What keeps me from falling in love, or having strong fellings from someone? I`m not cold-hearted or a player.
2007-12-12 17:03:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi. I understand your dilemma..I feel the same way but there could be many different reasons for feeling this way. One obvious explanation would be that you just haven't met that "someone" that you can have a connection with enough to fall in love. Another, and this one is what I think is going on with me..I have been in a few very painful relationships and my first "true love" was tragically killed in a motorcycle accident a long time ago. I have had feelings for a couple of people since then but after being hurt by being cheated on, being emotionally and physically abused...sometimes I just feel like I just don't have it in me anymore to have those feelings. I am not saying that I have been a perfect partner and have not made mistakes either..I've done my share and I do not feel sorry for myself. I just feel as if I am "emotionally bankrupt"..so to speak. Also, I take an anti-depressant that really does help me to "not" be depressed, but after losing my mother and having more than one miscarriage around mid-pregnancy,I guess it feels like things just build up and we just don't have anything left to give. I don't know your circumstances, but you might have alot on your mind right now. The more you think about it can lead to you feeling worse about it. I wouldn't worry about it so much...it could be that you simply haven't met the right one for you. If you try to rush it or let it stay on your mind all the time it will only make it seem worse. Just be patient. I wish you the best and hope that you do meet someone that shows you that you do have it in you to love and be in love.
2007-12-13 05:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy*JakeFanClubFounder* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having true feelings means having a larger perspective, allowing 'what is true' into your life without being afraid all the time. The 'shrinking violets' will never feel much besides angst and fear, where other people are involved. Sometimes relief is momentarily felt when things don't work out as tragically as one suspects they will, but overall , its a sad picture, the tiny egocentric awareness of the self-centered ones.
2007-12-13 01:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by jan_l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you do not want to get hurt. So instead of falling in love with people and having strong feelings you hide them so you do not get hurt.
2007-12-13 01:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say fear. Afraid of being rejected. Maybe of being hurt. Maybe the love won't last. There are so many different reasons. But it's always worth the risk.
2007-12-13 01:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean a specific person, she's not your type.
Sucks, but it happens.
If you mean in general, you are growing older and more mature. Moreover, things tend get boring once you done them a few times already, and love is not exception
2007-12-13 01:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hard for peole to fall in love. espeicailly if your young because somepeople don't tell people they care about them. so if you get a chance to fall inlove tell her or you will regret it.
2007-12-13 01:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear
2007-12-13 01:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋