I think many people who get divorces or cheat on their partner have little self-discipline arising from a very easy, carefree lifestyle. I think most people who stay together have gone through many trials and tribulations but have kept on fighting even though there may have been times when it seemed hopeless.
For example, I know a lot of people who smoke pot, cheat on their partners, do crimes, cheat in school, drink too much, party too much, etc. and I can just tell that they are going to get a divorce later on in life. You can just tell. I can't explain it, but you can just tell. You can just tell that there is no way this undisciplined cheater is going to get married and stay that way until one of them dies. There's just no way.
On the other hand, I know people who have worked really hard in life despite harsh odds. They have grown up in poor environments, had to deal with abuse, struggled in school, etc.
But they end up successful in life because of their drive to succeed.
2007-12-12 18:26:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, I think a great example would be Hollywood celebrities. These guys don't go through any hardships whatsoever. Yet, how many of them remain married with one person forever?
On the other hand, look at illegal immigrants. Most of them will never even mention the word divorce.
2007-12-12 18:39:03 · update #1
Yes, I agree with you.
People who cheat on their spouses, must probably are not yet ready for marriage or should not have married in the first place, or they are just so damn selfish they care nothing for their partner.
Marriage is like a business the more both partners put into it the more reward. But if only one partner is prepared to work at it is is bound to fail. Some spouses take advantage over the other, especially if the one spouse works and the other does not. One tends to forget that the stay at home partner is at home cleaning,cooking and tending to the children, which is a 24 hour job. I know this cause I am a stay at home Mom.
Spouses tend to feel that cause they work all those long hours,provide the monetary for living expenses, that they have the right to go out and have fun, cause all the other spouse is been doing all day is cleaning the house and cooking and laundry etc............they think that is not a job, pretty pathetic thinking.
And on the other hand the spouse that works has a partner that stays at home, takes advantage of them. Sleeping around while the other spouse is working not keep the house clean etc....... that is also such a shame.
Marriage vows are also not taken very seriously, which is just a shame.
2007-12-12 18:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by bokkaroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, my grandparents and my parents are great examples of this. They all toughed it out, changed, grew, compromised, suffered, cried, worried, doubted, feared, faked it, focused, persevered...and ultimately survived and succeeded. It is a rewarding way to live. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. And b/c I witnessed this growing up I am as loyal as a lost pup.
2007-12-12 18:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by shortdaylongnight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you are able to experience together, be it good or bad, brings you closer together. People that have hard times are particularly close, because they had to be there for each other when the chips were down, and no one else cared.
2007-12-12 18:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love has no logic. you can't use observation to explain your assumptions based on past observations. love is the one thing in our live that has no science.
2007-12-12 18:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by The Dertster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋