We love each other and we both really want to keep the baby. Both our parents have kicked us out of home. Are we doing the right thing keeping the baby. However I am doing an apprenticeship at a construction company and Im moving in with my bestfriend.
2007-12-12 14:32:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Is it right to keep this baby both of us havent finished high school
2007-12-12 14:44:31 · update #1
Is it right to keep this baby both of us havent finished high school. My gf is 16
2007-12-12 14:47:03 · update #2
I also wont to mention I come from a rich family and I do have my own inheritence from grandparents
2007-12-12 14:51:25 · update #3
I’m not sure I believe the poster in one of his questions he asks “Do women care if I only want to be a boytoy?” Yet now he is saying that he got his girlfriend whom he loves pregnant. A few hours ago the poster posted about dating a rich spoiled girl who scares off everyone he dates.
2007-12-12 15:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I had my first at 18 and it was the hardest thing I've ever done yet. This is not a toy and trust me they change your life forever. Forget hanging with your friends, movies, cruising around, parties, parks, boating and swimming unless your taking your baby with you to hang out too. Doesn't sound like a lot of fun, but it's reality and if they're not going with you, I hope you have someone you can trust to PROPERLY care for your baby. Many are hurt and sometimes you never hear their cry again, and wish you could. This is HUGE and at 15 I personally don't think you should keep your baby. There are many families that would love to have a baby that can't. Their lives are stable and secure for the future. What do you think your going to do, live with your friend for the next 3 or 4 yrs. not go to school or college. I don't think this family friend is planning on caring for you, and your baby for the next several years. If you decide to keep your baby you better start doing some serious planning now about your future FAMILY, because it's not going to be just YOU anymore, it will be you saying US FOREVER more! Good Luck to you.
2007-12-12 15:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live? Where I live in Ohio it is not legal to throw minors out into the streets. Only the two of you can decide if keeping the baby is right for you. When you have a baby you now come second. The babies needs are first and you must meet them. If you can take care of each other and the baby go ahead. It will be hard but it will work if you try hard enough. Where is she staying? Make sure that she gets prenatal care for her and the baby. It is important.
2007-12-12 16:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I had my son when I was 16. I'm 22 with two kids and another on the way. I go to college. I drive a nice car. I'm married and happy. I will mention that when I was 16, my ex was a deadbeet and I got no help from my family or his. This decison should be about the baby. Not how it will effect your life. Do you want this baby? Could you abort or adopt it out? Ask yourself these questions, that is your answer.
2007-12-12 14:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by dark_angel286473 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be extremely hard to finish school and your apprenticeship with a newborn. But it can be done. However, there are thousands of childless couples who could give your baby a wonderful life. Please think about it. In a few years if you're both still together, you'll have maturity on your side and you can try again. Nothing will ever replace your first baby, but you'll find comfort in the knowledge that your baby has a good home.
2007-12-12 14:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dame Edna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will be the voice of dissent here.
At 15, you are incapable of bringing up a child in an appropriate emotional and financial manner.
#1: Emotional: You are teenagers who have recently been kicked out of your homes. You have unstable relationships with your family, and with each other. A child is an 18 year commitment, and you have not even been alive that long?
#2: Financial: Kids are expensive. I guess you will be able to drain the government for the cash for your child, but at the end of the day, an apprenticeship hardly qualifies as support.
This is not something to be congratulated about. You are probably making the worst mistake of your life at the moment. I have worked with many pregnant teenagers, and these events (early pregnancies) often begin a cycle of poverty and abuse that can last for generations.
Now, this is not to say that you might not be ready, I don't know you. However, remember that there are options available. Abortions and adoption are both reasonable alternatives, though the latter is harder to go through, since many teens do not have the emotional maturity to follow through on the adoption, in my experience at least.
2007-12-12 14:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by Knave75 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Should I run away? What a boy you are! Were you not man enough when you had sex? You can't run away, tell your mother... and she will help you. Your very young, but a baby is such a blessing, and you will love him or her so much! Abortions are murder... and just because it's an inconvenience to YOU you shouldn't murder the life you've made. It's not your decision anyway. Tell you Mom... it will be hard at first, but it will all get better. USE A CONDOM. Your mom won't kill you. If you need to talk to someone, email me. This will all work out... don't run away. You have your whole life ahead of you! This hasn't ruined it...
2016-05-23 07:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can decide what is the right thing for both you and the baby. Perhaps after your gf has the baby, you both might find it easier to put it up for adoption. Or maybe you both will be able to make it, even if life is rough. Only time will tell.
2007-12-12 14:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by TaDaa! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, neither of you is capable of raising a child. Your inheritance is only going to go so far, and that's only AFTER your grandparents die. The best option is to give this baby to a couple who is married and very much able to raise a child.
OKay, I have read those links that other poster posted. 2 days ago you wanted to know if you were sterile. 3 days ago you wanted to know if women cared about you being a male whore(boytoy). I'm thinking this question above is just one of those TROLL questions.
About an hour ago(I think) you asked about your ex scaring everyone off you date. So I'm thinking you get around quite a lot.
2007-12-12 15:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're doing the right thing by standing up for what you believe in. Have you checked with grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc? TECHNICALLY, your parents cannot even kick you out since you're under 16. I would try checking around with family members before leaving your parents' houses--they can't just put you out on the street.
2007-12-12 14:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋