What was your marriage like one year before you suggested divorce?

Question

1 what profession are you both in?
2 how long did you date prior to marriage?
3 first marriage or ...........?
4 how old were you both when married?
5 how many years married?
6 happily divorced?

Please share your story and write as much as you like.

Thank you.

Fine Print: I will delete insults. I am sure you will understand. This is just a question.

Answer 1

The year before my ex and I decided to divorce was a nightmare. After the birth of my 2 children I began to suffer from post partum depression which took a toll on us both. I had to start on a form of medication shortly before we separated that required me to be hospitalized for a trial period because they were not sure if I was going to have a reaction to it, and once on it I knew just how unhappy I really was. Before that I was upset a lot of the time and never felt anything I did for my (ex) husband was good enough. I cleaned the house and was proud of my efforts and would say "Look what I accomplished today!" and he would respond "But you didn't do 'such and such'." We fought constantly and ultimately I was never happy. After getting out of the hospital I told him that I couldn't be married to him any more. At first he was very angry but then he said he felt a lot of relief because he realized that the marriage had been over for a long time. He had put his hands on me on two occasions and by the time I was on this new medication I knew it was not a relationship I wanted to be in.


1. My husband was in the information technology industry and I was working in insurance when we married but I gave that up to start our family.

2 We dated for almost 3 years before we got married and were engaged for a year.

3 It was both of our first marriage.

4 I was 21 and he was 24

5 We were married 6 years.

6 We are happily divorced. We are great friends now which is fantastic for the kids. I am remarried and he has had a few girlfriends. We spend Christmas together with my parents and my new husband and my ex get along well. He is very supportive of the relationship the kids have with my new husband and encourages them to call him Dad. He is supportive with the relationship the kids have with my step daughter and also with the relationship they have with my new baby son.
We can discuss just about any concerns that we have about the kids with each other if there is something I don't agree with him doing or visa versa and we try to respect the view each of us has.
I am glad that we divorced as strange as that sounds because I think it is just so much healthier for the children than having their parents at each others throats all the time and their mother being miserable.

Answer 2

To begin with I didn't "suggest" a divorce, I didn't ask permission, I went and filed period.

1 what profession are you both in?
Administrative Management

2 how long did you date prior to marriage?
Three years

3 first marriage or ...........?
Only marriage

4 how old were you both when married?
I was 27, he was almost 27

5 how many years married?
Technically 23/emotionally 17

6 happily divorced? Oh yeah!

Answer 3

i did not advise I in simple terms left., besides a million. He became a qualified observed extra healthy at an area timber mill and that i became a homemaker and mom. 2. We dated 3 weeks and lived jointly 3 months till now marrying. 3. First marriage 4. i became 19 and he became 22. 5. married 32 years 6. Nasty divorce, supply up his activity which won't pay maintenance.

Answer 4

One year before we divorced I was nearing a nervous breakdown. I begged to get help, and started counselling, which he joined me in about a month later.
1. He works as an inventory control agent for a used-large parts supplier and I was a stay at home mom of 4.
2. We dated 6 months and lived together for 1 year.
3. First and only marriage for us both- as of now.
4. I was 26 and he was 23.
5. We were married 12 years.
6 We are divorced for 8 years now. We both wish it could have worked out differently but realize we would be in mental institutions now if we had stayed together!

I wanted to nurture and "mother" someone, and he liked to be mothered. We laughed, played and worked side by side- until the kids started arriving- which we both wanted so much! I became mother to them and wanted to be his partner, but the adult role did not fit so well on him. I nagged, he rebelled, we both pulled away and put ourselves in the roles we felt comfortable in. Counselling made me see I needed security and was trying to control the situation to gain this so I learned to change my actions and reactions. And he learned how to pacify me. It took a year, but I couldn't live such a rollercoaster life and didn't feel it was good for our kids.
8 years later we are divorced, friends, co-parent to the best of our abilities and go on about our seperate lives.

Answer 5

My first marriage was a living hell.It lasted 15 months.It was like the enstended version of HELL DATE.(smile).Everything she and I built togather was hers.What's her's was her's and what's mine was her's.It was crazy.She even wanted to call the police on me if I left to go to a singing program in the truck which I was paying for.As a bricklayer my money is very long on big jobs,so I supplied much to the marriage.When I left her she got everything.I was without nothing.It ook me two years to stand on my feet again and baby when I did stand up I stood up tall-do you hear me-?And listen the one I have now,if she wants to act up beyond reasoning I do know how to start over.Listen I didnt go into all that you wanted ,but yet I just gave you a feel of what somemates would put you through.Keep looking up and be blesed

Answer 6

I thought we were great. He swears he was miserable and never loved me.

1. He's a piping draftsman, and at the time, I was working an office job
2. About a year
3. First
4. 23
5. Six and a half
6. As I said, I thought we were doing great. He was certainly SAYING he loved me and was happy, but apparently, he was just kiddin.