I have been wanting a child for sometime now and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having a family..what do u think?
2007-12-12 16:52:19 · 10 answers · asked by Amanda T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think if you really want a family, you should consider getting married first. A baby is a big step. Maybe you should make sure he's willing to make a lifetime commitment to you before you bring a child into the picture.
2007-12-12 16:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by still waiting 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without being rude, I think NO! I don't want to sound like everyone that has probably said to you that "your too young". Ok - here's my deal - When I was 19 (grad. at 17) I had a great job at a major computer company (Compaq), boyfriend was 23, we thought there was an accident at one point and we both wanted to "keep the accident" and we were excited about it. Turns out there was no accident and I still think about that and am so happy that I didn't have the responsibility of a child when I was just a child myself. I'm 38 now and have an 11 year old daughter. When I had her at almost 27 - I still wasn't sure I was ready!!! A child is a huge, huge, huge commitment and task. I don't want to sound like the "others" and say that you just aren't ready. But, I have to... your just really not ready. It feels like you are - but your not. Let me know if your still with the same boyfriend a year from now. Things will happen. I still remember my first love but we couldn't make it work. We probably could now, and you will think about that alot. Just hold off -
2007-12-12 17:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinroc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a child needs a stable home. I am a year younger then you and I also have a boyfriend and we also want a family. We decided though to wait. Getting married first is the right thing to do. Getting married and having good jobs and having a house. College with a child is extermely hard to do. Its better to wait then to have a baby early. You miss out on things in the future. My advice to you. Is its ok to want a child and talk about it but you should wait till you have all the things listed. You also needed a lot of money for a baby.
2007-12-12 17:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. If you are so committed to starting a family, then you will get married first. It is waaaay too easy for a boyfriend to walk away when things get tough with a pregnant girlfriend, or a baby. And then, you'll be sitting there alone, with a baby at 20 years old, and it will be really hard to do anything you want- such as go to college, go out with friends, buy a house etc etc. Just wait, and have fun while you are young. There is plenty of time to have babies when you are older. You should be going out with friends, going to school , traveling, having fun...... not sitting in the house with a screaming baby.
2007-12-12 17:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you want a baby. If you just want a fashion accessory then get one of thoses silly little dogs. If you want a baby because you want to create a great new human being and you are willing to pretty much put your own life on hold for the next ten years so that you can devote your life to doing that - then go ahead. The marriage thing is another question. There are no guarantees in life married or not, things don't always work out.
2007-12-12 17:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by pirietm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...WAIT. Seriously...take it from someone who knows. It's the idea of a baby right now. If you want to instantly grow up and have the responsibility of your parents, then do it now. But my sincere advice is to wait until you are at least 24-25. Live and have fun now! That is what that age is for!
2007-12-12 17:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by sublime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and happily pregnant. I wouldnt change it for anything!
2007-12-12 17:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy on board [[April 16th]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married... Get a house.... Get a dog... if you can cope with all that then plan the family
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Good luck
2007-12-12 21:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should get married first then try.
2007-12-13 15:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by singer4u1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first, then get pregnant
2007-12-12 17:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋