Should I be in my friend's wedding if I don't think she should get married?

Question

I love my friend and I think he's a great guy, but I don't they should be getting married right now and now my friend wants me to choose if I want to be in the wedding or not

Answer 1

not if you don't support it. But why not if you say he's such a great guy and all. ?

Answer 2

It is your friends decision!!! You can talk to her all you want but for some reason she really wants to be married. It may not be a good idea for her to tie the knot but she IS an adult and can decide on her own.
You should support your friend. Being in her wedding even though she knows you are against it will show her that she can come to you and trust you if things go bad and she needs a friend.
My brother just got married (not 2 weeks ago) he is 19 and his new wife is 18. they are way too young, and I think his wife was in a hurry to marry so she could get away from her control freak mother. BUT I went to their wedding and helped with the reception. He is my brother and he IS a really good guy and whether or not I agreed with his decision to marry, I was still there to support him

Answer 3

Do it. Being a great friend is wanting your friend to be happy, even if she thinks she is and you may know it's not a good move. If you told her it was a bad idea to get married it wouldn't phase her to change her mind probably. We do what we want to do anyway! Just support her in her wishes, and if you think your opinion matters, say it in a caring way. Just let her know no matter what you are on her side. And if it doesn't work out, she will look back and remember what you did and said...And that you were RIGHT.

Answer 4

Unless there is a major reason why you don't support it, like he's cheating on her, he beats her...etc..that would be different. but as long as you voice the reasons you don't think they should get married, you still need to support her. She's your friend, and I believe that down the road you will regret not being involved in such a special day in her life. Something like a wedding is huge, and she's choosing to ask you to be a part of it, so you should support her, without necessarily supporting her decision. it IS her decision. If you are that strongly opposed to it, it's your choice, but as a friend I feel like you should support her and her wedding.

Answer 5

I think you should. Whether the consequences of the wedding be good or bad, you should always be there for your friend.

This is her choice, and it will be her special day after all.

If you don't think she should get married, then tell her, but respect her decision. Marriage is an important step, so she probably have thought long and hard about it...and if the date is set...well, can't go back now, right? Especially since people have been invited?

Best of luck.

Answer 6

Yes you should. If your friend is happy and wants to get married, then you should be happy for them. If you choose not to be in the wedding, you may lose her as a friend.

Answer 7

Just to note.. Its really expensive& stressful.

This is a so so question.


You might want to talk to your friend about this.
Let him know you'd like to be in the wedding, but at the same time You thik he/she is too young (or whatever your reason(s)
are.

That you have to at least get it off y our chest. You want them to be happy but that you don't want them to make a 'mistake' they may forget.

(The thing is how long have they been together? Do you know if they cheat etc.
if they're right out of H.S. well then I'd say that's a mistake. (its jinx just like getting a tattoo of husband or boyfriend on you...)

All I can say is only you & your heart can truely answer this one hon.

I'd say if they're a good friend & THere for you when you need them & is there to support you. Then just be their for them.

Answer 8

well i think you should tell your friend the truth, and if its a honest friend then the truth wont bother them, if you are a good friend to this person then you need to stop and think that this is the most important day of their life, wouldnt you like to be a part of that!!!! if you do tell this person that you think they shouldnt get married, then maybe they can find a way to make them understand and if they still want you to be in the wedding , then i would do it , so later in life you can look back and fill no regrest!!! rember there is a reason you fill this way, so get it out in the open!!!!!! i wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 9

If you love somebody , you`ve got to support them or be there whenever , especially to this very big events in their lives . Do you think if you don`t attend the wedding it would still be the same for both of you ? I think there would be a certain uneasiness or hesitation , next time , if it is okey for you to confront or be ready to accept what`s ahead then go on .

To combat indifferent ideas , better sort to peaceful and loving ways , anyway it is her life , and it is the duty , between both of you to support each other , I think she will do the same for you too!

Answer 10

If he is your friend you should support him, otherwise if you choose not to be in the wedding then it will more than likely cause a rift and he will stop being your friend. Be happy for him whatever he choses. If the marriage doesn't work it doesn't work, just be there for him...now - in the wedding, and for whatever comes later. Be his friend.

Answer 11

well, if this is what she truley wants, i would try and support her as much as possible, and be in the wedding if she asks. u can talk to her and maybe bring up some of ur points of why its a bad idea without being straight forward and hurting her feelings - she may need to come to realization. but if its whats gonna make her happy, wouldnt u rather her be happy? i am in this same situation with my cousin...whos wedding im gonna be in on aug. in the end its their choice, and if its a mistake...well its how they will learn