Why do my guy friends ask me if i am happy.?

Question

I am 28 and happily married. I have a couple of guy friends that ask me if I am happy. WHY??? I say yes, and i ask them if they are happy. they say "if you are happy i am happy" what do they mean?

i am a female

Answer 1

Guys are notorious for not being able to make small talk. This is the same question they will ask another guy friend. So you are a girl. And you are a friend. At least they consider you one.
They ask an inane question. Just answer and talk about something else.
There is nothing between the lines.

Answer 2

There are two reasons they might ask,.. One they wish THEY were married and are curious about how things are married vs. single,,.. even if they won't admit they were attached as well,. Or two,. they see something or have seen something in your wife and your relationship that makes them question whether everything is all that you make it out to be.. it could just be concern for you. No one is in any ones marriage and there are always lots of things that go on with married couples that no one knows,, good and bad. Could you be complaining about this not being great at home?/ even in a joking way that might make them wonder? if everything is fine with your marriage,, just sort or reassure your friends that you are happy and let it go at that.

Answer 3

well if your a woman its probably because they think he is a controlling, manipulative, or "abusive" guy most likely. If your a male, its probably because they think your wife is clingy, controlling, needy, and maybe even abusive if she is the 6'5 250lb body building type with hairy legs and pits, a deep voice and a habit of coming home from the gym drunk and hitting you because you ordered pizza when she could have gotten it at work. =(
(Ive been in some rough relationships ok?)

seriously though they probably think your congested by this lifestyle, or have been driven to the point of unhappiness, and are just looking out for your best interests. That is unless you were romantically linked to one in the past in a anakin/ padme sort of way, or a broke back mountain man crush sort of way if youre a dude and in to that sort of thing, then theyre just trying to get you to break up with youre spouse for one of them. or more realistically, they miss you/ your company now that your a married man/ chick and obviously have less time for them. be sure to get away from the spouse this week and hit the bar or bowling alley with them or somethin this week unexpectedly, and dont be afraid to bring the wife/ hubby unless it makes things very wierd. It'll show them that your not in a prison of love, but that love is a pleasant thing and that you have moved on to a new stage in your life but havent forgotten them and those who were there to spot you the 20 bucks for your first lap dance when you were single, or hold the toilet seat for you as you puked back in the days when you were the single one. Its good to be close with your spouse, very close even, but be sure not to neglect the others that care about you, because its always healthy to have short times away from one another, and unfortunately marriages are short these days and freindships are what last forever now it seems.

Answer 4

These are usually words of interest...in the person they are asking the question of! It would seem you have some admirers around you so be very careful. If you were ever to answer in the negative, they'd be all over you like sand in a wet bikini! Their reply sounds noble but it isn't! They're trying to tell you they are interested in you far beyond friendship.

Answer 5

In rare cases, like me, it is genuine concern for you and your well being. They care deeply about you and truely only want you to have the best and be happy.
But most of the time, guys are A**ho*es only thinking about one thing and some way to get that one thing. Especially the forbidden ones, like yourself, married or otherwise involved.
only you know these guy friends and what kind of people they are. so, I told you the two reasons why they would be asking, its up to you to figure out which group they belong in.

Answer 6

They could just be concerned. I mean maybe they think you are unhappy for some reason. The main thing is are you happy? and if so just continue to tell them. Ask them why they think you may be unhappy and go from there.

Answer 7

LOL, because they want into your pants, and if you are not happy, they have a better chance of that happening. Otherwise, they keep asking to see if there's an opening, like you have a "help wanted" sign around your neck.

Answer 8

i do no longer think of it can be a extensive subject in case you asked this guy out. extremely in case you have prevalent him your complete lifestyles. i assume your in simple terms going to would desire to do what you fell such as you will desire to do. It includes right down to you asking your self. Do i elect to possibility this friendship? Or do i elect to confirm if theirs a threat for a relationship different than being buddies? It relies upon on the guy. you have prevalent him your complete lifestyles. flow on how he's reacted to different situations and flow from there. If maximum of them are advantageous then choose for it. If no longer, do no longer. i'm hoping this is going nicely for you. i understand its no longer straight forward, yet you will parent it out quickly.

Answer 9

Maybe they don't view marriage the same way that you do. Maybe the thought of being tied down makes them unhappy. Forget about them. If you're really, truely, happy then so be it.

Answer 10

They are fantasizing about getting into your pants, and looking for ways to seduce you. They are hoping that you would have some complaints about your husband and to win you over by showing sympathy, and then take you to bed.

My wife fell for two such friends a few years ago.