Why do some teens complicate their life?

Question

I don't understand it.. Teen years are hard enough as it is, with going through puberty and the change in your body.. but then so many teens make it so much worse for themselves by having unprotected sex, doing drugs, breaking the law...


I just don't understand, why they would want to complicate their lives even more.

I don't mean to make it personal, but your (presbyterian) question kind of made me ask this.. Like I saw you question about your ex boyfriend, its not the first time and you seem to be really upset over him.. There are probably plenty more guys out there that like you and you don't need to get upset over him.. You deserve to be happy.

I don't think it's peer pressure

i am a teen. I'm 18.. I don't know why anyone would want to make more drama for themselves..

Answer 1

finally! someone who understands. Being a teen myself, i would have to say they have nothing better to do in their lives, kids at my school say their lives are pretty boring so they go out and do drugs, i guess it makes them feel excited and open to trying new things even if those things are bad, plus its a way to fit in. I mean, like everyone cares about their reputation and feel they need to put on an act to impress their peers

also another thing is that they take everything for granted. they think "oh im going out to do drugs, it'll be ok, you can get out of the situation later". They think they can handle about anything, they feel superior to the society and feel invincible but when they actually go out and do it, its not easy.

their minds play tricks on all of us, we all need to watch out for that. our clear conscience is saying stuff. hope i helped =)

Answer 2

I don't understand it either. It's not only peer pressure. I think it is the lack of a "moral character" in modern society. They do illegal stuff because they can get away with it. "Oh, they're just teens. They do stuff like that." is what society tells the parents who actually care. So, our society does not condemn those actions. I think they do it to rebel against social norms or something. Ultimately, it doesn't amount to much. A life-changing decision (made trivial by means of abortion) could be made because they are angry with their parents, or because they want to prove something.

Do you know how much sympathy I have for these people? Zero. You got wasted at a party and got pregnant. "Omg!1 Why should I do now?" Don't be stupid. Period. These aren't rash decisions. They are continual. You are invited to a party that you know will have alcohol. You accept. You go to the party. You don't leave. You decide to have alcohol.

Do you see how many chances people actually have to make the right decision? Until society starts cracking down on immature behavior, it will continue. Meanwhile, I will be in the corner, watching other people screw up their lives and not feeling bad at all. Your boss won't if you come to work wasted in the morning. So, wake up people! You are NOT invincible, and you will be put in your rightful place.

Answer 3

It is very complicated. Many teens are just trying to find their way, and in the midst of that they just get caught up in the "fab life" i guess and just go crazy over the little extra freedom they are given by their parents. Many teens are just curious and want to experiment with sex, drugs, etc. Every teenager makes mistakes but the difference between the " good teens" and the "not so good teens" is that you can either let that mistake keep you down, or you can learn from it and move on with your life. Many teens choose to let their mistakes keep them down. (Like choosing to smoke pot. Not only is it illegal but it is bad for them. But do they choose to quit and move on with life. No. Now they more than likely have 20+ years behind bars for their involvement in a killing due to drugs) Sure that is the worse case scenario but it does happen. If teens were not so caught up in what everyone else was doing and led their own lives, then it would not be as complicated.

Answer 4

a lot of people will say peer pressure peer pressure, but really I have a different opinion mainly because our school as well as others have spent most of our lives telling us to say no to people...

I think teens decide to do things such as drugs is they like the feelings they get while doing it and some of them like to be the ones getting in trouble, and yes some peer pressure but that isnt all...

breaking the law would be mostly the teens that do drugs, they get high they go steal they get drunk its still breaking the law

with sex its a bit different I think teens dont even plan they just go and hang with there bf/gf and after a while they kiss then makeout then all that leads to sex, I dont think any peer pressure is involved sometimes, I think it just happens,

this is just my opinion but I really think it isnt all peer pressure its the way kids were raised and the way they want to act.

Answer 5

I don't think there is any single answer but many factors that influence these types of life choices.I do agree that peer pressure is part of it.the desire or need to fit in.I think sometimes it is curiosity or the risk of going after something "dangerous'.I also think that sometimes kids think they will always be able to be in control of what they are doing (be it drugs, drinking, relationships and breaking the law).Some things can escalate out of control very quickly with dire consquences(unplanned pregnancy, drug addictions, criminal record etc.).More often than not I'm sure these young people figure they will never become a statistic because they lack the experience to know or accept they are at risk.Unfortunately, sometimes we have to reach rock bottom to appreciate how good we really have things in life.

Answer 6

I think it's because they think that they will feel better if they have unprotected sex and do drugs and break the law. But all it does is just screw up there lives and make there life a living ****.
They may also want to be noticed or look cool and they find that if they do these things then maybe they will finally get in the spot light and have the "cool" people notice them.

Answer 7

Well I had sex with my bf because he proposed to me and of course I said yes but any ways when I got pregnant he skipped town and like the second guy I had sex with we only had sex 2 so I didn't think there would be any thing to worry about and I wound up pregnant again and hes back in Hawaii and he cant come back yet because hes in the Navy, i did drugs once and that was peer pressure, thats how i broke the laws

Answer 8

When you first get to go out and choose what you do, who to hang with without your parents watching every step, it's like a whole new world has opened up. Some of us jump into it and just go nuts, since no one honestly said "OK, if you you do THIS it'll turn out like THAT..."

Instead some of us either got NO ONE we trusted warning us, or they tried to tell us the way they'd tell a kid so we didn't listen. Threatening a 14 year old that if we smoke pot a lot Santa will give us coal won't really work.

Now if someone had told us "Smoking pot will make you OK with being bored so you won't actually do anything challenging or worthwhile" we might have listened. Or maybe not, but still, we MIGHT have.

So I blame no advice, lousy advice or a mix of the two.

Answer 9

I guess part of being a teenager is alot of drama. But to those whom have said peer pressure is harder now are not corrct! These same peer pressures existed when I was a teenager. Some kids are able to avoid doing what everyone else says or does. And yet others our followers!

Answer 10

Lock them in the basement LOL! Actually there isn't much you can do once a CHILD reachs the age of reason (8yrs). All you can do after that is talk with them and hope they will listen. As parents we have to reach out to our kids at a very young age and discuss the dangers of drugs, sex, and breaking the law. Celebrities are making this job increasingly difficult, with all the smut they put on our television sets. You will NEVER, I repeat NEVER, find a role model on TV. Just talk to your kids and go through their bedrooms, computers, and other stuff to find out what your child is doing! As long as they live under YOUR roof, you have every right in the world to be nosey!!! GOOD LUCK!!!