My man and I have been living together for 1yr 8 months. As Time has passed I have learned he is very lazy, He gets outta work and lays on the couch does almost nothing. I have to go out everynight and get us something to eat, Keep in mind I work also. I practically had to twist his arm just to get him to take me out for my birthday. But when it's something he wants to do like hang out at friends house or anything that benefits him he'll go out no questions asked. At the same time our world in the bedroom has crashed! I have talked him about these things and he says he'll change but i havent seen anything different. No he doesn't beat on me or call me names. We barely even argue.Although through all this I feel like my love is fading for him. Is it me or is it time for me to move on. Would a break help maybe so we can have time to think? I don't know what to do...HELP PLEASE!
2007-12-12 15:22:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't feel guilty if you feel yourself slipping away. However, so there are no regrets later, it's only fair to let him know that you care about him but you can't help but feel yourself slipping away. If things don't change then you know you did everything you could, if he comprehends the severity of the situation and cares for you then you might notice a difference.
2007-12-12 15:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by laylaredeyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. I was with a guy for about the same amount of time, we were engaged and living together, and he sounds exactly like your boyfriend. Haha, is his name Will? LOL, just kidding.
The only difference was, we started to argue terribly when we realized the love was fading, and once the arguing started, we began to get violent with each other. Not to say that will necessarily happen to you, but if the love's not there, it's not there. And if he's as lazy as you say he is, that is DEFINITELY going to lead to fights. Keeping everything pent up inside is really not a good idea. Leave now.
2007-12-12 15:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you expect anything to change? You are supporting this man. He lays on the couch all day, does nothing around the house, and hangs with his buds whenever he wants. You work, provide meals, etc ...
He's getting what he wants and giving nothing in return.
Why would you stay in this situation? I'm sorry to sound harsh, but you should have more respect for yourself than that. And until you respect yourself, no one else will do it, especially not your man.
2007-12-12 15:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let it be known I'm not happy and I'm seriously thinking about changes to benefit me, since he's definitely doing all the things to benefit himself and not the relationship. So, if he doesn't respond and get into action, then I would be packing my bags and moving on b/4 it's two years. So make a list of your top five must in a relationship and share this with him, if he feels like you don't deserve it then hey...another reason to move on.
2007-12-12 15:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he may be depressed, but unless he is wanting and willing to get help I'd get out of it. It doesn't matter if he doesn't beat you or call you names, he is not a positive influence in your life and will only pull you down. Maybe a break from each other would be good. See how he does on his own without you supporting him. God Bless you.
2007-12-12 15:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by karenhjones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might need to move on, cuz you might enjoy someone with a little more motivation... in the bedroom and out. I would probly leave.
2007-12-12 15:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be honest and tell him life is to short if he cant make u feel like ur wanted then tell him that it would be better to go u need to think about yourself
2007-12-12 15:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by vance c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you get married to him it will only get worse. Time to go!!!
2007-12-13 04:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to divorce
a lazy guy means he is only out for himself
there is no marriage
2007-12-12 15:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No kids go. you didn't see this before you moved in or, were you hoping he would change like all other women do. now look what you have to deal with. please learn from your choices.
2007-12-12 15:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋