My girlfriend and i have sex..but i need sex like every night..no lie...sometimes when she is sleeping i masturbate and i feel bad...but she cant have sex with me every night. We normally have sex once or twice a week..if that...and i cant do that. She gets up early and goes to bed early so she cant satisfy me. Dont get me wrong when we do have sex it is amazing....and we have sex for hours but she is like a drug I cant get enough of her....AM I AN ADDICT?
2007-12-12 17:29:43 · 14 answers · asked by Kristina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's normal and yes your an addict, but that's a healthy addiction. It sounds like she's the one that works odd hours and unfortunately that makes it difficult to have sex as frequently as you want it. What I would recommend doing is do things that would put her in the mood as soon as she gets home. Start working your sexiness ASAP, this will maximize your free time for sex. Also talk to her some time and let her know you feel bad about masturbating and you want more sex. Through talking to her either this will persuade her into giving you more sex, or open up discussions that ease your mind about you masturbating.
2007-12-13 06:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by JONES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>AM I AN ADDICT?
It's not likely that you're an addict. And it's sad that you preface your question with the word "nasty". There is nothing nasty about a woman having a strong sex drive. There's also nothing nasty about masturbation. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make yourself feel good. And there's certainly nothing wrong with wanting to share that good feeling with another person - as often as possible. This all sounds very normal.
Addiction usually involves establishing a relationship with an object or activity that tends to replace your relationships with people. Addicts begin to see other people as objects to be manipulated in order to feed their addiction. There is often a drive to act out more and more in order to produce the same desired effects. There is also the connotation of adverse affects in other areas of the addict's life.
So I suppose if you're so focused on sex that you can't seem to do anything else or that you cannot perform normal life functions (like going to work and eating and sleeping) then maybe you've got a problem.
Simple question for you, could you go to bed earlier - like when your girlfriend goes to bed? Is this about opportunity or is it about the difference in drive? If it's about opportunity, you can be creative and find more times for the two of you to be together. If it's about a difference in drive, that could get kinda frustrating. You could end up feeling resentful over time.
Try to re-think your take on things. Masturbation shouldn't make you feel bad. There's nothing wrong with it. Wanting sex more than your partner wants it shouldn't make you feel bad. There's nothing wrong with that either.
2007-12-13 02:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I dont blame you sex is awesome and needing it everynight is not a crime but it is alot to ask someone who has a once a week sex drive which is still normal. Try to get some more time together, go to bed earlier, and spice it up abit. Do something that will get her involved and interested and be happy with a half hour or an hour. If your going to get her to change her style for you then you have to give alittle to and just make it shorter saving the knockout 2 hour deals for once a week. If that dont work keep self soothing or get a different girlfriend. But try that spice it will work, keep her curious.
2007-12-13 01:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by equi_tye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, honey, you just like is a lot. Some people are at a point in their life where they are just all sorts of crazy for it all the time - and that's OK. And your partner is too busy and stressed and exhausted to be ready to play thay hard - which makes a toy or other masturbation perfectly reasonable. You want her, but you sometimes have to settle for one of the healthy alternatives and that's fair. As long as you are not hitting a point where you are wearing yourself out on the nights you are flying solo and are unable to get to the point when the two of you are together...the sky's the limit. You just love to get it on but you are still a one woman girl, so everythings OK. You can also try going to bed early with her for some fun, then getting up and staying up later on your own if you need to or want to.
2007-12-13 01:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just as I suspected, all the good women are taken or gay. No, you're not an addict. Some people are just more sexual than others, that is all. There is nothing wrong with you. I am the same way--I want a minimum of one hour per night, with at least one 4-6 hour romp. No one has kept up yet, not over the long haul (at first many can, but not after things settle down).
Yeah, I am a guy--don't get caught up in stereotypes, ok?
2007-12-13 02:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are quite normal. Before you allow yourself to go crazy over not getting enough talk with her and see if between the two of you you can make a space or two in the week for more sex. She might need you to be more aggressive. Sex does not have to be in the bed at bedtime, you know.
2007-12-13 08:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad for masturbating. She should be glad that you do if she wants sex less than you. You could even ask her if you can masturbate in front of her sometimes. It might turn her on. I don't think you are an addict though, just horney. You might try massage on her, full body. Work towards your favorite parts of her last but before she falls asleep. You might put her in the mood.
2007-12-13 01:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by michael c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. sounds like a normal sex drive. Don't feel bad about the masturbation. Just don't resort to cheating on her. Just have fun on the weekends when she doesn't get up early or go to bed early.
2007-12-13 01:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jon and Ari P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so....you just have a higher sex drive than your girlfriend. Don't feel bad about masturbating honey, it's totally normal.
2007-12-13 01:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like it... Then again, the whole question is ABOUT sex, but it seems it's something that is on your mind most of the time, and you try to work your other activities and obligations around it.
You might want to talk to a counselor or therapist... Up to you.
2007-12-13 01:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋