Sex with my husband can be very painful.?

Question

Ok, so I have been married for a little over five years. In the beginging of our relationship we had sex like crazy and it never hurt but over the past two years it has been pretty painful! It hurts a lot when he goes in and rubbing the "Vaginal walls" and it hurts if he goes in to odeep. Not to be gross. Or changing any positions. It is painful. I just always want it to end. It was never painful before. Now I hate it.

Please help and sorry I am being so specific!

I did see my doctor and we talked about it and even before and after my pap and she said it wasnt too much...but I wasnt sure.

Answer 1

If you’re experiencing pain during or after sex there may be several factors that are contributing to the pain you feel.

For women there are a number of physical conditions that may make sex hurt, including:

* Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
* Endometriosis
* Ovarian cysts
* Interstitial cystitis
* Vaginismus
* Vulvodynia
* Some sexually transmitted diseases
* Urinary infections
* Vaginal dryness
* Physical injury and chronic pain

Firstly I would have recommended that if you experience pain during or after sex that you consult with your doctor or a gynaecologist for further evaluation, however since you already saw your doctor and she didn't say antyhing or seem to find anything, I would recommend you get a second opinion from another doctor to rule out any serious causes.

It took me nearly a year and a half of pain with sex and to find a doctor and gynaecologist who was able to listen to me and after my gyno did a laparoscopy diagnosed me with endometriosis.

Good luck :)

Answer 2

Firstly try more lubrication, both natural (longer foreplay) and supplementary (Easy-Glide, etc.) Do you have period problems as well - heavy, painful, long? Then you may have endometrosis which, when it builds up, can cause pain during sex. Even if this isn't it, a visit to your gyno. is in order here, to make sure there's nothing physically wrong.

****To pbjj I'm married 23 years, have four kids, and we still have sex regularly 2 - 3 times a week, so it doesn't have to finish after a couple of years!

Answer 3

First it might be that you are not relaxed enough. Not enough liquids (being wet) also, try a liquide you can buy in any department store. Dont forget your vagina is able to strech out to deliver a baby, so if there is no inflamation this will be the reason
If it hurts when he gets too deep, it might be that your intestines or bladder are full. Try to have sex after you used the bath room and dont let him have you if you are not really aroused! You've got to be relaxed!
In my case, my uterus has had fallen back. Imagine your uterus like a standing peer, its possible that the "string" it hangs out got loose, this would require surgery to hang the uterus back up. I had to do this.
Hope this helps

Answer 4

It sounds to me like he may be going in just a little too rough or too deep for your comfort? I would advise having him take some intimate coaching from you on what you like while you're making love. Ask him to go slower or not as deep or move yourself to a more comfortable position or pull away slightly, maybe arching your back or something to pull away until you feel better until you can coach him on what to do right for you.

Not to brag or anything of that sort, but my wife believes me to be too large for her and she complains slightly if i get in too deep too fast, but the thing with sex is, it's not how deep you go or how fast that feels good... it's the working together and the pleasing of each other that works to satisfy you both. If you ask him to not go in very deep and concentrate on your satisfaction things should go a lot better for you.

I also have noticed that for my wife it's only the first few inches that she really enjoys anyways, so ask him to try that for a while and see what happens.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Lack of natural lubrication?
Ask him if it seems dry. Try a lube product. If that helps you at least have some direction. Just pick some up at the drug store.
Check with your doctor. Depth shouldn't matter much, there could be something wrong.

Answer 6

r u dry down there? that was my prob. hav u tried lubes? it sounds to me like a sist (spelling?) but since you had a pap, i don't know. did you change birth control, did you once use condoms then stop. i asked about birth cont cause it can sometimes make your "area" swell on the inside and be irritated. hope these shed some light, good luck

Answer 7

you could have less lubrication, due to your age or due to a loss of sexual excitement in the relationship. try taking control and letting the foreplay last until you can't take it anymore. if more lubrication doesn't help, you might have a physical problem. have your doctor check next time you go in.

Answer 8

My suggestion for you is that you have to set your minds first before having your affair, be ready for the encounter and you need a foreplay in your part so that your vagina will extract a seminal fluid that would lubricate the getting in and going out of your husband.

what causes it to hurt you is that maybe your mind is not set to have one sex.

Answer 9

Vaginal Infection
Certain vaginal infections such as vaginal yeast infections and trichomoniasis are often present without noticeable symptoms. However during sexual intercourse, the rubbing motion of the penis against the vagina and genitalia sometimes causes the symptoms of these vaginal infections to intensify causing stinging and burning. Genital herpes sores are another frequent cause of pain during sex.

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Vaginal Irritation
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These include:
Any contraceptive foams, creams, or jellies
Allergic reactions to condoms, diaphragms, or latex gloves
Vaginal deodorant sprays
Scented tampons
Deodorant soaps
Laundry detergents in sensitive individuals
Excessive vaginal douching
Vaginal Dryness
Normal vaginal lubrication is a given for most women; however, during certain times the vagina may be dry and make vaginal penetration painful. Lack of vaginal lubrication can be caused by several factors including:
Trying to achieve vaginal penetration to fast before enough stimulation has occurred to allow normal vaginal lubrication to take place;
Feeling nervous or tense about the sexual experience can slow down the release of vaginal lubrication;
Using a condom may make vaginal intercourse difficult without the addition of a vaginal lubricant such as AstroGlide, K-Y Jelly, and other products. Saliva is an acceptable for vaginal lubrication; however, never use a petroleum-based product such as Vaseline (petroleum products can cause deterioration of condoms and also may create a breeding ground for vaginal infections)
Hormonal imbalance during menopause or the years preceding menopause can cause vaginal dryness, as can hormonal imbalance following childbirth. This hormonal imbalance is caused by a decrease in normal estrogen levels which can cause the walls of the vagina to become dry. Women experiencing vaginal dryness for these reasons should use one of the vaginal lubrication methods listed above. Women in menopause with severe vaginal dryness should talk to their health care provider about a prescribed estrogen cream to be used vaginally.
See: Before You Buy Vaginal Lubricants
Vaginal Tightness
Occasionally this happens when you feel tense, or are not fully relaxed when penetration occurs. Difficulty penetrating a tight vagina can happen even when vaginal lubrication is not a problem. Often, the first few times you engage in sexual intercourse, the vagina may be tight due to an unstretched hymen and cause pain at the time of penetration.

Sometimes a more severe condition called vaginismus is responsible for vaginal tightness; women with vaginismus experience strong, involuntary muscle spasms of the vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse or vaginal penetration by any object including fingers and tampons.
Pain of the Clitoris
The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female genitalia. Gentle touching or rubbing of the clitoris is extremely pleasurable for some women, while for others it is unbearably painful. Clitoral pain may also occur due to poor hygiene; vaginal secretions may collect under the clitoral hood and if not carefully washed away may lead to pain.
See: The Clitoral Truth
Pelvic Pain
Occasionally a women will experience pelvic pain upon deep, thrusting penetration. Many conditions may cause this pain including:
Tears in the ligaments that support the uterus (causes include problems during childbirth, inappropriately performed abortion, previous violent sexual intercourse or rape)
Cervical, uterine, or tubal infections such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
Pelvic adhesions (often the result of previous pelvic surgery or PID)
Endometriosis
Ovarian cysts
Uterine Fibroid Tumors
See: Pelvic Pain
Vulvodynia

Answer 10

You need to buy you some good quality lubricant.

I had the same EXACT same problem..anyway..lubricant and more foreplay in the beginning solved that problem.