How do you detach yourself when you are still in love with your husband and father of your kids.?

Question

I am still in love with my husband he doesnt love me anymore so what do I do now?

Answer 1

you can fix alot of things in life but you can't make someone love you. I'm assuming you tried to work this out. Detach? Its hard when you love someone to tell them to leave when your praying they just give you a hug and say it was a mistake i love you too, but its what you have to do... There is a normal process of emotions that you have to go through. First you'll feel sorry for yourself, this is when you start to over eat or not eat. You feel sick, lonely, depressed, ETC. AFter awhile though you'll start to think how could he do this to you... The more you think of this you'll get angry, then angrier, but thats good because thats when you start to feel better about yourself. If your heavy go work out and lose the weight. Go back to school, start a career, just improve yourself and concentrate on your kids. After awhile your feelings for him will fade maybe they never will completely fade but they'll fade enough to get on with your life. Two important things i can think of right now is dont talk bad about him to your kids in your angry stage, and try to have a constant support group around you when your down. My wife and i first separated years ago my cell phone bill was $1,800.00 the first month and went down from there. I couldn't be alone, but when i got around people i couldn't stay, i was all screwed up but that phone saved me cause i always had someone to talk to, its very important. Especially dont let your kids see you miserable, that will be tough but try your best... Let me know how you do stay in touch if you like!!! its all i can offer, i'd rather be hit by a truck then have my heart hurt again its tough but youll be ok beleive me! Chances are he'll regret it someday too, deeply

Answer 2

Can you fight for what you want or has he moved on to another relationship?
You need to look in the mirror every day and tell yourself it is his loss! You need to know within yourself that he is the one that has changed and you cannot put blame or guilt on yourself. It may be that it hurts him to no longer feel what he should or wants to feel for you for what ever reason that it has happened. Focus on believing in yourself and your positive attributes, on making this a smooth transition for yourself and your children. Do not lose sight of what the kids need as far as dad time and financial support. So much to think about when your heart is bruised and your self esteem is taking a smack. Put the love in a box in your heart, put one foot in front of the other and take baby steps forward into a new life.

Answer 3

Has he said that or have you surmized it? If he has said that the only thing you can do now is to keep the family happy.

Focus on the current set up. Think of the good old times and you'll survive.

If he hasnt said it and you think he doesn't love you, may be you need to have a talk. May be he has repressed his feelings.

Talking it out might help.

Answer 4

Focus your time on work and your kids right now. They are what is important, give them a good life, set a good example for you, love will fall into place as it should, but they should be your biggest focus and passion right now!