ok. im thirteen, i've always been bright, getting As with the occasional B. however, my math teacher gives reallly hard quizzes and tests. i have a D in math, and because of this, i have an In danger of Failing on my progress report. i've already explained the D to my parents, but the IF has made them do the following:
-take away my cell phone
-ground me from all activities(even charity work) for the rest of the semester
im really upset, because i'm not sure this is a fair punishment. i explained the grade, and they knew that the progress report was coming with the grade. if they had done this originally, i would have been fine, but they way they sprung it on me is pretty harsh.
what do you think?
2007-12-12 16:14:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ITS A LITTLE EXTREME BUT I tell my younger brothers when they are close to getting bad grades that you have to study and work extra harder these days because everything is in competition (everyone is competing for something like a good job) etc. you have to have an education in order to survive out here. So if you know you are in danger of failing, I suggest you turn off YOUR computer, crack open you math book and study for a couple of hours. at lunch, study, on the bus, study just keep studying because your teachers and parents only want you to be the best person you can be.
2007-12-12 16:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by T.P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad grades on an interim call for grounding until report cards that come out. The charity work I would not have taken away. My 13 year old daughter does not have a cell phone.
2007-12-12 16:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I tried that approach with our daughter when she encountered difficulty in school and let me tell you it was not worth it. We argued with each other for nearly 3 weeks after we got her grades and grounded her. She ran away from home and was missing for six hours before her friends parents made her come back. She became very depressed and stopped speaking to us except to tell us how much she hated us and wished we were dead. We eventually discovered that she had begun to cut herself with various household items when she was alone. She wound up with a D in the class anyway and our relationship has never been the same. On topp of that she is STILL in therapy for the self injury. Please explain to your parents that punishing you even though you are trying is not going to make the grade better and will just stress you out. Have them actually try and help you and if they can't have them get you a tutor.
2007-12-12 16:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain it again to your parents.
Have your parents talk with you to your teacher about math help and have the teacher show them the rest of your work is fine and that you know the stuff you just have a hard time with test and quizzes.
Yeah, I agree it is a little harsh for them to do all that. Good thing the end of the semester is not to far away, for me atleast, mine ends next thrusday and then I go on x-mas break.
2007-12-12 16:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by RebelPrincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're asking, I assume you are going through the average teenage cycle. It depends on how your Mother is. I, myself, is only a 15 year old girl, and I see you're not getting along well with her. The only reason it seems she doesn't want you to have a boyfriend is because she worries about you. She sees things at a different of view. The only way you could try to convince is to sit down alone with her and talk. The only most likely reason she yells at you is because she worries, and has concern about your safety; another way of saying she loves you. She maybe can't accept the fact that you're growing up, and she still wants to hold you like when you were young. She most likely thinks you are not going to make the right choices. Remember, Mothers are like this in your phase of growing up. Best of luck to you.
2016-05-23 08:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 13 also, she has made straight a's all through school she brought home a progress report on hers with a 67 for math. she explained to me what the problem was , i showed her an online free math tutor, she has since brought her grade up. i did not ground her or punish her i just tell my kids to do their best and that i know what their best is . that is all i expect for them to do in school. but yes i do think that was extreme.
2007-12-12 16:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by wikkedmomma33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya. i feel you, my grades are a lot like yours.. i got a C before... math is really hard. i mean i memorize good and get good grades. but u cant memorize math.. it needs thinking and knowing the rules.
i got a tutor when i got a D but my parents didnt pay for it, i did. i worked for it. and then i realized i dont need a tutor.. i just needed practice. 30 minutes after school practicing math ALONE is good help. i say ALONE because i will train your mind to think for itself and not be too dependent on others unlike in group studies..
ALONE studying is effective it taught me how to read my math book because before i didnt know that there were examples in the book that i keep asking the teacher. not only will it help you but your teacher as well
GOOD LUCK^^
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sorry if my english is bad, it's my second language
2007-12-13 00:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Johan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an overreaction - maybe they are thinking the d is caused by an attitude problem? Try explaining things to them calmly when they are in a reasonable relaxed mood.
Parents can over react sometimes just like kids - it does seem harsh.
2007-12-12 16:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
w/e my mom went all psycho on me this year and said that if i get two B;s i will be in trouble so dont talk to me about extreme
- and yes at the moment i hate my mom, she sucks. and i dont wanna hear it.
2007-12-13 06:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋