My b/f wants to name baby after his mom if baby ends up being a girl?

Question

But I REALLY dont like the name (no offense to anyone). His mom died about ten years ago. I told him if baby ends up being a girl I dont have a problem with baby's middle name being Cynthia. I just dont want or like it as the first name, I've never liked it. What should I do or say? We find out the gender of baby on Christmas Eve at 11am. Thanks!

I like Hailey, Hannah, Madison, Mackenzie, Alexis, Faith, Madelyn, Heidi, Brooke, Whitney, Juliana, Caitlyn, Alyssa, Candace, Meredith & Marissa..

Answer 1

Well... wait, and if the baby isn't a girl, then you won't have to worry!

And if the baby is a girl, wait until after Christmas, and then say very casually:

Honey, I really love these names for a girl and they go so well with Cynthia as a middle name.
Nicole Cynthia
Gabrielle Cynthia
Madison Cynthia
etc... (whatever names you like.)

I am sure he will be fine with his mother's name as a middle name, because it still honors her that way. Good luck!

Answer 2

Tactfully explain to him that the sentiment is a lovely one, and definitely something you support 100%, but that you'd prefer it be a middle name.

If you're comfortable admitting that it simply isn't your style for a first name, by all means be completely honest. After all, this isn't simply a selfish withholding on your part. You need to be absolutely comfortable with the name you will be calling your own child on a daily basis. And if you don't feel you can be with Cynthia -- but still want to honor a wonderful woman -- it makes complete sense to use it as a middle name. Totally understandable.

If you're afraid that might be too blunt, however, you might cushion the blow a bit by pointing out that you wouldn't feel quite right calling your daughter by the same exact name as his deceased mother. Further mention that you wouldn't want what you intend to be an honor to cause any discomfort or even pain for other members of the family, either. After all, even though he is obviously all for it, that doesn't mean his siblings, father or grandparents (whomever applies) would be equally happy calling your child by that same name. It might be too painful for them, and even cause some friction within the family (I've seen it happen).

Using it as a middle name easily avoids those issues. So be nice about it, but definitely make your feelings known. Good luck, by the way! ;)

Answer 3

I think using his mother's name as a middle name is a great compromise. Using the name honors his mother, but you don't have to use a first name you'll hate having to call your child every day.

You could also use a name that sounds similar as a first name as a compromise:

Lucinda
Jacintha
Iantha

Answer 4

You aren't married to this dude, you have no assurance that he'll support your baby once he loses interest in you... anything you can do to tighten his bond to her is an investment in her future security.
Visit a lawyer, name the baby for the b/f's mother, and while he's still happy about that, get him to sign some legal promises to his daughter.
ps - Cynthia is a fine name, she could have a nickname like Cindy or Cecy or Thia.

Answer 5

Its your baby too and I think you should have a say and if you dont like it dont do it. Its fair to use it as a middle name. Most Cynthia's I have met have been bittys lol.

Answer 6

WOuld you and he be open to giving her the name Cynthia, but calling her by her middle name, if he really wants to name her that, and if he won't go along with giving her Cynthia as a middle name?

Answer 7

Wait and see
I went to babynameworld.com, did a quick search, girl names that contain cind, here are a few I found. How about her middle name?
Alcinda-Light
Jacinda-hyacinth
jocinda-hyacinth
Lucinda/Lucinde-light
Do you like these better?
I like Jocinda better than Cynthia

Best of luck
My mom name was Julia Elizabeth, went by betty
I wanted to call my daughter Elizabeth, call her Betsy, my husband veto it. My mom died when I was ten
My sister daughter is julia, my and my brother daughters middle names are elizabeth

Try to find a way
If her middle name is better, maybe her middle Cynthia

Best of luck

Answer 8

he is your boyfriend ,not your husband!!! doesn't anyone get married anymore!!!!!!
if you do not like the name do not use it!!!
chances are you will raise this kid alone so give her a decent name that you like.do not put his name on the birth certificate.if he will not marry you then he should not be giving his last name to the kid if he will not give it to you!!!!it is sad that so many people are playing family without the benefit or commitment of a legal marriage!!!!good luck to you and your baby!!!!

Answer 9

I think until you have been through what he has been through you can't understand his reasoning or the importance of this name to him..the name it's self might not be so cute but if it is important to him, I think you should respect his decision and his reasoning for making it! I you absolutely can't stand for the name to be final....talk to him about possibly finding a name with the same meaning of his mom's name....babynames.com works great...just search by meaning

Answer 10

Point out that his mother has had a say in his birth and you feel that you should have the say in this one. He does not have to carry it for term, put up with the weight gain, the hot flashes, the waddling around or having to have a "tow truck" get you out of bed in the last trimester. He won't have the labor pains, the birth pains, the episiotomy, or post mensteral problems. He dosen't have to put up with the mood swings-he can just slam the door and walk out leaving you to cry yourself to sleep. All he did was wiggle and grunt to do his share. You deserve the right to name your baby.

In my opinion, if he were any kind of a man he would be your HUSBAND and not your BOY FRIEND.