...I don't have a problem helping others in need, but, when it comes to needing the help myself its difficult for me to ask!!!
How ---- is it for YOU...
2007-12-12 14:46:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
TO ALL: Thank YOU,
... for the sharing of YOUR thoughts and experiences. We all share a common bond... a willingness to help another.
but, ...to ask for help... we, each have our own reasons ... w00t!!!.. and I am not alone...
So, Thank YOU, one and all for another
very enlightening moment...
2007-12-13 00:17:24 · update #1
I am horrible at asking for help, yet I am the first one to encourage others to do so. And, when I finally get around to asking someone to help, I usually follow it with "but if you can't do it, that's okay." Sheeeeeeesh!
2007-12-12 14:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Wandering In The Wilderness 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, I am the same way as you are. I will help another person out in a heart beat, all they have to do is just ask me.
I have asked for help in the past, people will say I will help you in any way that I can. Then when the time comes, all that said they would help all have some thing else to do. So there for I stopped asking for help all together. But I still help others in a heart beat, even the ones that didn't have time to help me out.
Another thing, if someone ask me to help them do something, I never ask for money nor do I take money for anything that I do. It is really hard to find people now days that will do something to help out other folks that will do it for free. Or worst yet, someone does something for you and then sues you cause they got hurt. If I do something for someone and I get hurt, oh well, I will not sue them.
2007-12-12 15:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asking has always been difficult and accepting not much easier, but because of very close and trusted friends, I'm getting a little bit better at it. Being in a couple medical situations where I couldn't drive, get a meal or even get myself dressed has humbled me enough to put my pride away and deal with letting others help.
Still, it's not an easy thing....and I don't think it ever will be for me!
2007-12-12 15:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by night-owl gracie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am extremely fortunate! I have wonderful friends who look out for me - am disabled and have trouble getting around. My neighbors are great too. I rarely have to ask for help - but when I need it, I will ask for it. No one seems to mind, and in my own way, I am always able to return the favor in some way. For instance right now a friend has his car in the shop, so he is using mine - I rarely drive myself, or go anywhere alone. So am happy to repay some of his kindnesses by letting him utilize my car! I also write business letters for my friends who do not know how to, and teach some of their children English. No charge of course! Just because you are disabled does not mean you are useless. CJ
2007-12-12 16:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tend to be too proud to ask, or too guilty. So, it was and still is hard sometimes to ask.
I have learned that many people feel great when you ask them for help. So, it is a win win situation. The best way is to practice. What is the worst thing that can happen? They say no? Not in most cases.
Keep practicing. Its ok.
2007-12-12 14:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love to help others, but it used to be hard for me to ask for help, until I realized sometimes it's a gift to others to let them help me out too. Then they feel like they can come to me again if they need me, it's a mutual thing. When you look at it this way it makes it much easier to ask. I always say, 'if you don't ask, the answer is definitely no, so you might as well give it a shot. ---Luvs
2007-12-12 15:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to ask for help because I'm a very determined gal & I will exhaust all avenues in order to be able to do things myself. It's a good thing I guess because attempting and/or accomplishing gives me a great sense of satisfaction, knowing that I did it myself. I will be the first one to help others.
2007-12-12 14:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not that hard for me, except, for some reason, in certain situations. Like when I need help with homework from school I have trouble sometimes remembering that other people can help me.
2007-12-12 14:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Redeemed_By_Christ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try asking for help in the mirror then try asking for help. You friend wont say no so dont be afraid of that. Friends always stick together even if it is really something bad
2007-12-12 14:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by colin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ever since i left home at 15 ihad too look after myself...and its become a habit......but today i got a phone call..from a lovely woman who took the time to find me to give me a warm message of support with the problems i am going through at this time...for the first time in my life here was someone who cared it realy cheered me up....i hope that i can do the same for her if ever she needs my support.....she has my loving thanks....and i hope she will always be my friend......thank you............seamanab x
2007-12-12 15:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by seamanab 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋