I'm leaving my hubby for a man I met on here. We weren't looking for each other we added each other as contacts & realized how much we had in common (soulmates 1 may say).Well I was honest w/ my hubby (we've been having problems for some time he cheated in the past & something I could never get over) & I told him about this guy & the way I feel. I have never felt so strongly towards someone b4.Well I just told him that I do love him but feel bad for the way I'm being to my hubby.My hubby is extremely hurt by this & it makes me feel bad.Now I got my hubby all sad & now I got the one I do love doubting me.I plan to divorce my hubby & be w/ this man.My hubby & I have kids together & we will always have that connection but I am no longer in love w/ him.No matter what I say it's wrong, no matter what I do it's wrong.My whole family (mom,dad & sis) all hate me.I have never been a selfish person.Everyone elses needs & wants always came b4 mine.
So confirm it people I am evil aren't I??
2007-12-12 14:01:19 · 46 answers · asked by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not a troll people I am dead serious here and I feel like sh*t so thanks!
2007-12-12 14:07:20 · update #1
I have met him! I'm 31. This is the first time in my life I'm thinking about myself and not anyone else.
2007-12-12 14:11:07 · update #2
Love u she santa-lulu
2007-12-12 14:18:33 · update #3
She Santa will get you a Stick for Xmas
and a new girl for the hubby
2007-12-12 14:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much, yes.
You're leaving your husband and putting your family (and your children) through something traumatic over a man you barely know. Considering the circumstances, I seriously doubt this will be a long-term, committed relationship.
I'm not saying you should stay married, that's up to you. But I think you need to be honest with yourself and everyone around you about the reasons you're leaving. It's not because you've fallen in love with another man -- you don't even really know him in a realistic sense. It's that you and your husband are having problems, you probably don't communicate like you used to, and someone came along and was nice, supportive, probably just really sweet to you, and you were drawn in by it because you maybe don't get that much from your spouse anymore.
Now whatever you do is up to you. I think you know what the right thing to do is, and you at least have a general idea that what you're doing is not 100% right. But you don't have a right to get on here and be sad about your family "making you feel bad." You should feel bad. You can no longer honestly say that you aren't a selfish person who thinks of others first.
2007-12-12 14:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What has absolutely amazed me for years - is the power of online relationships. I think relationships formed on line are highly potent. So potent - that I think they can fool a person into a sort of hypnotic state. They are magical .. and can seem so abosultely incredible that it can take a person's breath.
People change over time. When they change, they cannot help what they feel .. who they love, etc. And .. sometimes - other people in their lives, do things to them which makes them change the way they feel about them. This is just life, it just happens.
Don't even consider yourself as being evil. You are not evil.
You are in a predicament.
You say you have met the online guy .. but how much have you actually been with him? What do you know about him for real?
If your family is not already torn up & apart ... I wish you would be absolutely sure of what you are getting into .. and of what you are leaving.
Trust me .. I know that a relationship of this sort can make you think for certain .. that it is the fairytale ... but it can also mimick things which are not reality. And .. I know that another person cannot convince another person that the internet can lull a person into these type of false feelings.
You are having major troubles right now .. but know, without a single doubt .. what you want & what you are getting in to.
Have yourself a "Plan B" ... you may need it.
You are not evil ... don't even listen to that. You may not have made the right choices .. but we all do that.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-12 14:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, In a way, you might be evil. But really think about this first. Is the guy you met on here really as great as he seems? Have you ever met him before? I would go on a few dates with him first to make sure that he is really the guy that you really, really love.
Don't lock up one door in your life just because another door looks better. Look through that doors window first to make sure that that's what you really want.
Is this other guy worth so much that you'll lose the trust of your family just for him?
I would think about this a bit more before you go and ruin your former life. I once read in a book that you should date a guy for six months before you marry him or w/e ur planning on doing.
I understand that you aren't a selfish person, but try to understand how everyone else is feeling before you make this decision. Walk in their shoes for a while...
I'm sorry for what ur going thru... i hope this helped somewhat...good luck!
2007-12-12 14:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by concreteslab3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just can't believe that you're leaving your husband for a man you just met - on the internet? My friend, it's not safe - lots of people hide many things which will come up when you are under a roof. It's not worth the headache, and your kids, they are going to grow up without their dad. Girlfriend, you need a touch from the one above and change the style of living that you're in - turn to God for your needs and answers. By the way, it's not you that is being evil, but your actions are not from God but are evil. There is hope to those who trust God. Jesus saves - let him be your best Christmas present under your tree this Christmas. Love in Christ and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-12 14:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by LaBella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soul mate... the most misused and misunderstood word out there. It's a clever word to attempt to make the person you are cheating on not feel so much like crap. "It's not you...I just found the person who is my soumate...sorry." Please...
Thinking of yourself for once huh? Too bad that time passed once you married and had children... now it is about them too. Maybe evil is not the right word to describe what you are, but you definitely have fallen victim to the internet revolution. My best friend is "involved" with someone 3000 miles away and my father left my mother for one of several women he met online. Temptation is always there... but the internet puts it right at your fingertips every day. You should focus on your family and try to make it work. If it still fails in the end... DO NOT leave him because of this new man. Take time to be single and don't rush into something new just because the opportunity presented itself.
2007-12-12 14:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Guess what if you only knew how many people have done this you would be amazed. Most people would not however speak about this in an open forum, so I give you points for having the guts do it. Your family will get over it, and if they don't so be it they are not in your life. Speaking as a guy if my wife was that unhappy with our relationship I would prefer she left, as opposed to staying and making every body's life miserable. Just remember one thing you have now made you bed and it is yours to lie in.
2007-12-12 14:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by poolman4u03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your evil . I to mint the man of my life on the internet well he fround me . we both fail in love with each other I have been with Mark Jones almost a year now . he is my life my happyness my reason for going on liven.
we both were married at one time but were both no longer married. before he came into my life life was meaningless! to me.I seald the door to my heart! over 15 teen years. this man of mine he has given me life! when I had none.
but evil you are not. and yes it's sad your husband is sad! and it is very painfull" for a man and woman thats married and their marriage has ended. none of us know what each day brings until that day is here before us.
all we can do is take each day as they come. just stay away from your family if their maken you feel the way you do. good luck.
2007-12-12 14:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Evil? No sidetracked, lost confused, maybe. You might just be having a crush. Don't your marriage vows mean anything to you? It sounds like you just got even for what your husband did to you in the past. Let me tell you something. The guy that is doubting you has a right to doubt you after all you are dumping your husband for him so, what makes him think that you won't dump him for someone else? All he is really getting is a cheater. Where do you kids fit into all this. Stop being selfish and self centered. Remember you brought kids into his world and they need to see good morals on your part after all you are their first teacher. Wake up. If your husband is a good provider, a good husband (mostly) a good father, go to marriage counseling to try to save this marriage...
2007-12-12 14:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you have not gotten over your husband cheating on you. I am not agreeing that it was right of him to do that because it wasn't however, it sounds like you want to get back at him. Marriage is a forever deal..."till death do us part." You have kids....your honestly going to separate your children from your family so you can please yourself....I think you should work on your marriage. I am convinced you just like this guy because he is giving you more attention then your husband is now and its the attention you need but it happens in every marriage you just have to wake up and realize you need to change things to make it work. You married your husband for a reason. So go get help. Get a marriage counselor and talk things out. Go on dates...i dont think you leaving him is going to solve anything
2007-12-12 14:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋