ask him to ask her if baby is his.if she insists its his ask for a dna test to be sure. good luck. you need to get this resolved.
2007-12-12 19:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by bullybeef46 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋