Terminating.?

Question

To everyone that knows the case with my daughter...


Well...I'm terminating next week.


I found out today the right side of her heart is failing.
And there's a bunch of problems with the heart.
There is almost NO Tibia bone in her left leg.(The tibia is the bone that supports weight)

I also found out that she has A LOT of Chromosome 7 deleted...and there is no cases out there like mine.
The ones closest to it were SMALL deletions of Chrom. 7 and 100% of those babies had severe problems.

They also told me since shes missing most of the bone in her left leg...Doctors would probably amputate.

They also said there's a very high chance of her being a still birth or dying very soon after birth.

Also found that the big toe on her right foot has 2 bones in it instead of one.

And that's just the stuff they found on the US.
That's the very minimal of what will be wrong with her....


Therefore, I'm terminating next week.
not because it's the "easy way out." but..

because The Lord will be taking her soon enough.
I don't want her to suffer.

Please feel free to give me any calming thoughts.

No rude comments about my decision.

I'm 23 weeks tomorrow.
But my baby is only measuring at about 21 weeks.

By the way...I'm 16.
This just shows you how Much more mature i am for my age.

Answer 1

Dear young lady,
I surely won't comment on your decision but I am not sure this is the proper forum for such a serious subject.
Can you share this information and your feelings with a spiritual guide or a trusted family member or friend?

Answer 2

Chromosome 7, Partial Monosomy 7p is a rare chromosomal disorder characterized by deletion (monosomy) of a portion of the short arm (p) of chromosome 7 (7p). Associated symptoms and findings may be variable and may depend on the specific size and location of the deleted segment of 7p. However, in many cases, there is early closure of the fibrous joints (cranial sutures) between certain bones of the skull (craniosynostosis), resulting in an abnormally shaped head. For example, depending on the specific sutures involved, the forehead may appear unusually "triangular shaped" (trigonocephaly) or the head may seem abnormally long and narrow with the top pointed or conical (turricephaly). Affected infants and children may also have additional malformations of the skull and facial (craniofacial) region. Such abnormalities may include an unusually small head (microcephaly), closely or widely set eyes (ocular hypotelorism or hypertelorism), downslanting eyelid folds (palpebral fissures), and/or other findings.

Partial Monosomy 7p may also be characterized by additional physical features, such as growth deficiency, musculoskeletal abnormalities, genital defects, structural malformations of the heart that are present at birth (congenital heart defects), and/or other abnormalities. In addition, some affected individuals may have varying degrees of mental retardation and delays in the acquisition of skills requiring the coordination of mental and motor activities (psychomotor delays). Normal intelligence has also been reported.

In most cases, Chromosome 7, Partial Monosomy 7p appears to result from spontaneous (de novo) errors very early in embryonic development that occur for unknown reasons.



I was waundering if they found any thing wrong with her face. There is still a chance of no mental retardation manly from what i read chromosome 7 causes bone and heart defects. A friend of mine had been told that her baby had a major heart defect and was asked if she wanted to terminate she went agianst it and when the baby was born it wasnt as serious as it was thought out to be. my baby is measuring small for her gestational age my doctor and many other doctors agree that after 16 weeks you can measure up to 14 days behind and it still be normal growth. It sounds to me like you really love this baby and if i where you i would call a specialist that deals with these kind of problems like you said your doctor doesnt know much about it. I will try to find some specialist numbers and send them to your myspace. please fill free to email me [e-mail] i am so sorry that you have to go through this. i am young and almost 23 weeks pregnant with my first.

Answer 3

Personally, I would keep her. I could never put myself through an abortion because I would always wonder what could have been.
I am pro life, but in this case you aren't doing a bad thing. If you have this baby and she survives, she will go through so much in her life. It will be very rough for her.
I try not to provide religious answers unless I know the person is religious. From what I can tell, you are. I honestly don't think God will punish you for any decision that you make in this case.

I want you to think, though. What is this baby's purpose? Why do you think she was put into your life?

I do wish you the best of luck. I don't think you can make a bad decision.
If you need any help feel free to email me.
[e-mail]
or you can add my myspace if you have one. (just search for my email and you will find it)
Please feel free to contact me if you need any help or support. You will be in my prayers

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your little one have to go through this...I know it's hard to make a good "Mommy" decision but be firm that you are acting in her best intrests. I know how hard it is to lose a little one and that having to make that choice will make it even harder for you. No one can understand the pain and heartache that you are going through now...so never let anyone belittle your decision. If they had to stand in your shoes they might be able to see you are doing the right thing.

I would also get some support from other mothers who have had to make a tough decision like this...it's something that 'regular' people aren't equipped to deal with. Look up Baby Center board called 'Termination for Medical Reasons' and they should be able to give you the support and love you'll be needing just about now...((hugs)) Good luck, my heart goes out to you.

Answer 5

It's a very sad situation and a very difficult decision to make. Unfortunatly there are no real words to help comfort you. Surround yourself with family, good friends, and of course prayer always helps.
I'm so sorry you were faced with suggest a difficult decision. For your next pregnancy if you choose to get pregnant again that is start planning a year early. Pregnancy counseling is always a good way to go. Again i'm very sorry.

Answer 6

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sure you love your daughter, and you are doing what is best for her, which is something only a mother knows. I think I would do the same thing if I were in your position, and you know in your heart that it was selfless love of the child that led you to your decision.

Answer 7

i know there aren't any words that can really console you, and not many of us can say we know what you're going through. just remember that everything happens for a reason and you can turn any situation into a positive one.
i once heard about a couple who lost their baby before birth and they started a foundation to help mothers who were going through similar things as they had gone through and they named it after their unborn child. so, in a way, their baby will live on forever.
this is a very difficult time in your life, possibly the most difficult, and you will only emerge stronger and with a different perspective on life.

Answer 8

I think that that is the right thing to do. It sounds bad i know... But it will be better this way. Instead of bringing your baby in to this world to suffer she will be at peace. I cant imagine trying to defend her from bullys when she grew up.People who dont know about her condition would see her differently and its not fair. She deserves to live a normal life but she wont be able to here. you love her enough to save her from a horrible life. Im sorry and good luck

Answer 9

To be honest, Im a firm believer of terminating instead of prolonging the suffering.

In my personal opinion, I would rather end it than see a loved one suffer knowing that there's nothing that anyone can do to help that person in the first place.

I respect your decision, and Im sorry for what has happened.

Answer 10

i dont know if any words could give you peace....and anyone who says that you're taking the easy way out is crazy....i couldnt imagine having to make such a heartbreaking decision...the only thing i can tell you is that your baby will be in heaven with the lord and in heaven she will be without pain and will be taken care of by our lord.....i'm so sorry this has happened

Answer 11

I understand and no one has the right to judge you, just like no child should be born to suffer. I think you are making the right decision. You have to consider the quality of life she would have if born that way. God bless and comfort you.