my husband and I we're doing it last night and he asked me if he could insert my butt. I don't want to do this. but he keeps telling me I have to.. how can i get him to stop asking me about the back door. or should i just give in.
2007-12-12 16:45:24 · 24 answers · asked by judith a. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also do you think his cheating on me b/c man always want to try something new when they have been cheating.
2007-12-12 16:46:31 · update #1
also I Told him onces he go in the back door he is never coming to the front again to scare him.
2007-12-13 06:42:08 · update #2
if you dont want to do it then dont do it..tell him to stop asking you
2007-12-12 16:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by jess 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to try new things is NOT a sign of cheating. Its a sign of trusting you enough to want to explore other sexual pleasures.
As far as anal sex is concerned, if done gently and properly, it can be quite pleasant for the woman. However, if you are not comfortable with it, then you should not have to do it. And he should respect your decision. However, think and ask yourself why you are not comfortable. Religious reason? Well, if thats why I cant debate that and you should absolutly stick up for what you believe. Sanitary issues? Take a showers and clean before hand. More than likely unless you are having diareah, no bowel is gonna come out or anything like that. It might hurt, and I would not suggest starting with actual penile intercourse. Rather start with a finger or slended vibe and work your way up. Doesnt have to all happen the first time. Do it when your comfortable.
Just examine the reasons why you dont want to and explain them thoroughly with him. Again, he should respect you and your decision. IT is not right or fair of him to push you into doing something you dont want to do.
2007-12-12 16:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
There are some things that you should just not agree to ! If he got the idea from watching porn, you never know what he will come up with next time. Believe me its painful and you run the risk of not being able to deliver your babies the correct way in future. Dont give in or you will never be able to give out
2007-12-12 17:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Blach Afrika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal fantasy by a man I think you should turn it around on him and tell him to let you do it to him and see his reaction.
He is not cheating he is being a typical man when it comes to sex men are greedy it is up to the women to decide what she will or will not do.
But trust me if you give into that then it will be something else.
Do what you feel comfortable with.
Good luck
2007-12-13 00:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if a man was cheating the sex wouldn't be there.... also i think if you are willing to try it you should and let that be it but... if you don't want to you can't be forced to do anything and the only nice way to say it is "babe i don't think my body is ever going to be ready for that.. I know you would like to spice things up a bit so how about we do ..... instead" then you can compromise... My friends bf is the same but you just need to be strong if you don't want it..
2007-12-12 16:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you certainly have a right to choose what you are comfortable with and refuse anything you want but I would advise you to not make him feel embarrased about asking or make him feel like you think he is gross for wanting it simply because you may slam a door to open communication about sex shut all together. If he fears a negative reaction he may become no longer open to sex talk at all.
2007-12-12 16:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like we are married to the same guy haha my husband is the same way and to be honest i felt like if i didn't give in to him then we would have more problems so slowly i agreed and even though i don't care for it to much he says it is great cause it is so tight just remember to have a lot of lubercation like vaseline and you need to be totally relaxed and start off small i don't think he is cheating on you he just want's to try something knew and wants it to be with you hope this helps if you need to talk email me good luck hope this isn't to graphic
2007-12-12 16:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think your man needs a rethink about his views on your body.If he fanceys that all well and good but that not mean he should have it. If we had everything we fancied we would have no marriage with all the extra sex. tell him kindly that you not want to do it but would be willing to try things you both comfortable with. failing that ask him how he would like it up the butt
2007-12-12 17:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by signfish 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I hated it and would never do it, but after many attempts one night I got some lubricant and toughed it out and now find it very enjoyable..No way is he going to force you and say you have to! Its your body and if you are not comfortable dont do it! And there is some truth to what you said about him maybe thinking about, watching or doing another woman if this is out of charachter for him.
2007-12-12 17:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by sharp p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from a mans point of view most men would like to try anything.but if you are not comfortable with it you should not do it.on the cheating thing i would have to say hes not, talk to him and explain why your not comfortable with it.i hope things work out for you and good luck.
2007-12-12 20:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by cackofpunts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for your man to want to try new things. My fiance and I love to try new things because it spicens up the sex life. If you're willing to give in, let him try it once but if you don't like it don't do it again. And, if he wants to spicen the sex up there are other ways to do it such as sexual toys, edible panties, you can add fruits & candy.. I mean there's so much you can do with sex.
2007-12-12 17:04:47 · answer #11 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋